"Zengguang Xianwen" said: "Able to learn Meng's mother three migrations, Dingbu Yanshan five Guifang." ”
We have listened to countless stories about parents who love their children.
The parents in the book are great, although there are flaws, but they can't hide the light on their parents.
When we grow up, or enter middle age, we go to see our parents and find that not all parents are great, and some parents have lived at the bottom all their lives, and they can't even make up the tuition fees for their children.
There are always some parents who have been waiting for their children to support their old age, making their children miserable. Parents may also be in debt, leaving you for a long time, paying off the debt, and out of breath.
What is even more uncomfortable is that parents dictate their children's lives and use the method of moral kidnapping to control their children's work and small family.
Why didn't you meet Mencius's mother? Are you muttering?
I don't know when you hate your parents, and you are happy to envy other people's parents, and in contrast, you are angry.
Don't rush to make the final judgment on your parents, first look at the three historical figures of the Three Kingdoms period to know how much your parents love you.
We can't feel the love of our parents because we look at things from different angles and demand too much from our parents.
01
Yang Xiu: You are grass in the eyes of outsiders, but you are a treasure in the hands of your parents.
Yang Xiu, who was born at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, borrowed the light of his ancestors, was able to read and write, and was promoted to filial piety.
When he was in his twenties, he was appreciated by Cao Cao because of his talent.
Cao Cao went to inspect the work, saw the newly repaired door, and wrote the word "live" on the door. Everyone was puzzled.
Seeing this, Yang Xiu asked the craftsman to widen the door, and Cao Cao was very satisfied.
Yang Xiu said: "There is work in the door, it is wide." ”
When Cao Cao and Liu Bei were facing off, Yang Xiu also cracked Cao Cao's "password" - chicken ribs.
No matter what Cao Cao thinks, he will be understood by Yang Xiu, and Yang Xiu will put it into action without giving Cao Cao any face.
Cao Cao, who was accustomed to being condescending, found a crime of "leaking words and teachings before and after, and handed over to the princes" and put Yang Xiu to death.
As a courtier, Yang Xiu's fate is not worth mentioning for Cao Cao. There are many smart people in the court.
After Yang Xiu was executed, his old father Yang Biao was heartbroken, but he didn't dare to speak out, after all, continuing to offend Cao Cao was not a joke.
Cao Cao saw Yang Biao and asked hypocritically, "Old man, why have you lost weight during this time?"
Yang Biao said: "I am ashamed of the foresight of the sun, and I still have the love of the old cow licking the calf." ”
The father, like the old cow, loves his children deeply, and when the calf is born, the old cow uses his tongue to lick the hair off the calf's body.
An ordinary person, in society, is a speck of dust, insignificant.
But you are at home, you are the most important person, and if you fall, your parents' hearts will be like ashes. Parents can't wait to bear all your pain with their lives.
You're at home, it's a piece of the sky. It is the heart of the parents, the spiritual sustenance of the parents, and the concern of the parents for a lifetime.
When you endure the wind and rain outside and come home with yellow and thin muscles, your parents are very uncomfortable, and they will try their best to make you make up for your body.
Compare the love of your parents with the attitude of outsiders towards you, and you will find that love is deep in the bone marrow, but great love is speechless.
02
Liu Chan: What parents hate the most is "you who are not angry".
In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", there is an allusion called "Liu Bei fell Adou".
According to the allusion, later generations said a sentence after the break: Liu Bei fell Adou - buying people's hearts.
Adou is Liu Bei's son Liu Chan.
In the thirteenth year of Jian'an, Liu Bei and Cao Cao had a fight, and Liu Bei failed and had to flee.
Liu Bei handed over the family to the general Zhao Yun to take care of.
Seeing Cao Cao with a large army, rolling over in the dark, Zhao Yun desperately resisted, wrapped the young Liu Chan with cloth, rushed out, and joined Liu Bei.
Liu Bei took Adou, fell out, and said, "For you, this son, I have lost a few of my generals." ”
Zhao Yun immediately responded: "Although the liver and brain are smeared, I can't report it." ”
On the surface, it was Liu Bei who was bribing the hearts of the soldiers and regarded the general as more important than his son. From a deep level, it was Liu Bei who hated his son for not growing up quickly and not being angry.
Liu Bei is also worried that his son is "Adou who can't be helped".
Nowadays, how many parents are worried that their children are "Adou who can't be supported", and they are desperately "hoping that their daughters will become phoenixes and their sons will become dragons".
As a farmer's parent, he raised pigs and chickens, exchanged money, and sent his children to study in the city.
In order to make up for the tuition, maybe the parents don't have a new dress all year round, which truly embodies the "new three years, the old three years, and another three years of sewing and mending".
There are also many parents who borrow money to buy houses in the city for their children to study.
When children become bad and do not start a family, the most anxious are the parents.
There is a saying in the countryside: "Forty looks at wealth, fifty looks at people, and sixty looks at coffins." ”
Middle-aged parents hope to make more money and give their children a good economic foundation, while 50-year-old parents hope that their children will have a good income. At the age of 60, the parents will provide for their own support, and they will not burden their children until they die.
03
Cao Cao: Parents are partial, and they are really helpless.
Cao Cao, who dominated the Central Plains, had many sons.
At first, Cao Cao wanted his son Cao Ang to inherit the family business, and also let him go to war to increase his work experience.
Sadly, Cao Ang went to quell Zhang Xiu's rebellion and died in the chaos.
Next, Cao Cao wanted to choose an heir among Cao Pi and Cao Zhi's two sons.
Cao Zhi is brilliant, but he is not frugal enough, and he often drinks.
Cao Pi was heroic, but his writing was not enough.
After a comprehensive analysis, Cao Pi was determined to be the heir. Therefore, Cao Zhi borrowed wine to drown his sorrows and was depressed.
Later, Cao Pi was proclaimed emperor, and forced Cao Zhi to write the poem "It was born from the same root, why is it too anxious to fry each other", and the relationship between the brothers also fell out.
From ancient times to the present, all families with several children have the problem of parental partiality. The emperor's family, even more obvious.
You think that your parents prefer other siblings, not you, that's what you think. Your parents know you have grievances, but they can't deal with them.
In a family, it is impossible to have several family members. A family property cannot be completely equally distributed among several people. Parents only have two hearts, and they want to divide them with three people, what should I do?
Since eccentricity exists objectively and cannot be completely eliminated, it is better to accept it.
Cao Zhi said: "I don't see the finch in the hedge, but I see the harrier throwing itself into Luo." ”
The bird, which looks free, causes itself to fall into the net pocket in order to avoid the ferocious harrier. How can there be any absolute freedom? It's just that you can't help yourself.
Parents are a mountain and a river in the eyes of their children, but they also hide too much helplessness. Mountains have shade, and water also encounters cliffs and dikes.
04
If one day, you hate your parents, it means that you have started to see your parents from a different perspective, but they are not comprehensive enough.
If we observe our parents from all angles, we will know that they are ordinary people, and it is very difficult for them to live; they have the ability, but they cannot support everything for their children.
Taking history as a mirror, we can know the gains and losses, and we can also see the ups and downs of the family.
Love is not destined to be perfect, and when you accept your parents, broken love is another kind of beauty.
There are many people in the world, and the only ones who can love you selflessly are your parents, right?
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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