Author: Rattle
As the title suggests, it is to provide emotional value to children.
It's true. As little Gollum was approaching the age of 5, I finally realized.
With such a small baby, he can't eat much, he can't wear much, and the interest class is still small, and he can't report a few.
But he can give his parents more mental friction than 10 adults combined!
Everyone should remember that I wrote in my article before that he saw too many bears and suddenly fell in love with the bald head.
Crying and shouting, I bought him a hard hat of different sizes three times on Taobao, and also carried a toy saw to cut down trees in the community, enjoying the admiring eyes of the neighbors.
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But just a few days ago, when I, the reader, was still asking me how Brother Qiang was doing—I thought to myself, how naïve.
The bald head Qiang has already lived in the past tense, and now his new idol is Sun Dasheng.
In the middle, he went through one after another:
Watching the Labrador sheriff cartoon, I began to worship the sheriff, so I was forced to buy a doll and a police uniform.
Playing Switch, I fell in love with Mario, and asked me to buy Mario's clothes, and I had to wear a beard.
watched the 1998 version of the animation Monkey King, and fell in love with Monkey King again. This time, I didn't want to buy it for him (after all, every time I bought it, I didn't want to be in love for two days), so he set his eyes on my grandmother.
Between Sun Monkey has the Monkey King stage (cutting all the way from Nantianmen to Penglai East Road), and the stubborn disciple stage (wearing a tiger skin skirt and a tight hoop spell), his grandmother spoiled him and bought him two in one go.
After buying it, he was not addicted. I don't know where I saw that Sun Wukong had a figure, so I asked me to find it for him on Taobao. I searched for a genuine authorized figure of Monkey King, half a palm, 268 yuan. So he replied that it was too expensive, you didn't make any money and were not qualified to pick and choose, and you wouldn't buy it if it was more than 50.
He had no choice but to settle for the next best thing and accepted a 24 yuan Monkey King blind box.
Then I met people and said that my mother didn't buy me the Monkey King figure, because my mother said that 268 yuan couldn't afford it.
I beat my chest and feet because my skin was too thin, and I didn't buy it for him if I knew it was 24 yuan.
In fact, it's nothing to think about, it's just for his star-chasing journey. Although his idols changed quickly, the average life expectancy of each term was only half a month.
The main reason is that he is not satisfied with buying things, and he has to hire the whole family to work for him for free - asking everyone in the family to take turns to draw him the Monkey King and color it carefully.
As his great mother, I painted the most. One a day, I almost feel like I'm going to suffocate, because although Party A doesn't give money, it picks out the details, and if you paint the wrong color in one place, you have to start again, and there is no negotiation at all.
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Every time I draw for him, a sentence echoes in my mind: I have done a lot of evil in my life, and I deserve this fate.
But we have to pay for his hobbies, and he rarely cooperates with our whims. Every time I want to eat snail noodles, my son asks me, Mom, why do you eat?
When I was at the foot of Yuelu Mountain, I wanted to take a picture of him and talk to the family of people, and the four-and-a-half-year-old child's face was stretched: What is there to shoot, hurry up and go, I want to eat McDonald's.
Chicken soup says that the post-90s generation should be parents who don't disrupt their fun, why doesn't anyone educate their children to be unhappy children?
Off topic.
It is said that a happy childhood heals a person's life. So from the moment he was born, I was guided by the philosophy of "trying to make him as happy as possible". But as Little Gollum grew up, I discovered more and more that children's desires are actually a bottomless pit.
The more you accommodate him, the more he becomes more aggressive, but when adults should be tough, he will be more restrictive, knowing that not all requirements will be met.
So I decisively rejected his request for 268 figurines this time, and then found that in fact, many times, what he wanted was just what he wanted at the moment, and he forgot about it after a while.
But I have to say that although children have the short-term memory of a fish in what they want and what they want to do, they have a strong paraphrasing ability like a parrot and a powerful ability to convert pictures (scenes) to text like WeChat.
For example, one day when I went out to play, on the way back to the car, I heard him say a word of swearing, my first reaction was to blurt out ", who did you learn swear words from", and I fell silent after speaking.
Another example is the gossip that my family is talking about, there is no need to tell him at all, he will say it all as it is, and he may make up for it on his own, add oil and vinegar, and talk nonsense.
Once she told my grandmother that I would beat myself up after I taught him to say the wrong thing - in fact, I accidentally said a word and subconsciously slapped myself in the mouth, saying that I could no longer swear and was remembered by him. My grandmother told me that I must not be extreme in educating my child, and that he must protect himself.
I cried and shouted for Xiao Liu to testify against me, and asked my son, when will I teach you this!
It is so scared that our family now uses our minds to communicate gossip. As soon as he suddenly fell silent while everyone was talking, I knew that this kid was preparing to dig a hole for us again.
But at the end of the day, his arrival has added a lot of joy to our family. In the process of getting along with him, I am constantly being healed - most of the time I feel that I am not raising him, but through the process of raising him, growing up with him, and raising myself again.
Just like a w blog I posted not long ago:
I got up late in the morning, sent my son to school, estimated that the kindergarten had passed the breakfast point, and bought him steamed buns and soy milk and siu mai at the back door of the community. As soon as he told him to hold it firmly, the roasted wheat rolled to the ground. My heart sank a little and I was about to speak, when I noticed that he had a wrong look on his face, and looked up at me at a loss. The mouth almost blurted out "Look, I told you a long time ago", and immediately changed his words to "It's okay, let's buy another one, be careful not to drop it again".
After being a mother for a long time, you should always remind yourself not to easily forget how you felt when you were a child.
The slap with a gold star in my eyes that accidentally broke the bowl when I was a child has been hot in my face for more than 20 years.
About the author: Rattle, Changsha shooter female, wild emotional writer. New book "Girl, You Live Too Soft"