Changing one's destiny starts with staying away from emotional troubles
How to change one's destiny with the least investment is to keep oneself away from emotional troubles, which is a matter of emotion and thinking, and it is also the way to change one's destiny with the minimum investment.
Using three tools and one mechanism to change fate is true love for yourself.
Many times, your troubles are not because others have hurt you, but because you are too sensitive.
Let the interpersonal relationship live in harmony, look at people's strengths, help people's difficulties, remember people's benefits, be kind and transparent, I am me, he is him, don't care about other people's affairs, do your best.
Personal cause and effect are personal, know how to be open-minded, tolerant and forgiving, if you think about people and things for good, then there is no bad person in the world in front of you.
Training to speak with tools, establishing and entering a new communication mechanism, and using mechanism tools to control one's own speaking mode is the best measure to change one's fate:
Tool 1, the six levels of goodness
The six levels of goodness are used as the underlying logic of communication with people, which is to empower wisdom.
Tool 2, a new five-discourse connotation
Using five new discourse connotations as a new channel for communication with others is a condition for earnings.
Tool 3, the seven thresholds of true growth
Using the seven thresholds of true learning, as a model for communicating with others, is the real learning and growth.
Mechanism 1, first followed and then Yang is expressed
Using the expression of first followed and then promoted as a formula for communication is the real efficient and empowering action.
First, it is required to listen attentively, to know what the other party is talking about, is the process of defining and doing, is the premise of all efficient and effective communication, and what is the problem to solve.
After listening, it is to focus on listening, in response to the other party's speech, the commendable highlights, to praise in a solid and targeted manner, and to hear the demands or existing problems behind the speech (dare to expose the problem is also worthy of praise, which is the root of the complaint and confidant).
Expression, use the combination of the three tools given above to express your attitude, or it can be a supplement (when you have different views, don't say that the other party is wrong, just say that I make some additions and extensions).
Take the seven thresholds of true growth as a guide to action, learn to discover differences, do actions to learn from each other's strengths, and do your own innovative and creative growth.
Take the five discourses with new connotations as the path channel, and improve the speech mode (this is something that needs to be trained well, and it is the improvement of the discourse mode).
The six-level expression of doing good is the real efficient and effective speech, and you will find that the magic of language is infinite, and the real one is [Xuan Zhi Xuan, the door of all wonders].
What (vision), why (motivation), how to do (action)!
