Everyone has their own energy field, and once someone intervenes, it will be chaotic.
On the contrary, you have walked into other people's energy fields, and the rhythm of your own life has also been chaotic.
A smart person knows how to let others be others, let themselves be themselves, and don't let others borrow luck.
Specifically, a person should not easily intervene in the cause and effect of others, and stay away in time when encountering the following situations.
01
Other people's emotions are just spectators.
Lu Xun wrote in the novel "Blessing" about a woman named Xianglin's sister-in-law, who worked at Lu Si's house.
Later, Xianglin's sister-in-law got married, lost her husband, and was sold to the He Lao Liu's family in the deep mountains and wild passes.
Since then, Master Lu Si and his family think that she is a "vulgar" woman.
After experiencing the pain of life, Xianglin's sister-in-law began to complain and find people everywhere to complain, hoping to atone for her sins.
Writer Ding Ling commented on Xianglin's sister-in-law: "People who sympathize with her are ruthless people, selfish people, and they drive her to death......
It is not difficult to find that whoever meets Xianglin's sister-in-law will add negative energy. On the surface, he sympathized with her plight, but in fact, he put his good mood and good life into it.
One day, Lu Xun came to the fourth master's house as a guest, and saw Xianglin's sister-in-law coming over, thinking that he was begging for money.
Unexpectedly, Xianglin's sister-in-law asked: "After a person dies, is there a soul?"
A question made Lu Xun stand in surprise, followed by "very terrifying", and he was like a thorn in his back.
In order not to disappoint Xianglin's sister-in-law, Lu Xun said hesitantly: "Maybe there is." ”
This is not over, Xianglin's sister-in-law asked: "Then, there will be hell too?"
At this moment, Lu Xun was surprised and hesitated.
Xianglin's sister-in-law also asked: "Can the people of the dead family meet?"
Lu Xun immediately became timid, took advantage of his unpreparedness, and took a step forward...... When I left, I was not at ease.
With a person who is in a bad mood, chat a few words, you will immediately be infected by the other person's emotions, and then complain about life with him, scold together, discuss a distressing topic together, maybe like a mad dog, eager to take a bite of this society.
The physiologist Pavlov said: "Sorrow, apprehension and pessimism can make a person sick, but a positive, cheerful, strong will and optimistic mood can overcome illness and make a person strong and long." ”
If we want to be happy and live each day well, we must stay away from negative emotions and surround ourselves with people who have emotional value.
Usually, if someone complains, accuses, complains, spreads rumors, slanders, ridicules, etc., don't accept it, if you can't walk away, then treat yourself as a "spectator".
Let them carry emotions, you maintain a strong immunity, it seems that you go your own way, but I am actually safe.
02
Quarrels with others, keep silent.
If there was a group of people fighting in front of you, would you lean over to watch it, or would you take the initiative to pull the fight?
A group of people quarrel and fight for red faces, do you reason with them or be a judge?
It is recommended that you do nothing, silence is golden.
The fight is all angry, and if you are savage, you will also be involved in it, and you will be coldly fisted for some reason.
It's just that if you are scolded for no reason, it is unpleasant. The day was ruined.
In the article "Kong Yiji", every time Kong Yiji went to the hotel, many people ridiculed him, saying that Kong Yiji stole things.
Kong Yiji argues that "stealing a book is not stealing".
Then Kong Yiji said something like "Zhihu is also", which caused everyone to burst into laughter.
As a normal person, are you embarrassed to laugh at others? If you laugh at others, your conscience will hurt.
Observing all the people in the hotel, the one with the most stable emotions and the least words is the "shopkeeper".
The article reads: "The shopkeeper is never to blame. ”
When it was rumored that Kong Yiji was dead, the shopkeeper's performance was very special: he didn't ask anymore, and still slowly settled his account.
Yes, no matter what happens outside, the shopkeeper must work hard, calculate his accounts clearly, and then leave work on time and go home to rest, which also satisfies the employer.
People like to "join in the fun", and in this way, they inexplicably intervene in the cause and effect of others.
Think about it, the messy environment is like a swamp, a garbage can, and you have to run over to see what to say to people, which will stain your shoes and clothes, and look at people's faces.
There is a Mongolian proverb: "You can't keep your clothes when you quarrel with wild dogs." ”
Be quiet and stay away from restless occasions silently. There's nothing wrong with being a cool person.
03
Others invite food and gifts, and do not have to accept them.
We often come across these things about treats for dinner, gifts, etc.
Don't think that the benefits that others give you can be taken at will, you know, people are waiting for returns.
As the saying goes: "Take people with short hands and eat people with soft mouths." ”
He also said, "Nothing will go up to the Three Treasures Palace." ”
When you are at a dinner, in front of a group of people, with the help of wine, say, "Okay to promise you." ”
When you wake up and find out that you can't do it, it's embarrassing. If you have to do it with great effort, think about it, it is better to give up a glass of wine to avoid trouble.
As for the question of money, it is even more terrifying. This is the routine of "taking people's money and eliminating disasters for others".
Let's say someone is embezzling something from the public and then giving you some to keep it secret and say a few words to conceal it. Isn't that complicion?
In this life, people must adhere to the principle of "no merit is not punished, and a gentleman loves money and takes it in a good way".
It's okay to go home for dinner, see who the other party is before receiving the gift, what to do, don't have any greed.
04
Bacon once said, "Luck usually takes care of the thoughtful." ”
Yes, be more mature and keep your luck.
When luck is good, you have to go with the flow, don't let the person who borrowed the luck get close to you, and when someone else gets close, you walk away.
Of course, if you have to borrow someone else's luck, you must also insist on "borrowing and repaying". For example, if someone helps you find a job, you have to work hard, make achievements, and repay them.
In our daily lives, we need to be good at discovering situations where "luck has been borrowed". For example, if you are going to do something, you lose confidence when you are ridiculed for a few words, and at the same time, other people who do it are thriving. This proves that your luck has been borrowed.
See the interpersonal relationships around you and the ins and outs of things clearly, pro-gentleman, far villain, do good and accumulate virtue, and don't do evil, it's always right.
From now on, be the guardian of luck, and the stars shine brightly every day.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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