In this world of fame and fortune, money, status, and achievement are undoubtedly the goals that many people pursue in their lives. They do not hesitate to pay a huge price for these things, and even unknowingly sacrifice the most precious part of their lives - the happiness and harmony of the family.
Family gives us a sense of security and belonging, and is our strongest support in the face of adversity. Sadly, too many people don't appreciate it until they lose their families.
This is the case of the once-high-profile famous musician Li Shuangjiang, who pursued career achievements all his life, but made irreparable mistakes in family education. It wasn't until he was old and decrepit that he realized how empty and helpless money and status were.
The peerless music scholar eventually became a "bad father" who was questioned and criticized. In the face of his son Li Tianyi's criminal behavior again and again, he not only protected and connived, but even defended his reputation and interests at all costs.
Seeing his family falling apart little by little, he was unmoved, lest he hurt his image in the eyes of outsiders. It wasn't until the last moment of his life that he painfully realized that money and status could not be exchanged for the warmth of a family, and all the glory was not worth a happy home.
Dilemmas and life choices
The afterglow of life was fading, and Li Shuangjiang looked at the wrinkled face in the mirror, and he realized that he had already entered a dead end from which there was no turning back.
In order to satisfy his only son Li Tianyi's extravagant material desires, he chases money and reputation at any cost, but none of this can be exchanged for a warm and harmonious family.
Seeing his family shattered little by little, he felt unprecedented pain and helplessness.
Once, he dreamed so much of a great musician and won the glory of all people. But now he is just a "bad father" who is spurned by society.
He could have taught his only son in the right way, but he connived at and shielded Li Tianyi's criminal behavior again and again, which eventually led to the tragedy of family breakup.
Li Shuangjiang deeply regretted that if he could cherish his relationship with his wife Mengge and guide his son to grow up in a rational and wise way, maybe he would not be physically and mentally exhausted today and die alone.
Yes, all achievements and status are so ethereal, only the warmth of family is eternal. Unfortunately, by the time he realized this cruel truth, it was already too late.
Family life at a young age
Going back a few decades, Li Shuangjiang was still a teacher at the conservatory of music, and when he first met Mengge, he was deeply attracted by this talented and beautiful student.
Dream Pigeon also seems to have infinite admiration for this mysterious teacher, and always sits in the front row during class, eagerly hoping to get even the slightest attention from him.
Despite the 27-year age difference between the two, this did not prevent the love that slowly grew between them. Mengge often asked Li Shuangjiang for music theory knowledge, and the relationship between the two gradually became ambiguous from teacher and student.
Finally in 1990, they confessed their hearts to each other and entered the palace of marriage without hesitation.
After marriage, in order to support the family wholeheartedly, Mengge took the initiative to give up his singing career. Her only hope is to give birth to a son for her husband Li Shuangjiang, so as to strengthen the emotional bond between the two.
After several efforts, in 1996, the crystallization of their love - Li Tianyi was born.
Li Shuangjiang's meticulous attention and doting indulged Li Tianyi's willful and reckless personality. Since elementary school, Li Tianyi has frequently bullied his classmates, and his behavior problems are so serious that he was expelled from school.
To make matters worse, instead of punishing him, Li Shuangjiang did everything possible to seek privileges for him in an aristocratic school, and even gave him a luxury BMW, when he was a minor.
Family conflicts intensified
Li Tianyi's deviant behavior intensified, eventually triggering a series of family conflicts and judicial disputes. For example, in an unlicensed drunk driving incident, Li Tianyi, who was a minor at the time, was driving a BMW car given to him by his father and accidentally hit and injured a passer-by couple.
What is even more outrageous is that in a bar brawl, Li Tianyi and others openly abused and beat a waitress Xiao Yang. They forcibly made Xiao Yang drink strong liquor, slapped her in the face when she refused, and finally brutally threw a pile of banknotes on the ground, forcing her to crouch down and pick them up.
In the face of his son's heinous criminal behaviors again and again, Li Shuangjiang has never been ruthless to punish him severely. In a TV interview, he bluntly said that he was "unwilling to punish his children in his heart" and "tried to use persuasion to achieve the goal of stopping".
However, it was this unprincipled connivance and tolerance that completely spoiled Li Tianyi.
Mengge saw it in her eyes and felt pain in her heart, she could no longer tolerate her husband's actions, so the two had a major disagreement on the concept of education, and the contradiction intensified little by little.
In the end, Mengge saw that Li Shuangjiang was not a qualified good father, so he could only choose to break with him. In this way, a once happy family was destroyed by his own hands.
The importance of educational methods
Parents play a vital role as guides as everyone grows up. A good father should not spoil his children, but should cultivate their sound conduct and values in a correct and reasonable way.
Parents should give their children the freedom to take responsibility and not allow them to act recklessly.
The reason why Li Shuangjiang embarked on the road of no return from which there is no turning back is that his educational philosophy and practice of his son Li Tianyi completely violated these basic principles.
His doting and connivance not only ruined his son's character, but also eventually led to the breakdown and breakup of the family.
Educate children rationally
Family happiness is the most valuable asset in life, far more precious than career achievements and financial status. It's a pity that Li Shuangjiang didn't realize this truth painfully until he was old.
If he had cherished his relationship with his wife Mengge earlier and educated his son in a correct and reasonable way, he might not have embarked on the lonely road of no return.
In a person's life, there will be countless choices and struggles. It is human nature to pursue career success, but the happiness of the family must not be sacrificed for the sake of these false names.
A warm and harmonious family is the greatest reliance and source of strength in life. Don't wait until you lose your family to regret it, and don't hurt the whole family with your child's mistakes again and again like Li Shuangjiang.
While it is important to educate children and give them the care they deserve, it is also important to nurture in them sound character and values in the right way, so that they understand that there are responsibilities and consequences for their mistakes.
This is not only about whether the child can become an excellent person in the future, but also responsible for the whole family and even the society.
Therefore, let us cherish the happiness of the family together and guide every child with a rational and wise attitude. Don't be like Li Shuangjiang, who pits family and career against each other, and ends up empty-handed.
Only by putting family first can we have a truly happy life.