#以书之名#
The old man, Pan Mosley, was telling his youngest son, Gregory, about a family affair.
The woman was Natalia, the daughter of the Korshunov family in the next village.
The Korshunov family was the richest man in the village, and they were also landlords, occupying houses and lying on the land, and they were richer than the Pantsa's family.
After the blind date, Natalia's parents didn't take a fancy to Gregory, and they were reluctant to find such a son-in-law for their daughter.
It's too dark, it's as black as a Tsgang.
Can I recruit you such a son-in-law?
However, Natalia fell in love at first sight and fell in love with Gregory, and he didn't want to marry!
even threatened her father that if she didn't agree, she would go to the convent to be a sister-in-law.
Another silly girl blinded by love.
Feelings are not a momentary impulse, whether you choose right or wrong, it takes a lifetime to repay.
In the end, my father was furious and offered a killer idea:
He was a prodigal, a pervert, who specialized in hooking up with the wives of Cossacks who were out on duty, and his bad reputation was well known throughout the village.
But how did the naïve Natalia answer?
Then I don't care!
Remember, why did Miss Cui in "The Legend of the West Chamber" fall in love with a poor scholar?
And, after only meeting twice, they went to bed?
One of the reasons is that the ladies are raised in the boudoir, doing nothing all day long, and they are too lonely.
At the same time, Miss Cui's heart is budding, and she has never been in contact with the outside world, since she was a child, except for her father, how many men have she seen?
Miss Yingying is shallow, and she doesn't know as much as Little Matchmaker
The pampered Miss Cui has never seen a straight cucumber since she was a child, either an old man or a woman.
Leng Buding met a young posterity, and there was no comparison to refer to, so he naturally felt good.
In fact, if she walked out a little, she would immediately understand that the outside world is very exciting, and there are many good guys!
It's a pity that Miss Yingying doesn't know!
At a young age, he didn't listen to the old man, he made a private decision for life, and ruined his life.
Similarly, the little girl Natalia is only 18 years old and has never been out of the village, what has she seen in the world?
Especially stubborn and willful, when encountering a choice, it is not to think calmly and weigh the pros and cons, but only to know how to be angry, and to be angry with your parents and everyone around you.
At this time, things suddenly changed for the better, and it seemed that gambling became the first priority, and gambling became the goal.
Compared to the gambling spirit, the rest doesn't seem to matter anymore.
Previously, I once knew a man and a woman.
The two of them can be said to be talented and beautiful, they are both very capable, and they make a lot of money, so it seems that the two of them should be a good match.
The problem is that the girls are Hui and the boys are Han.
The old man in the girl's family is very stubborn, and no matter how much he persuades him, he does not agree with the Hui girl marrying a Han boy.
The boy's family is also not optimistic about this relationship and does not agree with the girl.
So, the stubborn tempers of the two people came up, and they didn't compromise, they didn't get married, they didn't break up, they just dragged on.
One and two goes, this delay is ten years.
Finally, the old man of the girl's family couldn't stand it at first, because the girl was in her 30s and was about to become an old girl.
So, I had to relent, and agreed to get married.
The day after the girl's family spat out, the two broke up.
The reason for the breakup is actually quite simple.
Both of them are very strong in personality, they don't give in to each other in life, they can't get along peacefully, and quarrels are common.
In fact, both of them already knew in their hearts that they were not suitable.
However, both of them seem to be holding their breath, and neither of them is willing to make concessions under the coercion of their families.
In fact, to put it bluntly, the relationship between the two is average, not as deep as they imagined.
But because of personality reasons, both of them are angry, angry with their families, angry with each other, and at the same time, angry with themselves.
When the external pressure suddenly withdrew, both of them had no motivation to continue to consume, and they both chose to give up.
To measure whether a person is really mature, you can see whether he always puts emotions ahead of reason when dealing with things.
If you don't care, then I don't care!
In that case, it's like taking a bag of flour out of my hand.
Natalia's father was not competent at all, he did not check for his daughter, calmly helped her analyze the situation, explained the stakes in detail, and especially pointed out the harms for her reference.
It's a pity that not only did he not do this, but instead added fuel to the fire, irresponsibly chose to be angry, and said cruel words.
I've said everything, you go your own way, you take care of the good or the bad, I don't care.
At this time, his so-called baby daughter immediately turned into an insignificant bag of flour, take it away!
It's as if he has three bags of such flour at home, and Natalia is the boss.
Some people are physically mature, but not mentally mature.
Dealing with things, sometimes still being as headstrong and casual as a child. Especially many girls, who are very good in their careers, have good character and look good in all aspects, but when dealing with emotional problems, their brains seem to be very insufficient, or very naïve.
This is the reason for many so-called older leftover women.
What is especially strange is that some people are always careful about small things, cautious, bargaining for a grocery store, shopping around, and can't make up their minds for a long time.
However, once you encounter a big event, you are surprisingly free and easy, and you don't think about it carefully at all, or ask for the opinions of others, and make a decision immediately, which seems very casual, very abrupt, and very impulsive.
Natalia's family, from old to young, is like this.
How can I evaluate it?
To put it bluntly, it is shrewd in small things and confused in big things. Everything is just a brain, and all decisions are made according to feelings.
What did Natalia's family think?
- My father took a fancy to:
Gregory was a valiant Cossack;
From the bottom of my heart, I like his love of housework and labor;
When Gregory won the first prize in the equestrian competition, he was recognized as the best of the town's youth.
- The worries are:
Gregory was a poor boy with a bad reputation;
Marrying his daughter to a Turk is a bit disgraceful, and he must always be the right person.
- The mother's eyes were:
It's also beautiful;
is a thrifty family, and the family is also wealthy.
- The worries are:
Natalia was already sick with lovesickness for him, looking at the emaciated and emaciated appearance...... It's really heart-wrenching;
You should cherish your children.
- The daughter is interested in:
It should have been love at first sight, and Gregory was quite beautiful.
(After reading the book, I realized that Gregory turned out to be a good friend of her brother, and Natalia must have seen him before, right?)
However, when two people go on a blind date, it feels like they are meeting for the first time, which is very doubtful. ）
- The worries are:
It should be blinded by love, and there is no worry.
No one in the family thought about Gregory's character, and no one took out his behavior of hooking up with a married woman to discuss it.
Perhaps, this kind of behavior was quite common at the time, and no one took it seriously?
In the Mairehof family, apart from the old man Pan Mosley, Gregory, his mother, brother, sister-in-law, and sister did not particularly care about this matter.
The elder brother also teased him about this, annoying the two of them and having a fight.
Actually, from another point of view, maybe Natalia has thought about this, after all, it is her life's event, others don't say it, it is impossible for her not to think about it carefully, and 18 years old is not young.
However, it looks like she really doesn't care, or rather, it's a simple-minded girl.
In addition, she should also be a person who is desperate for love.
At this point, it is the same as Gregory and Axinia, as the so-called family does not enter the door.
Natalia's family was wealthy and there was no shortage of suitors, but she chose Gregory.
Love is all selfish, and perhaps she feels she has the power to change Gregory.
Obviously, she overestimated her own abilities and overestimated the power of marriage.
Can marriage change a man and quiet a prodigal?
Her parents eventually succumbed to her.
So, why did Gregory marry Natalia?
According to the book, it was under pressure from his father that his father insisted on marrying his son a daughter-in-law, and he hoped to save his son from shame.
Perhaps, the Cossack men lived in a dashing way and did not care at all about the feelings of women?
Or there are other reasons, I can't answer this question at the moment, and I need to continue reading to find the answer.
Gregory's parents came to Korshunov's house to inquire about family affairs.
When she heard that the family could do it, the mother took out a large white loaf from her back and placed it on the table, while the father took out a bottle of vodka with a red lid from his arms.
According to tradition, when a matchmaker comes to the woman's house to say goodbye, he must bring bread and salt.
Gregory's mother must have brought salt with her, but it is not mentioned here.
However, as mentioned above, many suitors came to Natalia's house to propose marriage, but unfortunately Natalia did not look down on them and wasted the bread and salt they brought.
As for Gregory's father's red lid vodka, it was just for celebration, nothing else.
In Russia, the meaning of bread and salt is extraordinary.
According to the ancient Russian tradition, offering such a treat to a guest was considered a gesture of invitation, a sign of the host's goodwill.
Because in ancient Russia, bread was more of a symbol than an ordinary food.
In the Orthodox faith, bread occupies an important place, so it must be respected.
Bread and crumbs must not be thrown away under any circumstances, it is shameful to waste them anywhere. It is not a waste to collect and feed to the birds.
Every Russian housewife has to know how to bake bread, and of course, few young people nowadays know how to buy it, everyone goes to the store to buy it.
Just like in our country, how many young people will steam steamed buns now?
Salt was originally brought in from abroad and was expensive, but everyone still couldn't do without it.
There is salt on the table in every home, and it is not an exaggeration to say that it resembles a family amulet.
As a result, "bread and salt" became a Russian tradition, symbolizing the hospitality of the host, because the guests received the most important food in the host's house.
Bread and salt can also be used for blessings.
For example, when seeing off someone who has traveled far away, there will always be bread in the hope that the person who has traveled far away will gain strength along the way.
After signing the contract, both parties ate a small piece of bread with salt to confirm.
It is a symbolic ritual. Breaking one's promise is considered an insult and a sign of bad luck for those who don't keep their promises.
At Russian weddings, bread and salt are also a must-have.
An hour later, the two fathers-in-law were already sitting next to each other, and the bristle of Pan's big black beard had touched Korshunov's straight red beard.
Pan Moss squirted sweetly with the smell of pickled cucumbers, chattering endlessly to enlighten his in-laws.
"My dear father-in-law," he said in a humming voice, "my dear father-in-law!" and immediately raised his voice again as if shouting, "my father-in-law!" he roared, revealing his black, blunt teeth.
"You want this ceremony, even if you slaughter me, I can't take it! Think about it, my dear family, think about it, what a shame you have made me: first, a pair of boots with galoshes, second, a Don lambskin jacket, third, two woolen clothes, and fourth, a silk turban. You know, this is tantamount to telling me to dump - home, swing, property, ah......"
The two fathers-in-law began to bargain with the intention of drinking.
"The dowry is a must...... Of course she has her own dowry, several chests, but if she really agrees with you, then please respect my opinion...... This is our Cossack custom.
Since ancient times, this has been the case - we must observe the ancient rites......"
"I respect your opinion......"
"That's good. ”
At this time, the wine became a matchmaker, intertwining the beards of the two in-laws.
Pan Mosley ate a shriveled pickled cucumber and relieved the smell of kissing, and he had mixed feelings and couldn't help crying.
It should be noted here that Russian men are allowed to kiss each other.
Kissing between men is a very common thing in Russia, and it has nothing to do with their sexual orientation.
Before the battle, the fighters raised their weapons and hugged and kissed at the same time.
Hugs and kisses are symbols of brotherly love and hope to meet again alive after the war.
Especially during weddings and funerals, Russians are constantly kissing.
Generally, it is three kisses.
In ancient Russia, the number three had magical powers.
The "Triple Kiss" is believed to be a powerful talisman against the influence of evil forces.
The leader of the Soviet state, Leonid Brezhnev, was particularly good at this, and it was he who revived this old tradition.
The meeting began with a hug and then a kiss three times: first on the left cheek, then on the right cheek, and finally on the lips.
This ritual even has its own name, called "Brezhnev's Triple Kiss".
The leaders of many countries were afraid of his amorous feelings and refused to meet with the Soviet leadership.
Brezhnev's first kiss was dedicated to the leader of the Palestinian Authority, Yasser Arafat.
When he visited the USSR in 1968, Brezhnev, unable to restrain himself, expressed his love to him.
Arafat himself did not see anything wrong with it, because for Arabs, kissing the lips means that trust has reached a certain height.
Brezhnev's second time was during a meeting with Yugoslav leader Tito, who miscalculated his strength and sucked his lips too hard, sucking Tito's lips and bleeding.
Ha ha!
Cuba's leader, Fidel Castro, is smart.
Every time he got off the plane, Castro lit a cigar and held it in his mouth, thus avoiding the hot lips of the Soviets.
Romanian leader Ceausescu chose a different approach.
An official letter was sent to the USSR about Comrade Ceausescu's suffering from a rare disease, bacteriophobia, and hoped for the understanding of the Soviet comrades.
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