Narrator: Sun Hongmei / Finishing: Qingyan / Picture: Internet
On the morning of the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, everyone was still immersed in the festive atmosphere of the New Year, I leaned on the sofa with tears, and my wife sat in front of the coffee table with her head down, sad, helpless, and unable to speak, and the two of us sat silently for three hours.
3 days ago, in order to welcome our daughter back for the New Year, nervous and happy, I didn't expect that I stayed at home for 3 days, and we ate 4 meals together, she left in a hurry, my wife and I sent her to the train station, I told my daughter to have a safe journey, to call me, but she picked up the suitcase, did not look back into the station, my two lines of tears can't stop flowing down, this year is really sad!
In 2023, her daughter first fell out of love, then quit her job, and at the age of 32, she "has nothing"!
Last year was a big blow for my daughter.
My wife and I are 60 years old, and we used to be employees of a state-owned factory in a prefecture-level city in Hebei Province, and our factory is located 50 kilometers away from the city center, and we have lived in this factory community for 40 years.
Although the benefits of our factory are average, we attach great importance to education, and there are many outstanding children among our children, who have been admitted to 211 or 985, and many of them have stayed in Beijing, Shanghai, and Guangzhou, one by one.
My daughter's academic performance is relatively average, she was only admitted to a second school in the provincial capital, and after graduation, she changed several jobs one after another, and one of her recent jobs was a staff member of a foreign trade company. Although her ability and grades are average, she is filial and considerate, and has a good temper, my wife and I are still quite content, and I hope that she will marry a good family.
Unexpectedly, we have been looking forward to this little wish for 8 years, but we haven't looked forward to it.
After graduating, she met a graduate student from our university through a friend's introduction, he was from the countryside next door to us, he was not tall, only 168, but he couldn't stand his daughter's willingness. Unexpectedly, they lived together for 4 years, and the boy never came to our house, nor did he let his daughter go to his house, and never mentioned marriage.
In the past, every year during the Chinese New Year, my daughter came back, my wife and I were very angry, and asked her to quickly talk to this object, if she wanted to get married, as soon as possible, if she had no intention of getting married, she would break up and find it again, and her daughter was a hundred unwilling, and she always insisted on being with him.
Unexpectedly, last year, the boy was admitted to the system, and he broke up with his daughter after less than 3 months of work, and his daughter didn't answer his phone, went to the unit to find him, and went to his newly bought house to find him away, and his daughter was about to collapse.
The daughter was seriously injured, she may have expected that the boy would not marry her, but she didn't expect him to be so decisive, she didn't want to work, so she quit her job, and now, at the age of 32, she has nothing.
My daughter's misfortune is the most uncomfortable to be a mother, I kept calling my daughter to ask her to come back for the New Year, and she reluctantly agreed.
When my daughter just fell out of love, she called me every day to find comfort, and after more than a month, she seemed to suddenly want to open and quit her job, my wife and I asked her to go back to her hometown, and she didn't go back, so she continued to wander alone in the provincial capital.
Every time we visit our relatives during the Chinese New Year, and when we face our neighbors and colleagues, we will discuss whose children's jobs they do, how much is their annual salary? How old are the children? What does the other half do? She feels that this year she has no face to deal with these people's interrogations.
I firmly told my daughter: life is our own, don't care what others say, you came back to be with your parents, not with them. Your father and I don't think there's anything, as long as you're happy, we'll be happy! Come back for the New Year, you're alone outside for the holidays, and your mother doesn't feel good in her heart!
My daughter thought about it for a week and finally agreed to come back! My wife and I were so excited! She began to say that she would come back in the new year, but it dragged on, and we didn't wait until 4 p.m. on the Chinese New Year's Eve until she entered the house.
From the time my daughter returned home in her thirties to the fourth day of junior high school, she had four meals at home.
On the morning of the thirties, my wife and I began to work on the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, and our daughter Yu's favorite donkey meat sausages, grilled fish, spring cakes, and beef in sauce were all arranged.
However, as soon as she entered the door, she put down her suitcase and said that she was tired, and went back to the house to sleep for 3 hours, and in the evening, when everyone was busy eating the reunion dinner, we called her up, she sat down at the dining table with her head down, and ate less than ten bites, so she excused herself and said that she was not hungry, and turned back to the room.
At the dinner table, my wife and I were left staring at each other, I knocked softly on the door and entered the room, and whispered to my daughter: Don't think about anything, let's have a good New Year!
Unexpectedly, my daughter actually cried, and she said to me: Mom, if you didn't have to call me back, I would have gone out for a trip for the New Year this year, and I was really tired and didn't want to face my relatives and neighbors. I also thought about it, I don't want to get married in my life, my job, don't worry, I'm studying for the certificate, and I have the ability to survive after the New Year!
From the first day of the Lunar New Year to the third day of the Lunar New Year, my daughter hid as much as she could, telling us to find classmates for dinner, but she was not staying at home anyway.
From the first to the third year of junior high school, my daughter had breakfast at home, and after eating, she told us to go to her classmates, and went out in a hurry.
Relatives are better, especially our old colleagues, a lot of idle people like to inquire about this and that, we have a sister Li on the first floor of this building, especially like to inquire about gossip, every day as long as you go out you can definitely meet her, she likes to stand at the door of the building if she has nothing to do, no matter who she sees, she chats with others for a long time, laughs at people, hates people, and then goes out to tell others the news.
Although my wife and I don't care what the neighbors think, my daughter cares, she feels embarrassed to face the greetings of these people, she is 32 years old, she still has nothing, and she really doesn't know how to answer these people's questions.
Therefore, she hid out, from the thirtieth of the Chinese New Year's Eve to the fourth day of the junior high school, she ate 4 meals at home, and none of the meals were eaten happily, and my wife and I were distressed and helpless.
My daughter left without looking back, and her future is still unknown, and my wife and I don't know where to go.
First of all, about her daughter's work, she is majoring in foreign trade, if you want to do a good job in this industry, you must be deeply involved in an industry for several years, and continue to do it in order to have results, but she has been constantly changing units and products, I am afraid that she will find a new job again, or need to start from scratch, we do not have much confidence in her work.
Secondly, regarding her daughter's marriage, she is 32 years old, and she is also an older leftover girl. Although there are many good marriages in the 30s, but we have no bottom in our hearts, let her come back home she will not return, in that huge provincial city, no relatives and no reason, who knows when we will meet the right fate?
My wife and I are really worried about this year, and so far, we have no clue at all!
We don't know how to help our daughter, what kind of help can we give her, or what kind of way can she accept it?