Every mother is an angel sent by God to her children, and maternal love is the greatest kind of love in the world, but many mothers are actually in spiritual exhaustion.
Being a mother requires not only love, time, energy and companionship, but also a kind of self-cultivation for mothers.
Only a mother with an optimistic and positive attitude and a healthy attitude can raise a child with a positive personality and a sound personality.
So to be a mother, you must first make yourself that optimistic and positive person, rather than mental internal friction, it is better to wait for the flowers to bloom.
Both life and nurturing require a sense of relaxation
A relaxed family, respectful of each other, who face the world around them together.
If the bowl is broken, we will clean it up together, if we go the wrong way, we will take a look at the scenery by the way, and if we mess up, we will start again...
The "sense of relaxation" in the adult world is essentially not complaining or blaming when encountering things, and communicating peacefully with a positive way of thinking.
Children need this sense of relaxation more than adults. The sense of relaxation of parents determines the happiness of children.
Psychologist Li Xue once said: "A body can only bear one soul, and if the control of parents is impenetrable, the child has actually died mentally." ”
Think about being surrounded by KPIs all the time at work and urged by the leader's whip, can you still be in a good state to immerse yourself in the work itself?
I often ask my mother, what class does your baby have registered?
Ask ourselves if learning something is really something that children like or if it is to solve our own inner anxieties.
"The scariest thing about Chinese parents is that they transfer their growing anxieties to their children. ”
Respect children, but also respect the laws of children's growth, so that children can grow up according to the rhythm of life itself.
Provide children with an appropriate growth environment, let them experience and try by themselves, and the creatures themselves have the instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages!
Ten years of tree cultivation, a hundred years of education, don't turn a rhythmic marathon into a 100-meter sprint!
Let moms be like moms and children like kids
We need to play different roles at different stages of life, and for the role of a mother, the greatest sense of fulfillment comes from the process of raising children.
While we pay attention to the parenting part, we should also pay attention to the needs of mothers as independent individuals.
Pay attention to your emotional state and inner needs, and when we allow ourselves to see our true selves, we will naturally allow our children to see their true selves.
We are daughters, we are mothers, and we are ourselves!
Leave some space and time for yourself! satisfy yourself first, then your children.
True love is not about giving children what their parents want, nor is it about forcing children to be what their parents want them to be.
Be what they want for themselves first, be what they want first, and then, children will naturally follow our way and become what they want to be.
We cannot and should not transfer the pressures and expectations of our lives to others.
Yes, no one person should and can take on another person's life.
Tao Xingzhi once said:
"We have two extremes of psychology towards children, both of which are harmful to children. One is to ignore, and the other is to expect too much.
Neglect is to leave it to fend for itself like thatch, and to be too eager will inevitably encourage the seedlings to grow, but to promote their premature death. ”
Finding a balance between the two, so that children can be self-conscious and hard-working, is a test of parents' wisdom.
The ideal way is to raise children half richly and give them enough love and companionship.
Half invest in yourself and awaken your child's inner motivation with the power of action and example.
Not all the energy is put into the child, which is called the heart, and it is not the time to invest in education, which is called being responsible.
Life is an experience, and nurturing is the process of experiencing and feeling the growth of life
The purpose of educating children is not to let others see how well we do and how well-behaved and obedient children are, but the purpose of cultivating children is to enable them to understand themselves, understand others, and deal with all kinds of people and things in life independently.
Parents and children can only communicate on the basis of equal trust, and the premise for children to like you is to make them feel your sincerity.
You are not condescending, but respectful and communicative with each other like his friends.
I want to say to my child: You are a first-time baby, and I am also a first-time mother, so we both have to take care of each other.
I'm not perfect, so please grow with me and take me where you want to go in the future and I haven't.
Life is full of expectations and unknowns, and these moms want to experience it with you!
Yes, growing up with children is the deepest healing in life!
Write to the end
This book is a book that every woman needs to read, in fact, I think men should also read this book to understand the difficulty of women being mothers.
There is a lot that women can learn from this book, and they can see the problem of children as a kind of cultivation in their own lives.
Parents are the brushes of their children's lives, so don't be too full of love, and leave space for your children's lives.
Every child comes into the world with a cute appearance and his own color, and every child is different, so I never compare my own children with other children.
There are no two identical leaves in this world, and there are as many lives as there are people in this world.
The child does not have to live as anyone expects and advertises, she just needs to live as she likes, and be truly happy.
Yes, the plants and trees have their own hearts, why do you need beauties to fold.