Guo Jingjing once gave a speech on the theme of "As long as you can stabilize your core, you can live calmly and strongly" at brand activities.
She spoke about her feelings as an athlete, a mother and a social welfare person, which resonated with the audience.
People like Guo Jingjing.
In addition to her brilliant achievements as an athlete, she was even more surprised that she was able to run her family well.
She said:
Family is at the heart of her at this stage.
In the face of the construction of the family, what she did was to isolate the noise from the outside world, manage herself, and be herself.
Calm down and stay focused
Maupassant once said:
If people can be firm in what they think in their hearts, do not compare, do not blindly follow, do not be influenced by others, and live their own lives with one mind, they will be much happier.
Only with a calm heart can we not be confused by big things and disturbed by small things in life.
There is a highly praised short film "Mute" on the Internet, which shows family life and pokes into the hearts of netizens.
In the film, she went to work a few months after giving birth, worked overtime at night, and went home and the child slept.
The aunt complained that she was delaying her from work.
Seeing toys all over the floor, tables full of leftovers, dishes and chopsticks, a sink full of pots and pans, and piles of dirty clothes in the bathroom made her a little devastated.
She didn't rest for a moment, and hurriedly did the housework lightly.
My husband came back from work, said he had work to do, and then sat on the couch and looked at his phone.
When she was cooking noodles for her husband, he knocked over her freshly expressed milk on the table.
She hurried over again to clean up.
looked at her husband, who was making a mess if he didn't help, and called with a smile at the door.
She couldn't hold back, snatched the phone and fell to the ground.
The husband is angry, she is desperate.
My husband felt very aggrieved.
The project he was responsible for was canceled, and he was anxious as he watched his dwindling deposit balance.
A friend introduced the customer to him, and asked him to watch the customer's company video at night, come up with a plan, and give it to the customer at the meeting tomorrow.
My husband started as soon as he came home, but he was misunderstood as lazy;
Pick up empty bottles under the table and accidentally knock over milk;
Talking to a friend about a customer, my wife dropped her phone.
She sat on the toilet and cried, her husband sat on the bed and got angry, they wanted to blame each other, but they held back.
Slowly, the two calmed down, thought of each other's goodness, and then sent each other pictures to make each other happy.
The husband took out the cream that his wife had planted for a long time and wished her a happy Qixi Festival, and they were reconciled.
Two people are getting married because of love, but there are endless housework and trivial matters in the marriage.
If you are unwilling and complaining, life will only go by.
Only by calming the heart, understanding more, and being more tolerant can we make life more happy.
Yang Zhen said:
The best feng shui for a home is to smell the fragrance of books, hear quiet, and see calm.
When the heart is calm, the home will be safe, and life will be beautiful.
Stabilize your mind and grasp the balance
In the book "The Power of Quietness", it is written:
It's not our experiences that really shape us, it's how we react to them.
Life is very long, and it is inevitable that there will be all kinds of problems in life, but the important thing is to have a stable heart, not to panic, and not to deal with things.
In the variety show "Love's Spiritual Trip", Zhu Dan said that the most valuable thing about Zhou Zhouwei is emotional stability, just like the Dinghai Shenshen needle at home.
Zhu Dan is a person with more mood swings, and when she is in a bad mood, Zhou Yiwei will unload her emotions next to her and let her stabilize.
In the early years of variety shows, Zhu Dan talked about getting along with Zhou Yiwei, and her way of expression made the audience think that Zhu Dan was very humble in marriage.
This time, the two participated in the show together, and the audience suddenly realized that Zhou Zhou almost collapsed on Zhu Dan's mouth.
In the face of everyone's misunderstanding, Zhou Yiwei was always silent.
When asked why he didn't explain, Zhou Yiwei said:
"If you're praised or ignored, aren't you not you?
I don't have time to explain that we influence the people and things that we can influence, and the things that people don't approve of, we don't compete."
Seeing that they get along well and have a good relationship, the PD asks them for advice on how not to quarrel between couples.
PD said that after three years of marriage, he always quarreled because of such trivial things as the socks were not washed and the toilet seat was not covered, and his wife asked him to do these small things.
Zhou Yiwei was surprised and said to do it.
PD says:
"But the next time I forgot about it, she'll talk about it again. ”
Zhou Yiwei said:
"Then get the next thing done.
The way to make a thing finally solve is to solve one specific problem after another. ”
Zhou Zhouwei is stable in his heart, no matter what happens, he will understand and tolerate each other.
Don't judge in the unexpected world, focus on yourself, focus on being yourself, accept everything that can't be changed, and change everything that can be changed.
With such a mentality, the heart will inevitably be calm and stable, the mood will be naturally open-minded and cheerful, and in the face of all kinds of wars and chaos, you can also be calm and live a peaceful life.
Work together and grow together
Yang Zhen once said:
The best marriage is not that you are responsible for earning money to support the family, and I am responsible for being beautiful like a flower, but that we work together, and I am not bad if you are good.
Only when two people work together and work together can they go long and live happily.
I've seen an experiment with co-frequency resonance.
The experimenter arranged 32 metronomes in a square array, and had all the metronomes shake randomly in different directions.
At first, the metronome wobbly and disorganized, and after a minute and a half, most of the metronomes sway in one direction.
After two and a half minutes, all the metronomes shook in one direction, like the soldiers of the parade phalanx, in unison.
If you want the family to prosper and become more prosperous, two people must be able to resonate at the same frequency.
One person is improving, the other refuses to change, and the two will eventually go their separate ways.
Zhang Rumei and Sun Jianye in the TV series "Ordinary Road" started from scratch and made the company bigger and bigger.
After the company was on the right track, Zhang Rumei returned to the family, took care of the children, and provided for Sun Jianye's parents to die.
Sun Jianye is enterprising and wants to make the company bigger and stronger.
Zhang Rumei felt that the money was enough to spend, and she hoped that Sun Jianye would spend more time with her.
When the company's capital chain was broken, the team was dug up, and Sun Jianye was anxious, Zhang Rumei said that she had a very low desire for materialism, and now that she has everything, it is better to close the company.
Zhang Rumei said once, Sun Jianye was angry once, what he needed was encouragement, support, and help.
In the end, Sun Jianye didn't want to go home, didn't want to listen to her, and filed for divorce.
Zhang Rumei never understood why Sun Jianye wanted to divorce.
They started out at the same frequency and had the same goal, but then they went farther and farther, and they couldn't give the other party they wanted, so they could only divorce.
The two of them, you don't understand my situation, I don't understand your needs, one keeps improving, the other stands still, and in the end they can't live together.
The best relationship is not endless demands and blind giving, but growing together, nourishing each other, and achieving each other.
The business of a family requires working together, making plans for the known, preparing for the unknown, and two people working hand in hand and walking side by side.
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Lenny Says:
A happy family is like a sweet spring in the desert, gushing out of tranquility and comfort, making people feel clean and happy.
Life has ups and downs, and different stages of the family have different priorities, but the core will not change.
Focus on the family core and isolate from external noise;
Ensure inner stability and endure the trials and tribulations of life;
Committed to growing together and strengthening the stability of the family.
A peaceful, stable, loving, and positive family needs to be managed, learned, and worked together.
Author | Poetry is born to the sun
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