Letting the child wash the dishes during the Spring Festival was opposed by the whole family, am I wrong to educate the child?

During the Chinese New Year, taking the child to relatives is an indispensable project, which is not a father who made a "blockage", he especially does not understand: Is it wrong for me to educate my children?

The Xixi family is the father's brothers take turns to do the east, this is not the year of the dragon is the turn of the Xixi family to welcome relatives and friends, early in the morning Xixi and parents ushered in the aunt, second uncle, aunt three families, each family brought children, Xixi family instantly became full of people.

Lunch was a big meal prepared by Xixi's mother, and the whole family had a great meal. No one thought that such a good atmosphere would be ruined by Xixi's father.

It turned out that after dinner, Xixi's father asked Xixi to wash the dishes, Xixi didn't want to go, so his father began to teach the truth, but Xixi was not only not convinced, but also ran back to his house and closed the door.

Xixi's father felt that his daughter was too ignorant, and he made himself lose face during the New Year, and rushed into Xixi's house, which was a meal.

Now it's okay, relatives have come to dissuade him, and even the whole family is criticizing his father, persuading him not to be serious about his daughter during the New Year.

Dad didn't understand: Is it wrong for me to educate my children to do housework?

1. What is the New Year?

In fact, the persuasion of relatives and friends makes sense, what are we having during the New Year? Isn't it just a family reunion, and everything goes well?

Therefore, the customs during the Spring Festival are: do not quarrel with others, do not talk about unlucky words such as "broken", "dead", "sick", "poor", do not make offensive or disrespectful actions, and avoid overly strict criticism and accusations.

Switching to the perspective of parent-child education, in the past few days of the Chinese New Year, we still have to maintain a good mood, for the children's mistakes, point to the end, do not make harsh criticism, do not speak ill of the mouth, so that the new year can be smooth.

Among them, there is also a traditional philosophical truth.

"The Yellow Emperor's Neijing" said: Spring and March, this is called Chen, heaven and earth are born, and all things are glorious,...... Don't kill if you're born, don't take it away, reward it but don't punish it, this spring should be the way to maintain health.

This is to say that in the 3 months after the beginning of spring, parents should remember to reward more and punish less, so as to conform to the "spring atmosphere", which is a good thing for parents and children to "maintain health".

Therefore, in any way, it is better to compete less with children in spring.

Second, education is not a day or two

To say that Dad educates Xixi to participate in housework, this starting point is not wrong, but educating children is not a matter of one or two days, and it is really not in a hurry at this time.

During the Spring Festival, whether children should be allowed to do housework or not depends on whether children usually do housework.

If the child usually participates in housework and does a good job, how about giving the child a holiday during the Spring Festival?

Of course, if your child also wants to help during the Spring Festival, you should also praise him and encourage him.

If the child usually does not do housework, then forcing him to do it during the Spring Festival will not have any educational significance, but will arouse rebellion.

Not only do the children not want to do housework, but they don't even want to celebrate the Spring Festival. Pay for one's whistle.

Education has always been a long-term thing, parents should think about how to encourage their children to participate in housework in ordinary times, and shape their children's hard-working quality from labor.

Instead of staring at the Spring Festival, you have to let your children do housework.

3. Education is not a matter of face

To be honest, Xixi's father is so insistent has a lot to do with the number of people in the family.

In front of so many relatives, I, as a father, say what you say, and you as a child have to be obedient.

This is a parental style that many parents have, and to put it bluntly, it is still a problem of face.

If there were no outsiders in the family, maybe Dad wouldn't be so angry, especially the more relatives persuaded him, the more he added fuel to the fire.

Parents must remember to go online during the Chinese New Year, don't care too much about your own face, and ignore your children's feelings.

Especially after the child is 10 years old, they will also have face problems, so everyone understands each other.

If you have something to say, benign communication, and moderate compromise, it is the wisdom of parents that is reflected.

During the Spring Festival, will you let your children wash the dishes? How do you guide your children to do housework?

I am @蓁蓁psychological parenting, welcome to pay attention and learn more about family education.

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