Text/Flying Fish
Marriage is a very important thing in life.
As a parent, the child is his own heart, especially his daughter, who grew up with her own care, hoping that she can meet someone who really loves her and can pamper her.
Maybe the child chooses to get married, without thinking too much or worrying too much, and as a parent, you must know how to check for your child, but don't interfere too much, just grasp the proportion.
The kinship is established because of the marriage of the child.
As parents, when we learn that our children are going to get married, we must know how to ask our children about some things clearly to avoid detours on the road of marriage.
Therefore, before getting married, even if you are thin-skinned, for the sake of your children, you must take the initiative to inquire about these three things in your future in-laws, which is great wisdom and good for your children.
1. The actual situation of the future in-laws' family.
In "Fireworks People", Meng Mingwei disagreed with his daughter to be with Zhou Zhi, because Zhou Zhi's family background was not good, and even in fact, the situation was even worse.
When Meng Mingwei knew that his thoughtful mother was in prison, his father died, and his grandparents were very unreasonable, and even had very traditional concepts, they were very stubborn, and their family background was poor, Meng Mingwei didn't want his daughter to marry into such a family to suffer and suffer, so he opposed this family business.
As a parent, in fact, it is for the good of the child, because he has suffered in marriage, so he doesn't want his child to take a detour.
Therefore, regarding the marriage of children, before they get married, understand the actual situation of the other party's family, so that they are also psychologically prepared, and even remind their children to choose carefully.
Second, the economic situation of the in-laws in the future.
When your child tells you that they are getting married, then you also need to find out about the financial situation of the other family.
If the other party's family conditions are not good, there is still a lot of debt, or even the family has become a mess, walking into such a family is walking into a bottomless pit.
In "Ode to Joy 5", Ye Zhenzhen fell in love with David, and David's parents calculated with each other, causing the company to go bankrupt, David's father dug a lot of pits for his mother, leaving David's mother in debt, but David's father transferred his assets and fled abroad.
David's mother has to deal with people who come to her door every day to ask for debts, and she wants to find Ye Zhenzhen everywhere, wants to rely on her family, and hopes to get her parents to pay to help her solve these troubles.
If you are Ye Zhenzhen's parents, you will not have anything to do with your daughter and such a family, and you will not agree to such a family affair.
Some parents don't inquire about each other's family conditions when their children are about to get married, and they will feel unworthy for their children when they know that the other party's family is so bad after marriage.
3. The true attitude of the future in-laws towards their children.
In "Ode to Joy 5", Ah Chu fell in love with a boy with a good family, but he didn't expect that after the other party's parents heard about the situation in their own family, their attitude towards her changed greatly, and they began to refuse their relationship and asked their son to break off the relationship.
Therefore, if a relationship or a marriage is not blessed and supported by parents, it will not be happy.
Because marriage is a matter of two families, it cannot be separated from the family, and it is always mixed with interpersonal relationships and family relationships.
If the other party's parents don't affirm you, don't like you, and don't agree with you being together, then there is no need for you to dwell on it.
After Ah Chu heard her boyfriend say that he broke up, he also understood what his parents meant, so he let it go and would not have any contact with him again.
If you want your children to be happy in marriage, then before you get married, find out the actual situation of your future in-laws and what you really think about your children, and then consider whether to get married.
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