When I was a kid for my birthday, I always gave the first cake to the elders in the family, then to the relatives, and finally to myself.
Whenever I mentioned this, my relatives praised me for being a good and sensible child, and I used to accept this title naturally, but now that I think about it, I really can't remember why I chose to do it this way.
Admittedly, I do not deny that there is some kind of "worthy of inquiry" in the question of quality in my young self, but out of curiosity, I seem to lack a practical evidence in the memory of that past that I am indeed a manifestation of a quality that "may be related to generosity" that I have shown out of my own will.
To be honest, when I was a kid, I had a sweet tooth, so how did I resist the temptation of cake and let other adults eat it first?
I don't want this to be an unsolved mystery, but I don't want this to be on this issue,
I was the only one who was kept in the dark.
Later, when I went to a friend's house to celebrate a friend's child's birthday, I heard my friend tell the child that when the cake is cut, it will be polite to let the guest eat it first.
The child was very obedient, but he also asked in a whisper if he could taste it first.
My friend was a little upset when he heard the child say this, so he told him that the cake should be eaten by everyone, and you can't eat it first.
The child nodded, and I saw that he looked a little reluctant, but he didn't say much.
As for the parents, I didn't delve into what the underlying logic of the question "why everyone eats together, and let the children share the cake with the guests first".
I would like to believe that this is good intentions, and there is another factor, and that is in my experience,
If you have to get to the bottom of everything, you will end up uncomfortable.
After the birthday party began, the child gave the cake to the guests according to his friend's instructions in advance, and then the child seemed to want to give the cake to himself, but I could see the child's inner concern, so I "naturally" gave the cake to his parents.
In the end, I cut a small cake for myself and put it in front of me.
After the necessary process is completed, the cake is finally ready to eat, the first bite of the cake, or the first of these cakes,
After all, it is the child who has been looking forward to it for a long time, but has always had scruples.
I see that he is very happy and satisfied, and at the moment he is enjoying everyone's blessings, and he is also being photographed by everyone in a caring way, showing goodwill, and accepting encouragement,
And from beginning to end, he didn't let go of the hand holding the cake, and while eating, he responded to those seemingly necessary etiquette with expressions and smiles.
Until the last bite is eaten.
As for the others, I also observed that most of the adults who came to the birthday party did not eat a bite, and their peers, like children, did not seem to be interested in cakes, and they cared more about all kinds of fast food such as hamburgers and tarts that were bought in addition to cakes.
I have to say that my friend's child really likes to eat cake, but it is precisely this person who likes to eat cake the most and should "eat a happy" person on his birthday.
The cake on the plate, but it was the least.
Afterwards, I tentatively asked a friend that my child likes to eat cake so much, so I can actually give him an extra piece.
My friend smiled and said that it was not necessary, he usually had other snacks to eat, birthday parties, it was a social place, and eating was not an unimportant thing.
Between the words, there seems to be an irreconcilable difference between the friend's understanding of the child's birthday and the child's own desire.
Fortunately, the child is very honest, but whether this is "lucky" or "unlucky" is, in the eyes of friends, irrelevant.
The important thing is that everyone had a good time at the child's birthday party.
The important thing is that the friend has more to talk about with other parents at the child's birthday party.
The important thing is that the friend gets more invitations and gets more recognition about "the birthday party was a success".
These are important things, or these are the important things.
I believe that my friend's child is not worried about eating and drinking, but can the child one day be able to eat cake at his birthday party?
I hope this thing doesn't become a child's obsession,
Don't be like me and be obsessed with the question of "am I really a person who can give a generous share of my cake to others and eat only the smallest piece of it".
After all, such a thing,
The more you experience,
The deeper the obsession.