Recently, Fujian legislation stipulates that a wife can check her spouse's property with a valid certificate.
As soon as the news came out, it was on the hot search.
Many people envy women in Fujian and say that it should be implemented nationwide.
Others say that bank deposits, flows, and other financial products should also be added!
I have been doing marriage counseling for nearly 20 years, and I have helped at least thousands of original partners and husbands to achieve great results.
1. What is more terrible than emotional infidelity is money infidelity!
Many wives don't know that the most terrible betrayal of a man is emotional infidelity, but financial infidelity! If you betray emotionally, you can still "stop the loss in time", but if you betray money, then you may have to lose blood or even go into debt for the rest of your life!
Don't fall in love with men, the money is in your hands, the basic plate is still yours, the problem will not be too big, but if you don't have the right to finance, don't have the right to know, and even find out that the man is transferring property, then the trouble will be big.
For example, a wife told me that after she found out about her husband's betrayal, her husband said, "If you give me 2 years, I will definitely be able to solve the 2+1 problem."
She asked me, why two years?
I said, because after 2 years, if you get divorced, the court will not support you to check the bank records of 2 years ago, and the evidence of his transfer of property will not be found.
Another wife said, my husband said that he is willing to leave the house, do you think he is in true love with a woman outside. I said that I have been consulting for so many years, and there are very few men who can actually leave the house. Men tell you this, nine times out of ten, there is a small treasury. Later, she found her husband's other mobile phone, which had many other bank accounts, and then she realized that what her husband gave her was only the tip of the asset iceberg.
More commonly, men will suddenly open a new company, and then secretly transfer property from the company jointly founded by the husband and wife, hollowing out the company controlled by the wife.
As for those who cheated on their wives and said that because of business needs, they had to "fake divorce", and finally made the fake come true.
even falsified debts, so that when the wife divorced, she found that the so-called "joint property" of the husband and wife was nothing more than a huge debt......
One of the original partners asked me, I found out that my husband had someone outside, and he suddenly wanted to buy a suite with me, which made me feel at ease.
I said, you must be careful, he is very likely to transfer assets in the name of buying a house!
She didn't believe it, saying that he was using our joint savings to buy a house, and I said did you see the money he transferred from your account with your own eyes?
She said, "No." I said you should check it quickly, and as a result, I found that his husband played a game of "Tanuki for Prince", transferred the joint property of the husband and wife to his parents, and then gave his parents an IOU, paid the down payment in the name of his parents, and paid off the mortgage.
When the time comes, if you get divorced, you will be in debt with him! And your money has been transferred to his wallet without realizing it!
There are also men who simply transfer their assets abroad and evaporate with the little three, and their wives are empty of both people and money......
2. There are four kinds of women in marriage who manage money, which one are you?!
In marriage, there are often 4 types of women.
One is that I never talk about money in marriage, I have no concept of money at all, how much my husband gives, how much I spend.
The most suitable for this kind of woman is the kind of marriage that has no ability. As long as her husband has the ability, she will definitely suffer.
Because a woman loses control of men's resources, then the loss of emotional control is almost inevitable.
One is that in marriage, every day is money.
This kind of woman is often congenitally good, and when the man has a good relationship, he gives her money to be happy or to save trouble.
But when the relationship is not good, you will feel that she is annoying, and the money will definitely not be given.
One is that in marriage, I didn't talk much at first, and then after the marriage went wrong, I asked my husband for money every day.
This kind of woman does not care about money, but about men's feelings. If you can't get your feelings, you can only make up your mind about money. At this time, the man has long been accustomed to controlling the money, and suddenly the wife starts to ask for this and that, and she must be full of defense.
One is that he never talks much about money, but men are willing to give it to her.
This kind of woman is the wisdom wife of the real high-net-worth people.
Because she knows to "manage money" instead of "asking for money" from men.
Many women told me that I didn't want to take care of my husband's money, but he just took care of it and wouldn't let me take care of it.
I say, that's because you don't know the way to be truly wise.
3. There are 2 principles and 3 realms for women to manage money
There is a basic principle of managing money:
Take the top and get it;
Take one of them, and get the following.
Take it down, get it zero.
What is "upper, middle and lower" is what is your strategy for managing money and what your cognition is.
There are 4 realms of money management.
Different realms, you will have different results.
The first level of realm is: you can let a man lose
Why do men become bad as soon as they are rich?
Because men and women live in different worlds, there is a "cognitive misalignment".
In a woman's world, men's money is a kind of "consumption", and what is consumed is love.
For example, many women say that my husband is very willing to spend money on me, so I bought a bag of more than 100,000 yuan, and he doesn't care.
I said, it was before marriage, and he was willing to give you flowers before marriage, so why wasn't he willing to give you flowers after marriage?
Because really rich men, their emotional world, is also economical.
Men invest in their feelings, and I invest money in you to make you give me a greater return.
If I find that this return is non-existent, it is a loss, I don't want to invest.
For example, after many wives get married, they rely on men to support them, they don't do housework, they don't take their children, and they don't care about their husbands.
Or although she has done all the things that her mother does, she is angry with her husband every day.
From the man, he will definitely not reflect on what I can improve, but think: I am losing, how did I find such a non-fuel-efficient lamp?
So he doesn't want you to touch his money.
Because he thinks you're not worth it.
The second level is that you can make a man's money useful
An original partner told me that after my husband betrayed, I asked him: Why did you find a woman who is not as good as me?
My husband said because I felt sorry for her.
Mr. Lu, what kind of mentality do you think this is?
I said, it's very simple, it's that he pays to hear it.
As far as you are concerned, he buys you a bag, and you still think that he is not aesthetically good.
But for the girl who has been living at the bottom for a long time, he will make her faint with the joy of buying her a small piece of jewelry.
What do you say a man is trying to spend money on? Isn't it just trying to see happiness and satisfaction on your face, so that he feels like God?
Your husband spends money on you, and you seem to only complain and don't have any thanks, right?
The original partner said, I don't think this should be taken for granted? Back then, he just knelt and licked me, and I got married.
I said, but now, your appearance is withering with the years, but his wealth is increasing day by day, your value is shrinking, his value is increasing, and the value is reversed, don't you notice?
If you don't increase in emotional value, how do you defend your feelings?
The third level is that you can keep a man's money worth
Another wife said to me, Mr. Lu, I never care about my husband's money, he has to invest with Xiao San now, what virtual currency do you say?
I said, you just tell him, I know you want to have a threesome, and you want to make a lot of money, so if you want me to be patient, you have to give me a sum of money, so that I can settle down, and you can also give yourself a way back, don't be all in, what do you say?
The husband thought about it, and took the money to eliminate the disaster, so he agreed.
As a result, her husband lost blood, and broke off with Xiao San in a fit of anger, at this time, he was no longer arrogant and returned obediently.
I said, this is the advantage of our "step back", if you want to make it perish, first make it crazy, when you can become a man and fail, the person who supports the bottom can completely subdue this man, so that he will never dare to leave you again.
Because he knows that the back road is here, and he also admires your vision and pattern.
The fourth level is that you can increase the value of a man's money
There are also many wives who ruined their marriages because of a thought.
They worked hard to start a career with their husbands, but they wanted to "retire after success" and go home to be full-time wives.
As a result, in a blink of an eye, I found that my husband was already someone outside, and that woman had replaced her "ecological niche".
That woman can help your husband make money, and she will come to the next thing than you, and at this time, the man will tell you: I can't break off with her right away, because she can save our company......
I said, you must go back to your company, get back what you lost before, no matter how he objected, don't rush to expel that woman first, you go to power first, go to regain lost territory first, and then squeeze that woman away step by step.
The wife did what I said, stabilized her mentality, withstood the man's emotional counterattack, and even withstood the mistress's "sowing discord" and "emotional harassment", not entangled in rotten emotions, and saw you in all "things".
Because her husband is obviously "profit-driven" first, if you can control his resources, naturally his heart will come back.
So it looks like we're talking about money.
Actually, we're talking about two resources.
One is the resource of feelings,
One is the resource of interest.
If you can have an impact on these two resources of men, he will not be able to turn the sky upside down.