Beauty always wanders between dynamics, when you move naturally and express yourself to the fullest, your face will be liberated from the "frozen" state in the photo, showing more agile and three-dimensional self. At that time, you didn't have to be like the queen, asking the magic mirror "who is the most beautiful woman in the world" every day, because the most beautiful you have already broken through the mirror and stood there.
—— Ouyang Chenyu, "Reader", Issue 7, 2024
Do you hear these words often?
When you are so old, don't toss around, girls don't work too hard, get married and have children early, education is too low, and appearance is too poor, so that's it in the future......
People who listen to these words often end up either shelving their dreams, or resigning themselves against their will, and living as people in the mouths of others.
Once you are defined by others, even if your potential is limitless, you may be buried.
There is a sentence in the movie "Black Swan": "The only one in front of you is yourself." ”
Living one's own life as "customized" is the most sober way for adults to live.
Source: Visual China
Not defined by age
Are you very envious of such people?
Even if your face is full of wrinkles, you will carefully pick it up before going out.
Even if the body is aging, just like a child, stay curious and keep learning new knowledge.
Age is in them, there are no traces of time, only the marks of life.
Some time ago, on the stage of Shanghai Fashion Week, 89-year-old Wang Deshun walked on the runway again.
On the stage, he was wearing a big red jacket from the Northeast, his steps were steady and powerful, his eyes were burning and bright, and his chic and atmospheric movements instantly ignited the audience.
Looking back on Wang Deshun's life, it can be described as full of passion and legend.
At the age of 49, he threw away the "iron rice bowl" and created a "modeling pantomime" from scratch, bringing Chinese pantomime to the world.
In his 50s, he stepped into the gym and spent three years training tendon meat.
And his toss is not limited to this.
At the age of 65, he learned to ride a horse, at the age of 78 he rode a motorcycle, at the age of 80 he learned to DJ, and at the age of 85, in order to learn to fly an airplane, he spent 8 hours a day making up for the difficult courses about airplanes, and in only 3 months, he got a flying driver's license and became the oldest pilot in the mainland.
From the age of 40 to 80, he truly interpreted "the most beautiful sunset red" with his actions.
No one can avoid aging, but everyone can not accept old age.
Just like Wang Deshun, listen to the call of your heart and do what you want to do.
Wang Shunde skating/Source: Visual China
I like a quote: "Don't give up the possibility of exploring your potential too soon because of a number." ”
If you are not influenced by the number of age, it will not frame you.
It's not too late to learn English at the age of 30, it's not too late to get a driver's license at the age of 40, and it's time to write at the age of 50.
No matter how old you are, it's never too late to start if you want to.
Refuse to be defined by age, don't hesitate, don't be afraid of people's words, follow your heart, and be the most individualized yourself.
Not defined by capabilities
He Huajie's experience in the documentary "The Second Time in Life" is embarrassing.
He Huajie was removed from his spleen due to an accidental car accident, lost consciousness from the chest down, and also suffered six or seven cervical spine injuries.
Although the disaster caught people off guard, He Huajie did not collapse from it.
He practiced dressing himself again and again, and after learning it, he went out of the house in a wheelchair and made new friends.
In order to be able to sit in the wheelchair on his own, he supported his body with his arms, moved to the wheelchair little by little, kept failing, kept trying, and finally succeeded.
Later, he took the C5 driver's license for the disabled, took his mother to Huangshan, and made an appointment with a few disabled friends to drive the 318 Sichuan-Tibet line in a group.
He also keeps up with the trend of the times and uses live streaming to sell goods to earn travel expenses.
An accident took away his legs, but it failed to limit his ability to break the game.
As motivational speaker Les Brown said, "Life has no limits unless you set it yourself." ”
Obviously, there is an opportunity to try, but I have to be arrogant and dare not take the first step;
Obviously there is a possibility of a breakthrough, but I feel that I can't do it, and stubbornly refuses to challenge.
There is nothing in this world that cannot be done, only those who are unwilling to challenge.
In fact, everyone is stronger than they think, and it is not the physical weakness that can hinder you, but the inner wall.
It is better to let go of the burden in your heart, break through the encirclement of life, and you will come out of the cold winter and see more flowers blooming.
Source: Visual China
Not defined by image
Do you have appearance anxiety?
The face is full of freckles for fear of being ridiculed, and if your facial features are not marked, you are worried about being excluded, and sometimes when others look at you more, you will feel that you are dressed inappropriately today.
As a result, you are cowardly, unconfident, and afraid to take the initiative to show yourself.
As everyone knows, what kind of posture a person lives in is not about appearance, but about how he defines himself.
The Reader's article "Who Froze My Beauty" explores the concept of "beauty" from a scientific point of view, and its final conclusion is very incisive:
Beauty always wanders between dynamics, when you move naturally and express yourself to the fullest, your face will be liberated from the "frozen" state in the photo, showing more agile and three-dimensional self.
At that time, you didn't have to be like the queen, asking the magic mirror "who is the most beautiful woman in the world" every day, because the most beautiful you have already broken through the mirror and stood there.
Photo: dilute sulfuric acid
Talk show actor Xu Zhisheng, with his "unique" appearance and humorous expression, is deeply loved by the audience.
Dark skin, small eyes, a collapsed nose, and a pinch of "comma bangs" on his forehead have become the biggest labels on his body.
When he was a child, because he was not good-looking, his classmates made fun of him at every turn.
Even in physical education class, the teacher "hid" him in the last row of the line.
These experiences made him feel inferiority complex for a while, but he didn't fall into it.
His humor, sincerity and talent conquered the audience.
He participated in a talk show, teasing his appearance in the performance, the language was humorous and wise, the laughter was highly intensive, less than 6 minutes, and the scene was blown up 7 times.
He has gained countless fans, appeared on the Spring Festival Gala of David TV, and participated in the recording of many variety shows.
The discrimination because of appearance was won back by applause.
And I agree more and more with what he said:
"There are many meaningful things in life, most of which have little to do with looks, and we can only enjoy the part of happiness we deserve by learning to like ourselves. ”
Unfettered by the world, be generous and generous, and walk forward with your head held high and not swayed by the words of others.
You know, being beautiful is a gift of fate, and living beautiful is the hardest hole card.
Sometimes, it is more important to live as unique to yourself than to live as a heartthrob in the eyes of others.
Write at the end
Grandma Moses wrote in "Life Can Come Back at Any Time": "No matter how fortunate or unfortunate you are, do not set limits on your life, lest you block the sunshine of life." ”
There is no fixed pattern in life, and don't easily put invisible shackles on yourself.
Don't set limits on yourself, do what you want to do, and don't care what the outcome is.
Don't be bound by others, whoever you want to be, go all out, and don't care about other people's eyes.
If you are free and fearless, you will live your life to the fullest.
May you move forward bravely all the way and leave no regrets.
Author: Mingyue Yuxin, life is endless, pen farming, writing with heart, writing with a pen, each article is my first life.