I've seen a very hot post: "Give you 10 million, will you sell your husband?"
My favorite answer is, "If he wants to go, sell a piece, and if he doesn't, don't sell as much as he wants." ”
It is true that whether to sell or not depends on the man's own decision.
A lot of the truth is only understood after marriage, or even after divorce, but it is too late.
In "Warring States Policy", it is said: "The love of parents and their children is far-reaching." ”
As a parent, you should combine your own experience to help your daughter find a good family, don't just look at how much money your prospective son-in-law has, and how much bride price your prospective in-laws can give.
In this suggestion, when you meet the following kinds of men, no matter how rich you are, you can't marry!
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Men who do not have a strong sense of family are difficult to rely on.
Families need to be managed, but it's never one person who runs it, and the other sits back and enjoys it.
Writer Han Han said a very heart-wrenching sentence: "Nowadays, most families' kitchens are like women's toilets, and men are never allowed to enter. ”
Doing housework, a handful of them were thrown to women, but the man was like a big man, cocking Erlang's legs and urging, why haven't he eaten yet?
At the dinner table, the man also pointed fingers and asked the woman to take wine and add food.
When it comes to parenting, too many men don't know about it, anyway, children make mistakes, and everything is women's fault. After all, men have never been involved, so where does the fault come from?
The Tang Dynasty poet Li Bai is familiar to everyone and often praises him.
Aside from poetry and learning, his care for his family is indeed poignant.
When Li Bai was sober, he said to his wife: "Three hundred and sixty days, drunk like mud every day; ”
After saying that, Li Bai continued to go out, looking for someone to drink, and didn't ask about family affairs.
Judging from Li Bai's life trajectory, it is not surprising that his son Li Boyu has no future.
More realistically, Li Bai is fifty-seven years old and is living in the Yongwang military camp. When King Yong was defeated, he was imprisoned in Xunyang's prison.
Facing the wall, life fell into a trough, but he remembered his family and said: "The stars are away from one door, and the grass throws the second child." ”
As the saying goes, "Behind a great man, there is an amazing woman." ”
If a man does not have any family concept, but wants a woman to obey and pay in obscurity, how bitter is a woman's life?
In the feudal era when men were superior to women, we could still understand it, but in today's world where everyone is equal, I am afraid it is difficult to understand.
Writer Wang Xiaobo has a good saying: "When people reach middle age, they will find that there is nothing left in the world except for their families." ”
Just at his words, his wife Li Yinhe was happy at that time.
It is a man's responsibility to love his home and educate his children well. As the saying goes, if you don't teach, it's your father's fault.
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A man who does not seek to be motivated will not be productive.
There are always some men whose parents left a lot of money, but in his generation, they are poor and have no way to guarantee even a minimum of life.
What's even more terrifying is that the man takes his parents' money and spends all day drinking, and after all, he becomes a person who can't stick to the wall.
Think about it, when a woman gets married, whether she is living with her husband or with her parents-in-law. Even if the parents-in-law give the money to the daughter-in-law, they will not be happy in the end.
Fugui in the novel "Alive" is a good example. After he got married, he spent more time gambling than at home. In the end, all the family business was ruined, and his wife had to go back to her parents' house to avoid starvation and cold.
There is a classic saying in "Alive": "You can't forget the four rules of being a man, don't say the wrong words, don't sleep in the wrong bed, don't step on the wrong threshold, and don't touch the wrong pocket." ”
I'd rather find a man who is ambitious, but his family is very poor, than find a man who is rich, but very loser.
Mrs. Cheng in the Northern Song Dynasty was Su Shi's mother.
Her mother's family is rich and powerful, but she is married to Su Xun, who has average living conditions.
Before getting married, Su Xun liked to travel in the mountains and rivers, and also looked for friends everywhere. After getting married, Su Xun began to study hard and set an example for his children.
Later, the two sons became Jinshi, and Su Xun also became a writer.
A man's enterprising heart is an intangible treasure that will never be exhausted.
Marriage is not poverty alleviation. The understanding of this sentence cannot be seen from the surface, not by whose family has more money. Instead, look at the deeper meaning, and don't help those whose hearts have fallen.
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A man who is too strong will only make a woman feel wronged.
As the saying goes: "The public does not leave the mother-in-law, and the scale does not leave the stone." ”
Husband and wife are like the two ends of the scale, relatively balanced, in order to play the greatest role.
Once the balance is lost, it is most likely that the injured are women. Whether from the point of view of physical strength or heart, women are soft and fragile.
If a man is too strong, it means that he can crush a woman at any time, and even domestic violence.
In the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a man named Zhou Ze, who worked diligently, and rose all the way to become a minister.
In order to work, Zhou Ze always works overtime, and tries not to socialize and drink less.
The outrageous thing is that when he comes home, he ignores his wife and always puts on a "loner" appearance.
His wife was very distressed when she saw him getting old and his hair turned gray.
One day, he went to work sick and came home silently and ate vegetarian dishes. The wife came over and greeted the situation.
Zhou Ze was furious, believing that his wife had violated the rules of "fasting" and sent her to prison.
Since then, many people have changed their views on Zhou Ze, thinking that he is too radical, and made up a smooth slip: "Life is not harmonious, as a wife too often, one year old 360 days, 359 days fast." ”
A man needs to be stronger and continue to improve, but his fists must be used to fight the world, not women.
Women are also the hearts and minds of their parents, and their parents are reluctant to move a single hair, so how can they let other men roar at will and do it?
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A good marriage is when two people go from poverty to wealth, from youth to old age together.
In the process of walking, respect each other as guests and help each other. Men have a big picture, can be tolerant, and can plan, while women have careful thinking and can teach their husbands and children.
Many people have experienced the pain of marriage and left a piece of advice: get married slowly, divorce quickly.
When you meet someone you like, you will love each other slowly for a lifetime, and if you meet someone who hurts you, you will leave immediately, and you don't have to wait to be hurt and disheartened.
May women all over the world meet good people and get married.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The pictures in the article come from the Internet.