It has been said, "Parents are a curtain between us and death." ”
After the death of our parents, the curtain is gone, and we have to face life and death directly.
However, some people do not understand that their parents are not cold, so they start the mode of feud, severance of relations, and quarrels.
As everyone knows, behind the curtain, there is blood, family, words and deeds, and so on.
Think about it, if it is fratricidal, it also makes sense, isn't the world chaotic?
Calm down, take a look at the following questions, and you will soon be relieved.
01
What's the noise? Outsiders are gloating.
During the Southern Dynasties, smoke erupted everywhere.
Liu Jun took great pains to become Emperor Xiaowu of Liu Song.
With the throne in hand, the next thing to consider is the establishment of the crown prince.
It stands to reason that Liu Ziye, the son-in-law, should be set up, but Liu Jun prefers the eighth son, Liu Ziluan.
Liu Jun's ambiguous attitude, coupled with the attraction of the throne, led to open and secret battles between Liu Ziye and his brothers.
Just when the inheritance of the family business was not determined, Liu Jun passed away.
Liu Ziye quickly ascended the throne as a son-in-law, and then disposed of all the brothers who might compete for imperial power.
Liu Ziluan, who is still a minor, bore the brunt of the crime, not only was he killed, but the team that supported him was questioned.
Liu Ziye originally thought that he was sitting firmly in Diaoyutai, but he didn't realize that he had lost his "right-hand man" and became a loner, and outsiders had long been eyeing him.
In November of the first year of Jinghe, Liu Ziye's uncle Liu Yu, the king of Xiangdong, and his cronies Ruan Dianfu, Wang Daolong, and Li Dao'er broke into the palace, and also united with Liu Ziye's cronies Shou Lianzhi and Jiang Chanzhi and other eleven people to overthrow the throne. Liu Ziye was deposed.
Remember an old adage: "The praying mantis catches the cicada, and the yellow finch comes behind." ”
When siblings are noisy, outsiders will see jokes, that is, someone will interject, it seems that they are good people, but in fact, they wish they were more noisy.
When the quarrel reaches a certain level, siblings will hurt each other, and at this time, outsiders have a chance to benefit.
Flies like eggs with broken shells, and outsiders like families where brothers tear each other apart.
From a social point of view, the irrational behavior of siblings is like a tragedy for outsiders. People from the village, relatives and friends all came to watch, how do you feel?
If outsiders take away your family's interests when everyone is fighting, are you willing to accept it?
Once you have thought about the problem, you will immediately stop doing evil to your brothers and sisters. Even if you don't get anything, it doesn't matter.
02
What are you fighting for? My parents' house is already empty.
When parents pass away, siblings will do their best to arrange for the burial.
After the burial, it is time to consider the distribution of the family property.
The family's house, antiques, fields, orchards, as small as a sickle, a few chickens, are all property, and they must be distributed.
Everyone, you don't let me, I don't let you, they are all careful, so they have the appearance of turning their faces and making enemies.
Perhaps, the parents are still alive, but after a long time, the brothers and sisters began to calculate the property, and the resentment was very deep.
No matter what the situation, if you take out your parents' property and sum it up, you will find that there is really nothing of great value.
In particular, some rural families have parents who have worked hard all their lives, have two old houses, a field that does not harvest without farming, and a forest on the mountain. As for the savings, there may be none, and you have to rely on the children to give alimony.
For such a small property, you and your siblings fought over it for many days. From the point of view of time cost, it is not cost-effective.
Let's just say that my parents' old house should be the biggest property.
If you don't live in your hometown, you go out all year round, or settle in the city, you get the old house, and you lock it up. What's its value?
Some tiled houses, if you get them, are also troublesome, and you have to repair them in three or five years, otherwise it will leak rain and cause it to collapse. The cost of this input is continuous, which is a headache. It's also chicken ribs.
The parents' property was so small, and when they passed away, they were all distributed.
Why do siblings break off their friendship and feud after their parents pass away? What is the value of doing it again?
In the end, you are not convinced, why do you share so little. As soon as you open your mouth, you are turning over old accounts, and your heart is so small.
The root of the contradiction is all petty profits, and if you have a slightly larger pattern, you will laugh dumbly.
03
Who doesn't rely on a good family style?
Parents have passed away, but those who are alive have to continue to live, and they always have to look at the future.
If you take the conflict between your brothers and sisters with you, you will most likely carry it on to your children and grandchildren.
Generations have made enemies, and the thought of it sends chills down my spine.
Grievances should be resolved, not settled. This kind of truth, throughout the ages, has been true.
Even better, each generation knows how to resolve conflicts and retain kindness. Form a good family style with upward and downward effects.
Su Xun of the Northern Song Dynasty had a harmonious husband and wife and studied for many years.
In order to change the family, Su Xun borrowed a sum of money from his brothers Su Tang and Su Jian and bought a house in Kyoto.
Just when Su Xun's debts were not paid off, he passed away.
Next, Su Xun's son, Su Shi Su Zhe, discussed with him in a friendly manner and took on the debt together.
Because of the deep brotherhood, Su Shi was in prison, and he immediately thought of Su Zhe and said: "Being a brother with Jun Shishi is a brother, and there is no reason for getting married." ”
Because of the deep brotherly love, the emperor was moved, and Su Shi left prison.
It is very obvious that Su Xun has a good relationship with his brothers and sisters, and he also has a great influence on Su Shi and Su Zhe's brothers.
It doesn't matter the size of the family business, the family style is good, and it is more valuable than gold.
In our lives, no matter how far we go, sooner or later we will have to go home. Family runs through life.
If you know that you have a bright future and rely on your family style, do you still want to turn against your brothers and sisters? You will know that it is a blessing to suffer losses.
04
Why do we call brothers and sisters "siblings"?
In other words, if the hands and feet are used together, and the left and right hands exert force together, the strength of the person is the greatest.
If it is a family, hand in hand, the strength of the family is the greatest.
After your parents passed away, you lost all your siblings, how can you still work? Isn't this a waste of yourself?
You should think of it this way, no matter whose wealth your parents go to, as long as it is not given to outsiders, it is at home.
People are not sages, and the word "profit" is in their hearts.
There are big hearts and small hearts, big hearts, which hold heaven and earth, and small hearts, which hold copper coins.
Here, I will also tell you a few ways to resolve hatred: let go of your son and take the initiative to reconcile, the eldest brother is the father and follow it, learn to be altruistic, and all benefits are harmless, do not turn over old accounts, and have a wide heart and a fat body.
May you and I, with one thought of goodness, be upward in our lives.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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