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My mother-in-law is a traditional elder who sees it as her responsibility to teach us couples how to live. But I was often uncomfortable with her ways, she always lectured directly to my husband, and I could only listen silently. Sometimes she spoke so bluntly that I was offended.
As a daughter-in-law, I know that I should respect my elders, but my mother-in-law's approach really bothers me. I don't want to confront her directly, for fear of causing conflicts. But she kept pointing fingers at us, making me feel as if I couldn't do anything. I was really helpless and overwhelmed.
One day, my mother-in-law came to my house again. As soon as I walked in the door, she began to lecture my husband.
"Son, look at your house, it's a mess. Why won't your daughter-in-law clean up the house? In the future, you must educate her well and make her a virtuous and good daughter-in-law. "
I kept my head down, and my face was a little hot. Although my mother-in-law's words did not directly offend me, they clearly implied that I was not good at doing housework.
"Mom, don't say that. Xiaofang still works hard in housework. "My husband helped me out.
"Hey, you're just spoiling her too much! You have to discipline her hard and let her know what to do. The mother-in-law shook her head and said earnestly.
I sighed silently in my heart. I heard everything my mother-in-law said, and she really thought that I was not a good daughter-in-law. But I'm really trying to do the housework, but sometimes I'm too busy at work, and I'm really negligent. My mother-in-law always said me so bluntly, and I was really sad.
I looked at my husband's embarrassed expression, and I felt even more guilty in my heart. It's me who makes it difficult for him, it's me who doesn't do well enough, that's why my mother-in-law says that. However, my mother-in-law can't just say that about me, right?
I kept my head down, tears rolling in my eyes. I know that I should respect my elders, but it really hurts me when my mother-in-law says that.
My husband saw my sadness, and he looked at my mother-in-law with some helplessness. I know he's in a quandary. As a son, of course, he wanted to follow his mother's teachings; But as a husband, he wanted to protect me from being wronged. He was caught in the middle and was in a quandary.
"Mom, don't talk about Xiaofang. She really tries hard to do the housework, but sometimes she is too busy at work, so the house looks a little messy. "My husband tried to help me out.
I kept my head down, tears rolling in my eyes. My mother-in-law's words were really hurtful, and I really tried hard to do the housework!
At this moment, I finally couldn't help but choke up. Tears rolled down my face.
Looking at my tears, my husband and mother-in-law were stunned. I know it's inappropriate. As a daughter-in-law, I should be humble and courteous and respect my elders. But my mother-in-law's words were so hurtful that I couldn't bear it anymore.
I really love my husband and I also want to please my mother-in-law. But my mother-in-law always accused me so bluntly, and I was really hurt. What should I do? Should I directly refute my mother-in-law? But isn't that unreasonable to the elders? I'm really troubled!
Seeing his wife crying and her eyes red, my husband was also helpless. Of course, he knew my hard work and saw my dedication to housework. But in the face of his mother-in-law's straightforward accusations, he was also very embarrassed.
As a son, of course, he wanted to respect his mother's teachings; But as a husband, how could he allow his mother to hurt his wife's self-esteem like this? He was caught in the middle and was in a dilemma.
I saw helplessness written all over his face. He wanted to protect me, but he didn't want to offend my mother. Such a predicament put him in a dilemma. I looked at his helpless expression, and I felt even more guilty in my heart. I was the one who got him into this predicament, and I wasn't good enough to cause all this.
Seeing that my mother-in-law wanted to say something more, I finally couldn't help but speak: "Mother-in-law, I know that you are saying this to me for my good." But you're really going a little too far. "
My words made my mother-in-law stunned, and she obviously didn't expect me to refute her directly. As a daughter-in-law, I have always been deferential and have never objected to her so bluntly.
"You always say I'm not virtuous and can't do housework. But have you ever thought that I have really done my best? I am very busy at work, and I have been a little negligent, but I have never let go of my attention to housework!"
"Every day I come home from work, I clean, cook, and do laundry. On weekends, I clean my house thoroughly. But you just can't see my efforts, and you always blame me bluntly, do you know how sad it makes me?"
Tears were streaming down my face, and my tone was tinged with anger and accusation. I know it's inappropriate, but I really can't take it anymore.
My mother-in-law was shocked by my words. She never thought that her daughter-in-law, who had always been docile, would refute her so directly. She opened her mouth, as if she wanted to refute something, but was speechless.
I looked at her shocked expression, and my heart was mixed. I knew it was inappropriate, but I really couldn't bear my mother-in-law's hurt me. She never respected my efforts and always blamed me bluntly, which broke my heart.
I looked at my husband, and there was surprise and approval in his eyes. I know that he has my back, and he sees my hard work. However, after all, we did something wrong and directly contradicted the elders, which made him very difficult.
There was silence in the room, and the atmosphere seemed a little. I lowered my head, tears streaming down my face. Am I doing something wrong? But I really can't take it anymore!
I looked up and looked at my mother-in-law's apologetic expression. There seemed to be a hint of shame in her eyes.
"Actually, when you do housework, I see it all. It's just that sometimes, when you two are busy with work, and the home does seem a little messy, I can't help but talk more. "
"But I didn't realize that my words would make you so sad. I just wanted you to be a more virtuous and good daughter-in-law, but I didn't expect my way to hurt you. The mother-in-law sighed, her tone remorseful.
I looked at her, and the anger in my heart gradually subsided. It turned out that my mother-in-law didn't mean to hurt me, she just blindly "taught" me in her own way. There are just some generation gaps and estrangements between us.
I took a deep breath and calmed the excitement inside. Looking at my mother-in-law's slightly depressed expression, I also had some understanding in my heart.
Although my mother-in-law has gone a little too far, she is for my good after all. As an elder, she was just too blunt, and the way she spoke hurt me. But she didn't mean to hurt me.
As a daughter-in-law, I should respect my elders, even if her way makes me a little unhappy, but I shouldn't directly contradict her like this.
I looked at my mother-in-law's expression of self-reproach, and I felt a little guilty in my heart. There are some generation gaps between us, but that doesn't mean we can't understand each other. We just need a better way to communicate.
I took a deep breath and said to my mother-in-law, "Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, I was too impulsive just now. I know you're doing it for my good, it's just that your way hurts me a little. However, I also realized that there was a generation gap between us and that we needed to understand each other. "
My mother-in-law looked at me with a hint of apology in her eyes. She stretched out her hand and patted the back of my hand gently, with some relief in her tone: "Fang'er, don't blame yourself too much." You're right, there is indeed some generation gap between us. At my age, I naturally do things a little differently than you young people. "
But that doesn't mean we can't understand each other. We just need to communicate in a better way and be considerate of each other's ideas. You've worked hard, and I'm going to respect your efforts and won't say anything about you in that way anymore. "
I looked at my mother-in-law's sincere eyes, and my heart suddenly felt a lot more relieved. Yes, there is just a generation gap between us, and it doesn't have to be opposite. As long as we communicate with our hearts and understand each other, we will be able to resolve our differences and move towards reconciliation.
At this moment, my heart was filled with relief and joy. Eventually, the estrangement between us began to be bridged, and the dawn of reconciliation began to unfold. I believe that if we communicate with the heart, we will be able to build a more harmonious relationship.
My mother-in-law's sincere words finally calmed my mind. I realize that there is a generation gap between us, but that doesn't mean we can't understand each other. As long as we communicate with our hearts and understand each other's thoughts, we will definitely be able to move towards reconciliation.
I looked at my husband on the side, and his face finally showed a relaxed look. As a person caught in the middle, he has always struggled. But now, seeing that my mother-in-law and I have finally resolved our differences, his eyes are full of relief.
"Mom, Fang'er, you finally understand each other, and I'm happy for you. The husband said, "There is indeed a generation gap between us young people and our elders. But that doesn't mean we can't tolerate and understand each other. "
"In the future, Mom, if you have anything to say, you can do it in a gentler way. Although Fang'er is young, she is also very attentive to housework. She'll be open to you, too. "
I looked at my husband and my heart was filled with gratitude. Yes, as long as we communicate with our hearts and understand each other, we will definitely be able to move towards reconciliation. Although the mother-in-law's way is somewhat straightforward, her original intentions are good. And I also need to learn to listen to my elders with an open mind and not rest on my laurels.
"Fang'er, you're right. At my age, I'm naturally a bit more straightforward than you young people. But I didn't mean to hurt you, I was just too blunt. My mother-in-law looked at me and spoke in a sincere tone.
"In the future, I will try to speak to you in a gentler way. Listen to my opinion with an open mind, and do not go to your heart. When I say this, I just hope that you can be a more virtuous and good daughter-in-law. "
I nodded, and I had some realization. Yes, although the mother-in-law is a little straightforward, her intentions are good. As a daughter-in-law, I should humbly listen to the opinions of my elders instead of resting on my laurels.
"Well, in the future, I will definitely listen to your teachings more humbly. You can rest assured, I will definitely try my best to be a virtuous and good daughter-in-law. I said sincerely.
My mother-in-law smiled and reached out to pat the back of my hand. This small gesture made me feel the relief and acceptance in her heart.
The three of us were silent for a while, and the atmosphere became much more relaxed. I looked at my mother-in-law and husband, and secretly made up my mind that I must do housework more carefully and live up to my mother-in-law's expectations.
At the same time, I also hope that my mother-in-law will trust me and speak to me in a gentler way. As long as we understand and be considerate of each other, we will be able to build a more harmonious relationship.
In this way, the three of us chatted calmly for a while. When my mother-in-law finally left, I delivered her to the door.
"Fang'er, let's communicate more and be more considerate of each other in the future. You can rest assured that I will respect your efforts and listen to your ideas with an open mind. My mother-in-law patted me on the shoulder and said earnestly.
"Yes, mother-in-law, we will definitely communicate with our hearts. You also have to believe me, I will definitely do more housework and strive to be a virtuous and good daughter-in-law. I said sincerely.
The mother-in-law nodded, a look of relief on her face. Just as she turned to leave, I suddenly stopped her: "Mother-in-law, wait a minute!"
My mother-in-law looked back at me suspiciously. I took a deep breath and solemnly said to her, "Mother-in-law, I'm also sorry for what happened just now. I shouldn't have confronted you like that, I was too impulsive. In the future, I will definitely respect you more and listen to your teachings with an open mind. "
I nodded, my eyes moistened. Yes, as long as we communicate with our hearts and understand each other, we will definitely be able to reconcile and start a new relationship.
Just after my mother-in-law left, my husband came over and hugged me gently. I leaned into his arms, my heart filled with relief.
"Fang'er, you and your mother finally understand each other, and I'm happy for you. My husband whispered in my ear, "From now on, we will definitely communicate with our hearts and understand each other." In this way, we will be able to build a more harmonious family relationship. "
I nodded, tears flashing in the corners of my eyes. Yes, although this disagreement has given us some twists and turns, it has also made us realize the importance of mutual understanding. As long as we communicate with each other and understand each other, I believe that we will be able to start a new family life.
I leaned into my husband's arms, full of anticipation. From now on, we will get along with each other in a better way as a family. I believe that as long as we keep an open and inclusive mind and resolve differences with love, we will be able to build a family full of warmth and happiness.
At this moment, my heart was filled with unprecedented relief and joy. Yes, we're starting a fresh start.
Since that disagreement, my relationship with my mother-in-law has changed dramatically. We are all aware of the importance of understanding each other and communicating with each other.
"Mother-in-law, are you free today? Why don't you come to my house as a guest, and let's have a good chat. I said in a sincere tone.
"Oh, Fang'er, are you going to invite me to your house?" There was a hint of surprise in the mother-in-law's tone.
"Yes, mother-in-law, I specially prepared home-cooked food and cleaned the house. It's been a long time since we've sat down to chat, so let's take advantage of it today. "
The mother-in-law was silent for a moment, and then her tone was full of joy: "Okay, Fang'er, then I'll go over." Let's have a good chat and resolve some of the mustards of the past few days. "
Soon, my mother-in-law came to my house. Seeing the sumptuous dishes I had prepared, her eyes lit up: "Fang'er, you have really put in a lot of effort! "
I smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, you can use it, this is all home-cooked food that I have carefully prepared." Let's just sit down and have a good chat. "
In this way, we sat together, chatting and laughing, tasting food and chatting about homely food. My mother-in-law would occasionally give me tips on housework, but her tone became very gentle, and she was no longer as straightforward as before. And I listened to her advice with an open mind and patiently asked her for advice.
After that warm family dinner, my relationship with my mother-in-law improved dramatically. We all realize that as long as we communicate with our hearts and understand each other, we will be able to move towards reconciliation.
Since then, I have been regularly inviting my mother-in-law to my home. Every time my mother-in-law came, I would prepare a table of home-cooked food for her. Then, we would sit together and enjoy the food and talk about the home.
My mother-in-law would occasionally give me tips on housework, but her tone became very gentle. She would ask me what I thought in a questioning way, rather than jumping to conclusions like she used to.
"Fang'er, look at the stains on this dress, should you wash it with soap before soaking it?" My mother-in-law would ask me so gently.
I would also humbly ask her for advice: "Mother-in-law, you are right, I also think it is better to wash with soap first." But I have a question, if the stain is stubborn, do I need to soak it in some baking soda?"
With this change, our relationship has become more harmonious. My mother-in-law no longer pointed fingers at me like she used to, and I didn't feel tied down like before. We are like friends, respecting each other, understanding each other, and communicating with our hearts.
In this way, under the gentle guidance of my mother-in-law, my housework level is also improving. Doing housework is no longer a painful thing for me, but it makes me feel a sense of joy and accomplishment that I have never felt before.
Once, I prepared a table of home-cooked food for my mother-in-law, which was full of color, flavor, and taste. After tasting it, the mother-in-law was full of praise: "Fang'er, these home-cooked dishes are really delicious! Your craftsmanship is getting better and better." "
I smiled and said, "Thanks to your careful guidance, mother-in-law." If it weren't for the patience you have been giving me advice, I wouldn't have done so well. "
The mother-in-law smiled and shook her head: "You are also too modest. These home-cooked dishes are really well cooked, which shows that you have put a lot of effort into it. However, you still have to continue to work hard, being a virtuous and good daughter-in-law is not achieved overnight. "
I nodded again and again: "Yes, mother-in-law, I will definitely continue to work hard." You can rest assured, I will always humbly ask you for advice, and strive to be a virtuous and capable good daughter-in-law. "
When the mother-in-law heard this, she had a relieved look on her face. She stretched out her hand and patted the back of my hand gently, with a hint of relief in her tone: "Fang'er, don't worry, as long as you keep working so modestly, I believe you will be an excellent daughter-in-law." "
I looked at my mother-in-law's relieved expression, and my heart was full of joy. I used to think that housework was a painful thing, but now that I have learned to listen to my mother-in-law's advice, I have found more joy than ever before.
Every time I prepare a table of home-cooked food and get my mother-in-law's appreciation, my heart is filled with a sense of accomplishment. I realized that housework is not a chore, it can also bring joy and happiness. As long as you put your heart into it and ask people for advice with an open mind, you will definitely find joy in housework.
I looked at my mother-in-law's relieved expression, and silently made up my mind that I must continue to study humbly and strive to become an excellent and good daughter-in-law. Only in this way can I make my mother-in-law feel more at ease and my husband feel proud and happy.