After Gu Manting and Xu Hao divorced, they found out that they were pregnant. The husband and wife have been married for many years, and they originally said that they wanted Dink, but now the husband openly and secretly says that he wants to have children, I think, this is for any woman, and it will not be easy to be a wife, right?
What's more, Gu Manting didn't give birth, not because she didn't want to give birth, but because she had a child at the beginning, and she didn't keep it for physical reasons, and her sadness for the child at the beginning and the fear of getting pregnant again in the future caused her to be unable to cross the hurdle in her heart.
Xu Hao only knew that he wanted a child, but he never thought that the child was not conceived in him, it was not he who bore the pain, and it was not he who bore the worries.
All marriages that lack empathy and cannot achieve empathy will come to an end.
Divorce.
When Gu Manting filed for divorce, she hid it from all her family. Her father has been diagnosed with cancer and his days are numbered, and the family's shop is facing a hostile takeover.
Gu Manting wanted Xu Hao to give some money to help his father keep the Chuanbai Building, but Xu Hao refused. She has nothing to do on weekdays, but she has no worries about food and clothing, but at this moment she deeply understands the misery and pain of housewives, she wants to do something, but she can't do anything, except to file for divorce. And what problems can divorce solve?
On the day of the divorce, Gu Manting's mother and mother-in-law came. The mother-in-law kept accusing Gu Manting of not knowing how to cherish it, and she had to have a good life, but she had to make a divorce. The mother told her daughter that if she felt wronged, she would leave, and it was no big deal.
The difference between mother-in-law and mother-in-law once again proves that the joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same.
Before the divorce procedures were completed, Gu Manting's father Gu Dapeng died. Therefore, Gu Dapeng's tombstone is still engraved with the name of his son-in-law Xu Hao, which is probably a sign in the dark, indicating that the fate of Gu Manting and Xu Hao is not over.
It's just Gu Dapeng's funeral, Xu Hao didn't appear. During that time, in fact, Xu Hao's life was not easy, business was not good, and Xu Hao mortgaged his family's house. Xu Hao only told his father-in-law Gu Dapeng about these things, and the family's house was mortgaged, but his wife didn't know about it.
In Gu Manting's eyes, Xu Hao is a cold-blooded and selfish person, he is a cold and uninterested person to the difficulties of his father and Chuan Bailou, and refuses to lend a hand even though he is capable.
But Xu Hao felt that as a man, he had the responsibility to shoulder the responsibility of supporting his family, he hid all the difficulties in his heart, and never told Gu Manting, even if it was such a big thing as mortgaging the house.
But if Xu Hao has some discussion and communication with Gu Manting, the two of them will not come to the point of divorce. Their marriage, which began with an agreement to dink, seems to have ended because they had no children. In fact, too deep estrangements and misunderstandings have already accumulated in this process.
Falling tears.
On the day of the divorce procedures, Xu Hao sent Gu Manting home, in the car, Xu Hao cried, he cried and said to Gu Manting:
I now understand that I seem to be too ego in many things, I have never considered your feelings, if I had stood by your side when you wanted to do something, supported you, was happy for you, and let you have a place of your own, wouldn't you have divorced me?
Few people's self-reflection after divorce can be so to the point, and Xu Hao has done it.
In previous marriages, Xu Hao was indeed a very selfish person. Why can Gu Manting become a housewife? Because Xu Hao does not let Gu Manting participate in the operation of his parents' Sichuan White Building, he feels that it will lower his wife's grade, and he hopes that Gu Manting will learn equestrian and golf, and become one of the wealthy and wealthy people.
But Xu Hao is not a wealthy family herself, Gu Manting can't fit into that circle, and she is not interested at all, what she is interested in, Xu Hao prevents her from doing it, Xu Hao is dedicated to building Gu Manting according to her own wishes, which is the deepest source of pain that makes Gu Manting feel in this marriage.
Including having children. At the beginning, Gu Manting lost her child, which was very painful, and she was told by the doctor that her physique itself was not easy to keep the child, so Gu Manting proposed to break up with Xu Hao.
Xu Hao didn't want to lose Gu Manting, and immediately said that he could not have children, and he would be a dink in the future, as long as the two of them could be together. Xu Hao said that he wanted to be a Dink, and what he wanted was to keep Gu Manting for now, and then slowly relieve her in the future and persuade her to have children, rather than that he really gave up having children.
From the very beginning, Xu Hao kept trying to change Gu Manting according to his own wishes, and if he couldn't change it at the moment, he would use the strategy of delaying the army and slowly change it in the future. However, Gu Manting also grew up in the palm of her parents' hands since she was a child, she has her own thoughts and opinions, and she will not let Xu Hao transform her, so the contradictions in their marriage are accumulating more and more.
If Gu Manting hadn't been extremely disappointed and filed for divorce this time, Xu Hao would not have been able to recognize his problems so accurately. The man has tears and doesn't flick, this time he really regretted the pain, but in this world, not all regrets have a chance to make up.
Pregnant.
After divorcing Xu Hao, Gu Manting partnered with Lu Zhenzhen and Liang Qingran to open a new restaurant, and she had her own business.
Although Liu Siyuan's new career is facing many difficulties, Gu Manting's heart is full and happy, on the one hand, she is no longer an idle housewife, on the other hand, she also has a way to pass on her father's cooking skills.
What made Gu Manting even happier was that she found out that she was pregnant.
In the past, Xu Hao tried all kinds of ways to persuade her to have a child, but she refused very strongly, in fact, in her heart, why not longing to have a child of her own? On the day she decided to divorce Xu Hao, Gu Manting removed the baby room she had arranged for many years, although she said Dink, in fact, she never gave up the idea of wanting a child in her heart.
It was also this pregnancy that made us see even more how wrong Xu Hao was in the past. Xu Hao just took it for granted that Gu Manting didn't want to have children, and was bent on how to persuade her and change her, but he never thought of fundamentally untying her heart knot and understanding her true heart.
Xu Hao once found a Chinese medicine doctor for Gu Manting to regulate her body, but she was afraid that Gu Manting would be angry, so she used the excuse that her mother-in-law was looking for her. When the Chinese medicine doctor asked Gu Manting when the last time she had sex, Gu Manting replied that it had been almost a year.
This can also see that the state between their husband and wife is not a question of having or not having children at all, but Xu Hao has too many assumptions and too much self-centeredness, not only did he forget to take into account Gu Manting's thoughts and feelings, but he also did not communicate with her well at all.
When a husband and wife, even the frequency of intimacy has to be calculated on an annual basis, can you imagine how bad they get along in other aspects? Xu Hao only thought that all their problems were because Gu Manting didn't want to have children, but he didn't know that this was just an inversion of cause and effect, because he didn't become a qualified husband, Gu Manting couldn't let go of the mustard and have children.
Fortunately, Xu Hao finally sobered up. It can be predicted that Gu Manting and Xu Hao will eventually remarry.
However, in life, not everyone has such good luck.
The happiness of marriage does not depend on changing the other party, not self-righteousness for the good of the other party, but more empathy, more communication and exchanges, more support and understanding.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.