According to the statistics of the China Research Center on Aging, more than 65% of families in urban areas have the phenomenon of "old and young", and 20% do not admit that they are old because of face.
Another 10% want to gnaw on the old, but their parents can't afford to let them gnaw, and only 5% are completely independent of their parents.
Bai Yansong said well, children have high working income, short working hours, and many social benefits, which child is willing to gnaw at the old!
Buying a marital house, giving a dowry, and letting the old man take care of the children Are not gnawing at the elderly? How many people are able to pay the above expenses in full on their own at marriageable age? And how many people later return these expenses to their parents with principal and interest? Parents in ordinary families deserve to be gnawed to the point of poverty or death?
In fact, there is no conscience and no sense of responsibility. Selfish, their own comfort is given by their parents. Parents worked hard and frugally. Let the old people work hard, but the young people take it for granted.
Every time we go to see my mother, we buy vegetables and cook, and after eating, we clean up before leaving, and we won't let my mother spend money and work.
It's also very good, the general parents are afraid that you will spend money indiscriminately and can't save money, in fact, they are helping you save money, and they can't take the money away, so they must give it to the younger.
In the past, the old people looked forward to reunion, but now the old people are afraid of reunion, and the old people want to change from a skill to a universal one. It is said that you can enjoy life when you are old, but how many old people can get their wish, their son is worried about getting married, and then they take their grandchildren, cook and do housework, when is it a head...
In fact, children don't have to be very successful, as long as they can support themselves and don't worry their parents too much, it is filial piety.
There is a good saying, children are excellent to spread their wings and contribute to the country, children are mediocre just under the knees, do not gnaw the old to be able to support themselves and live hard is a good child, no need to be too demanding, and do not have to compare with others, life, plain is true.
How much savings can children have when they first enter society, and the house was originally for living in, but now it has become a luxury, and ordinary families can't afford to buy a house after two or three generations of empty pockets. What if the children don't want to gnaw on the old? In order to make a living, there are many people who can't find a job to deliver food after graduating from college.
My mom is a doctor, every time we go back to our hometown for the Chinese New Year, it is the busiest time for my mom, 6:30 in the morning until 2 o'clock in the afternoon, there is no time to eat, let alone cook for us, so most of the time I help cook.
Every day, for breakfast, I usually make things like fried dumplings, finger cakes, etc., which can be stuffed directly into my mother's mouth. When the patients saw it, they praised me for my filial piety, and I said what is this, when I was a child, she fed me, and now I feed her, not as it should be.
Now this child wants to take the public entrance examination, some may really want to take the exam, and some may just use this as an excuse.
Let's not say that the country needs so many graduate students, civil servants, I feel that just by virtue of their own ability, there are basically very few people who can be admitted to the civil service, and the effort does not mean that there will be a return.
Why did families with many children live poorer days in the past, and it was rare to see the old people gnawing at them? It is because the only child has been spoiled since he was a child, and the habit of raising the old and the young has become a problem, and family education is also the main reason.
Most only children are like this, self-centered, married or not having children, once they have children, they just have to give birth and don't raise them, and the burden naturally falls on the elders.
There are many such phenomena among young people on our side, although they have grown up and worked, they are not independent, especially boys, before marriage, the woman asks for a house, a car, hardware, a bride price, a wedding banquet.
Parents spent all their life savings, gave birth to grandchildren after marriage, and continued to gnaw on the pension of the elderly, to live in a confinement center, hire a nanny, buy vegetables, buy milk powder, buy diapers, cook and do housework, watch children, and pick up and drop off when the grandson is older, and buy vegetables and cook and wait for the son's family to pat their butts and leave after eating.
If you don't spend money and don't take care of children, your daughter-in-law will say that you don't look at me when I'm young, and I don't look at you when you're old. Anyway, when our generation was young, our children worked hard to bring them up, and when they were old, they had to continue to work hard to serve the next generation, but their children thought that their parents should be doing this, and they were at ease with the old gnaw.
In fact, some of the old gnawing is also the habit of parents, my mother's downstairs house, my son is almost thirty years old, every day at home to sleep and play games, sometimes do not come out of the meal, parents have a pension, no money to give, the child has not been to work, tired so old that he doesn't even talk about an object, completely lying flat and gnawing the old.
Now the main reason is that there is a problem with the income structure, and those over 50 years old in the system, including retired personnel, are really paid more than three young people, but it is clear that young people do the most work, and they are also the most on the front line, but compared with the older generation, they get the least.
I think that there are few children in the family now, and they have been dependent and spoiled since childhood, which has led to gnawing on the old people. Children from poor families or families with many children are independent and sensible.
At that time, parents suffered a lot for their children, giving their children the best life, giving their children the best school education, and now the children have grown up, but the children's wings have not grown, or even have no wings, how to let the children fly. There is a problem with our education, there is a problem with the educational philosophy of parents.
Parents have been nurturing in this way when they first raised their children, but when they grow up, they have to complain, who can blame them? Which of the children who go to school is not the same as the emperor, but when they are older? They have not been trained well since they were young, so they can only bear it when they are old.
But think about it carefully, many ordinary young people are under great pressure to work, the salary is not ideal, buying a house and getting married is a headache for many people, many of them are parents who have accumulated for many years to make a down payment, and then it is not easy for ordinary people in rural areas to support a college student, and they are facing employment problems after graduating from college.
It's a good thing that retirement wages are rising every year, but the gap between the rich and the poor is too great.
The average person's pension can only solve the problem of food and clothing, there is really no extra money for children to gnaw, if you want to live in a nursing home when you are old, you can't afford it!
If you have a high retirement salary, you have five or six thousand a month, you can't eat it yourself, you can travel, eat and drink well, and you can have some leftovers for your children to gnaw on!
People who have more retirement salaries, seven or eight million a month, or more, will definitely not be able to eat it themselves, and if they don't give it to their children, who will they leave it to?
You don't have to ask them to have a high salary, they can help poor households!
Therefore, young people can't blame young people for gnawing on the old, but it is caused by uneven distribution.
Besides, it is really not easy for young people to make money now, they are tired and tired, and they don't make much money.