Someone rode a bicycle and got to the road.
At first, he had to press hard to get the bike moving.
After stepping on a few laps, he is much more relaxed, and with a little force, he can feel the wind and speed.
Even when the feet are not moving, the bicycle still carries people and runs at a high speed.
This is the "flywheel effect" - its own gravity and momentum will become part of the driving force, and it will not stop for a while.
To put it simply, the bike has inertia, and the speed goes up.
Life is the same, when we form inertia in something, we can't stop, and it's getting easier and easier to get started.
A family is mostly a business model of male dominance and female dominance.
Most of the habits of children come from their mothers. Therefore, mothers should develop good habits so that when their children grow up, they can continue to have good habits and have a successful career.
It is a pity that not all mothers are very competent, and they pass on the poor habit without paying attention.
When we complain that our children grow up with "miserable lives", let's look at what the mother has done.
The sooner the mother knows about the following poor habits, such as the "flywheel" of the bicycle, the better.
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First, for the sake of face, the mother "buys, buys, buys", and the child is extravagant.
How many mothers, when they see the bright house next door, there are small bicycles, and toy trucks, then they must buy them.
Why should your own children be worse than Liangliang.
Besides, when Liang Liang drove the truck out, his own children had no face.
You know, many toys are not cheap, they are hundreds or even thousands of dollars at every turn.
For the sake of the child's face, the mother must let the child be "matched" with everything.
If the child cries for something, the mother is eager to cut off her flesh and replace it with something, so that she will not see the child's tears.
Of course, in order to satisfy the child, the mother will also force the father to make money hard, and then put all the money in her own hands, which becomes the child's "frolicking childhood".
For mothers who like to "buy, buy, buy", they will also get used to online shopping, and try to let their father empty their shopping carts regularly.
In life, if a mortal has something, he wants it himself. It's more imposing than the people around you.
Spending money like water, the child did get all kinds of satisfaction, but later, the child's appetite grew. The habit of extravagance is here.
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Second, for the sake of grades, the mother "scolds and scolds", and the child can't raise his head.
The mother took on the task of teaching her husband and children.
Pick up and drop off children to and from school, and help with homework.
When the child came home with the report card, the mother got angry: "Look at the brightness next door, it's 100 points every time." You're ninety, that's good. ”
Yes, in primary school, there are many children who score 100 points, but their own children are always uncompetitive and can't beat.
The mother scolded as soon as she opened her mouth, which was complaining, angry, violent, incomprehensible, and unsympathetic......
Some people say: "People always love to greet the successful with flowers and applause, but you must know that the road to success is bumpy, thorny, and rugged, and some people like to blame and ridicule the losers, but you must know that there is hope in failure and victory is bred." ”
The mother's scolding was mixed with all kinds of blame. Anyway, whatever the child does, it won't be right.
During the long-term beating and scolding, the child was really disappointed and felt that he was a waste.
What hope is there for a child who is despised even by his mother? Therefore, all kinds of pessimism come. If the child is a little older, he will refute and scold his mother.
But whenever the child scolds each other, the mother cries, makes trouble and hangs herself, which makes people really afraid.
Children who have been belittled all the time, can't hold their heads up, and when they grow up, they can't do anything well. Self-confidence is lost, motivation is gone, and there is no success.
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Third, in order to protect the shortcomings, the mother "fights", and the child has no fear.
Mothers often take their children out for walks, to the beach, to the park......
When you go out, there is friction between people.
In any case, the mother thinks: "The child must not suffer." ”
The mother has always believed that the child is still young, and if someone bullies her, she has to be like an old hen, sabre-rattling.
In the end, the mother is unreasonable, which makes outsiders afraid. As for the child, under protection, he makes mistakes again and again, and feels that it should be like this again and again.
If the mother fights with others, the mother will definitely win. Children do mistakes as if they were the right thing to do.
When the child grows up, he steals chickens and dogs and becomes a ruffian. The mother will say to the neighbors, "Who said my child is not good......"
If the child is in prison, the mother is still arguing: "It's not a big deal, that is, a few days of detention." Everyone makes mistakes. ”
Finally, the child has become a cancer in society, and fate is probably nailed to the pillar of shame.
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Raising a good child starts with cultivating habits.
Confucius said, "Lack is like nature, and habit is like nature." ”
Whether the child has a good life or a hard life, on the surface, he relies on his own nature, but in fact, his parents have cultivated his daily habits.
When the increase of negative energy becomes a habit, there is no way to turn over in this life, and the more you grow up, the more painful it becomes, and you go astray.
A mother's upbringing of her children is to cultivate habits, as well as habitual thinking and action.
You might say that a mother has several children, and one of them is very good.
This shows that this child got rid of the persecution of his original family with the fastest moderation. In the wrong words and deeds, he immediately stepped on the brakes.
Or maybe he has not been loved by his mother and forced himself to be independent.
Look at those children who have not been harmed by their mothers, and they will find the "true scriptures" of parenting.
First, love your children, but don't spoil them. As the child grows up, let go and give the child the space to grow on his own.
Second, meet the child's requirements, but not all of them, and learn to refuse. From an early age, children stay away from extravagant behavior and know the pain of making money.
Third, if the child is wrong, point it out, but don't beat and scold it savagely. Let children be sensible and understand the rules of social operation.
Fourth, affirm the child's progress and encourage it again and again, so that the child can run faster and faster on the right road, forming the inertia of positive energy.
Fifth, when the mother is unable to control the quality of education, she should take the initiative to invite the father to participate more in family education.
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Politician Neagan once said, "As a parent who educates your children, you must carefully examine your own behavior." ”
Mothers, more introspectively, don't stare at the child for everything, and follow everything about the child.
The formation of a child's destiny is hidden in the daily chores of growth, and mothers should pay more attention to it and adjust it dynamically.
From birth to adulthood, children are speeding up the process, and when they become adults, they run again and again.
The power of habit cannot be ignored.
The power of habit is accumulated.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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