Did you find that those who dared to turn their faces when their parents did these "4 things" were happy in the family
Filial piety also has principles and bottom lines, if parents do these 4 things, they must learn to turn their faces. Filial piety to parents has been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation since ancient times, and most people have been educated to be filial to their parents since childhood, and this has become a habit and inheritance. But filial piety also has a bottom line and principles, and it does not mean that blindly satisfying the wishes of parents means filial piety. When it is time to turn your face, you still have to turn your face decisively, these are for their sake, especially when parents do these 4 things, they must come forward to stop it immediately, and the family will be more harmonious and happy when they stop it in time.
Parents turn their faces when they are overly saving.
Many people of the older generation have the habit of thrift and thrift, and even achieve the ultimate in thrift, even if the food is bad, they are not willing to throw it away, but will cut off the bad part and continue to eat. There are countless people who have this kind of behavior, but they don't know that excessive frugality is like losing a watermelon and picking up sesame seeds, and many problems may arise.
Parents turn their faces when they sacrifice excessively.
It is said that parents' love for their children is selfless, and in order to make their children happy, parents would rather give everything they have. But sometimes these sacrifices of parents seem a little redundant, such as when they can afford to buy a large box of fruit and bring it back to the family to taste together. But the parents didn't do this, but only chose the child's share, just watched the child eat, and taught the child to say: You see that your parents are not willing to eat, you have to be filial to your parents in the future.
Parents turn their faces when they are extremely controlling.
Our parents raised us from a young age, and in the process of parenting, our parents will naturally involve some of our privacy, and even control us. But in fact, parental control must also be kept within the appropriate range, if the parent's desire to control is stronger, we have to become what they think we are, we also need to decisively refuse. Because each person is an individual, if our parents force their own desires on us, it will cause us a lot of stress.
In the long run, we will become physically and mentally exhausted, and even affect the development of our personality, which will lead to problems such as personality distortion and extremes. But when communicating with parents, you also need to pay attention to the method, you can't blindly resist, you can briefly explain the stakes to them, so as to fight for their own rights, so that they can clearly know that you are not their accessory, but an individual with an independent personality.
Parents turn their faces when they are overly pleased.
In life, it is often involved in the problem of interacting with people, but when it comes to controlling interpersonal relationships, many parents are not sure what to do. In the eyes of parents, when they need help from others, they have to be low-minded, compromised, and even bring gifts to the door. Think that this will allow others to help and even get the attention of others, but the result of doing so will make people look down on you even more, let alone help, and even they will sneer at you deep down.
A large part of the reason for this situation is that the parents are too weak, and such an image will leave the other party with a particularly easy to handle feeling. Let them think that such people are especially easy to bully, and it doesn't matter if they are bullied casually. Out of consideration for parents, if you find that your parents are too flattering to others, you must turn your face with them in time and tell them that there is an equal relationship between people, and there is no need to be inferior to please others.