Urban love ethics dramas have always been a type that the audience likes, and this kind of script generally uses traffic stars, and the appearance is more eye-catching, involving topics such as family, workplace, emotion, etc., which is easy to attract the attention of the audience, and the ratings are guaranteed.
The popular "Chenghuan Ji" is this type of work, which tells the story of Mai Chenghuan, a girl from an ordinary family in Shanghai, who broke up due to the huge disparity in economic conditions with her boyfriend's family, coupled with her mother's excessive strength. After experiencing emotional twists and turns, she focused on her work, achieving career success and gaining love at the same time.
Although such a plot is a little old-fashioned, and as soon as the actor appears, he can see who is the official match from the coffee position, but in terms of ratings and market share, the audience still eats this set.
The work takes the relationship between Mak Chenghuan and his mother as a starting point, and shows the microcosm of China's only child and the original family - the contradiction between the nagging and powerful parents and the children who want to be independent, as well as the compromises and efforts made by both parties to achieve this.
Mai Chenghuan is 29 years old, but he is still loved by his mother as a primary school student. When I came home late, I had to report to my father to pick him up, and I had to report the details of my love to my mother in every detail, and even called Cheng Huan during working hours to ask if the two of them had slept / together, which made Cheng Huan extremely embarrassed.
What to eat and wear, what time to get off work, and when to get married are all the things she wants to ask, and the phone bombardment is countless, which often makes Chenghuan unable to resist.
She knows that her mother is for her own good, so she tries to follow her mother in the trivial matters of life, as long as her mother is happy, she is happy. She behaved very well-behaved and obedient, in her words, "As long as the relationship with her mother is above the bottom line, hard work can be balanced." ”
For example, when my mother said that she would catch a cold with bare feet and was not good for her health, she would show a sweet smile and say, "Okay mother, put it on"; she would snuggle up in her mother's arms when her mother was angry and say, "Don't be angry if I didn't do well; she will also follow her mother's meaning and say that her mother's opinion is the most important.
Cheng Huan's approach did make her mother very happy, but after a long time, Cheng Huan became unhappy, because in her concession, her mother began to press step by step, and even crossed the bottom line that Cheng Huan said.
Parents' nagging represents their love, and children should not be angry about it, but as parents, should we also think about it from the perspective of children, has this kind of care crossed the line?
Chenghuan's mother wanted to know more about her daughter, so she secretly turned on her daughter's computer and social software, and even her daughter's express delivery had to ask what she bought.
When her daughter is really married, she will intervene again in her daughter's marriage, followed by the child's education, the pension of both parents, the family conflicts on both sides, and so on.
In fact, such parents are insecure, they are not used to their children growing up and leaving, and they are afraid that they will have nothing to do, because for so many years, their lives have been filled by their children, and they have long lost their place.
For them, taking control of their children's lives will make them feel fulfilled and feel that they have something to do, rather than a useless waster, often far out of bounds and ignorant.
This is the greatness and sorrow of Chinese parents, is the premise of becoming a qualified parent is to lose oneself? Isn't it possible to sublimate oneself in the process of raising children?
Because this greatness is too heavy for children to bear, and they often feel guilty for it, some children will carry this burden on themselves and will be defeated by the strong interference of their parents.
However, this love should not be a reason for parents to interfere too much in their children's lives.
In the TV series "If Running Is My Life", Ruoxuan has enjoyed all-round love from his mother since he was a child, but this love forced him to commit suicide several times. After losing Ruoxuan in an accident, the mother focused all her attention on her daughter Ruohua, who had not been noticed before.
Ruohua's mother wants to follow Ruohua to go to school in Beijing; Ruohua's mother wants to live with her in the dormitory; Ruohua's mother has no dead ends to watch her when she falls in love; Ruohua is unwilling to go on a blind date, so her mother simply goes on a hunger strike and forces her to die......
Ruohua wanted to commit suicide, but he was worried that his mother would have nothing to rely on, so he struggled with his mother's desire for control and self-choice, and his life was extremely painful.
In the face of Ruohua's collapse, my mother only had a hysterical sentence, everything I tried my best to do was for your good, why don't you understand?
"For your own good", a simple three words, has become a drop of water torture exerted by too many families on their children, and how many children are struggling with this kind of torture.
You can't resist, because if you resist, you are ignorant or unfilial, and you are a sinner whose parents are tired and tired for you to study and buy a house for you.
But if you don't resist, you will become a shadow of your parents, a copy of them, and you will never have a life of your own.
Every parent loves their children, they are afraid that their children will take detours, they are afraid that their children will be deceived and that their children will be hurt, but some hardships must be eaten, some pains must be endured, and no one can replace them.
We come to this world to experience life, this experience includes sweetness must include bitterness, including laughter must include tears, if there is no contrast, how can we perceive happiness more deeply?
The process of raising children is hard and joyful, and we raise children out of love, not to say, "I'm doing this for your good" after a few years, and not to say "who am I working for".
The child has grown up and wants to enjoy the world independently, so why not let them go and let them fly? All the parents have to do is tell her that no matter how far away and how tired, the door to home is always open for you.
Then parents should also learn to enjoy their own time, they have not played when they were young, they should go to play while their legs and feet are still good, even if the food they want to eat is junk food, what does it matter if they eat it once, old friends who have not seen each other for many years get together and reminisce about the past years, ask their children for new things, and fill their lives with the mentality of living to learn from the old ......
Life is too short, there are so many things I want to learn and want to do, why confine my whole life in the family, I am tired enough to choke my children and still don't appreciate it, why bother?
Keep yourself busy and experience the feeling of freedom to the fullest, and you will understand that this freedom is also precious to children. Because all love should make the other person feel free, relaxed, and comfortable.
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