In life, if you want to live for a long time, you need to do these 4 words, and stop in moderation.
No matter what you do, no matter what you pursue, as long as it's about the same, it's enough. Eating, if we are too full, it is easy to support our stomach, so we don't need to overeat, just eat enough.
Enough is "three or seven points". Seven points of work, three points of leeway, naturally can make people live a stable and long life. A person's greatest maturity is to learn to "three or seven points" in these five small things.
1. When getting along with others, it is best to be sincere and defensive.
One of the inevitable things that people are working hard in the rivers and lakes is to get along with people. How to get along with relatives and friends, and how to deal with outsiders and passers-by, these are all questions we need to think about.
Some people think that when getting along with others, as long as you give your sincerity completely, you don't have to think about the rest.
This kind of thinking is actually problematic. Completely sincere, if the other party is a villain, then we don't really feed the dog, and provoke the bite of the vicious dog?
To get along, we need to take a good degree. For example, seven points of sincerity are entrusted to others, and the other three are sincerely hidden to protect themselves.
In other words, three points of sincerity and seven points of defense are also possible. Anyway, you can't dig out your heart and lungs, and you can't treat each other with all your heart, otherwise, it will be easy for villains to take advantage of it, people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden.
2. Speak, only speak seven points of truth, leaving three points of leeway.
As the saying goes, if you only say three points for a person, you don't dare to throw away all your heart.
To behave in the world, just tell the truth in three points. The key secrets should still be hidden and not let others know. There are some things, some pasts, that need to be rotten in our hearts for a lifetime.
Some people will say that it is not too hypocritical to tell only three points of the truth? In fact, this is not a question of hypocrisy, but a question of "moderation." It's okay to tell the truth with seven points.
If you think about it, this person has a conflict with you, he is your enemy, do you want to tell him the truth and reveal all the secrets in your heart?
People are easy to "say too much and make many mistakes". The more you talk, the easier it is to offend others and affect yourself. In this case, keeping your mouth shut and being silent is golden, which is the best way to behave in the world.
3. When you go out, you must have seven points of calmness and three points of mystery.
I'm sure we've all heard one word, Chengfu. If a person behaves very mysteriously and does not make a prominent move, we will think that this person is very urban, and he is not a good stubble, so we dare not bully him.
On the other hand, if a person behaves not mysteriously and always reveals his hole cards, we will think that this person has no city, is more honest, and is an easy target to bully, so we will naturally bully him.
What is the role of the city government? It is just one role, to protect itself. The city is like a piece of armor, whether you wear it or not, the impact on you is absolutely huge.
Wearing armor, people who have the protection of the city government, even if they encounter villains, have the ability to protect themselves. People who don't wear armor and don't have the protection of the city government, even if they socialize daily, are easy to be at a disadvantage and be manipulated.
Mystery is something that must be possessed by anyone. Ordinary people have to have it, and the elite class with a little money has to have it. If you don't have it, you may not even be able to keep your property.
4. Maintain health and life, try to exercise for seven points and rest for three points.
Modern people are pursuing the quality of life and want to live a long time, so they go to exercise every day. What is the best way to exercise?
Countless people have a misconception that high-intensity exercise can lead to bodybuilding, fat loss, weight loss, and maintenance. This is actually a wrong concept.
Some people can't stand it due to high-intensity exercise, and they have problems, and some people are tired after a day of work, so they go to exercise, which is prone to accidents......
The human body is not a body of steel, but a body of flesh and blood, and if it is excessive, it is easy to have problems. Exercise can be done in moderation, but not excessively, and it should be a "combination of work and rest".
If you are overworked, then take a break for a while before exercising. If you want to lose weight, then adjust the intensity of your workouts according to your physical condition. Move when you should move, and rest when you should rest, is the long-term way.
5. Knowing the heavens and reaching the fate, it is best to do your best with seven points and follow fate with three points.
Confucius once said: "Time is also fate, be cautious from the beginning to the end, do your best and obey the destiny of heaven." ”
Everything is a matter of timing and fate, and we can only start cautiously and try to end properly. As long as you do your duty, the rest should be arranged by God.
Confucius's words illustrate a truth. We, ordinary people, can only decide what the process does, but not what the result will be. If you give, you may not be rewarded. If you work hard, you may not be rewarded.
The so-called "seven points of personnel and three points of day" is this principle. We can only do a good job of seven points of personnel, and as for the results of three points, this is all the arrangement of fate and providence. There are times in life when you have to have it, and there are times in life when you don't want it.
Just like making money, no one can guarantee whether you can get rich and expensive. We can only promise that we will do our best to do what is in front of us and not let ourselves have regrets. This is the essence of "knowing heaven and reaching destiny".
Author: Shu Shan Youlu, amateur emotional author