#精品长文创作季#
稻盛和夫世界著名实业家，他的一生积累下来大量的人生智慧：人到中年，日子越活越好的3个迹象：能沉气，少计较，能扛事。
Half a life has passed, and people gradually understand that if they want to live a good life in old age, they must know how to "be calm, worry less, and carry things." ”
In this life, after going through ups and downs, and finally getting old, you should take good care of yourself, treat yourself well, don't let yourself be wronged, don't let yourself live so tired.
01：人老了，要能沉气，稳住神
The phrase "people should calm down when they reach old age" means that as they grow older, the difficulties and challenges they encounter in life will increase accordingly, and at this time, it is necessary for the elderly to have a calm and calm attitude, not to be affected by changes in the outside world, and to maintain inner peace.
First of all, you must be calm in your words. When interacting with people, especially when encountering different points of view, people are often prone to arguments. 你看天气好的时候，公园里，楼下房下，总有一些老年人，因为对待事情的看法不同，争的面红耳赤的。 但争辩往往不能解决问题，反而可能激化矛盾。 特别是老年人，争大劲儿了还容易生气，伤身。 所以，成熟稳重的人，不会轻易与人争辩，他们知道，说多无益。 It's not because they don't have a voice or because they have given up their position, but they understand that in many cases, silence is the best language. Silence is not an endorsement, but an acceptance and understanding.
Secondly, it is necessary to calm down in the mentality. When people get old, some factors from the outside world are more likely to affect our mentality. For example, physical health, family chores, social environment, etc., can make our emotions fluctuate. In 2019, my husband had more than 90% of the three cardiovascular blockages, and his heart was supported by two frames. All the way up to pulmonary fibrosis. Coughing all year round, but he is in a good state of mind, and he said to himself, I live one day at a time and earn one day.
第三，身处逆境的时候，更要沉得住气。 Life is unpredictable, and older people can encounter various difficulties. However, adversity does not mean despair, as long as we remain calm and optimistic, we will definitely find a solution to the problem. This is the so-called "keep the clouds open and see the moon", only after experiencing the darkness, can we cherish the light more.
As for my husband's illness, I can't worry about it all day, but it's useless to worry, and my daughter often advises me that I can only let him suffer less and improve the quality of life in a limited time. Happy every day.
02：人老了，要少计较，心情好
When people reach old age, they should pay less attention. "People who live too shrewdly will always see what they can't get all their lives. Getting along with people is more competitive and less calm."
Life is like a journey, and each stage has different scenery. 我学的是师范学院数学系，毕业分配到军工企业搞职工教育，我公公是我工作的企业的厂长，那个时候，我想去什么单位就去什么单位，那个时候，我们单位的教育部门我基本都工作过，从开始的技工学校、职工学校、教育处、职工中专、到子弟中学。 每一个地方都有我的足迹。 真是顺风顺水，用别人的话来说，一句话的亏都不吃，一天在单位横着走。 到子弟中学是因为九十年代职工教育面临困难，后来又调到另外一个学校，也是风光无限。 不论是工作还是同事聚会，我都员是锋芒毕露，不甘寂寞，自己觉得什么都比别人强。
但在家里，你就是妻子、母亲、儿媳、女儿。 现在是丈母娘。 所以在家里、特别是老年以后，千万不敢能跟自己的亲人较真、不能跟自己的亲人太计较！特别是不能对自己丈夫或妻子太计较。
有的人老了，还在抱怨婚姻，抱怨这一辈子娶（嫁）错了人，夫妻也许真的就是前世的冤家，我的主张是，婚姻不将就、不奏合，即然离不了，就要好好过，一日夫妻百日恩!
When I got married, I thought that I would never divorce in this life, but in my decades of married life, there must be problems of one kind or another. But it also depends on the strengths. Because the other person is your own choice.
我们在婚姻里仍然愿意执子之手，与子偕老!
In this life, people have always been getting along with others, and getting along with others will more or less produce some disagreements and contradictions. Don't keep losing your temper because of someone else's fault, when you get angry, you actually punish yourself for someone else's mistake.
When people are old, they should restrain their temper, precipitate their mood, and have troubles every day, and they don't want to be natural.
03：人呀，要能扛事，有担当
As the saying goes: if you don't carry things, you are destined to have a bumpy life;
You will find that the older you get, the more you rely on one breath to hang, and once you are discouraged, the person will collapse. So, to carry it means everything. Regarding 'carrying', we must learn from one person, and he is Zeng Guofan.
Zeng Guofan, who was a late bloomer, had great ups and downs in his life, and under the internal and external troubles of the late Qing Dynasty, he was a civil official and became a military general. He counterattacked all the way from being a homemaker in a small town and became one of the four famous ministers of the late Qing Dynasty.
Zeng Guofan was born in poverty since he was a child, and he knew that only by taking the imperial examination could he get ahead. To this end, under the guidance of his father, he studied classic books such as "The Book of Filial Piety", "University", and "The Mean", and by the age of 9, he had already completed all the Five Classics.
Looking back on Zeng Guofan's bumpy road to study, he began to take the children's exam at the age of 5, stumbling all the way, and experienced five exams before and after, although he failed every time, he still did not give up. When he was 21 years old, he took a township examination, during which he encountered an examiner who insulted him in public for his essays, and criticized him for 'too shallow in literature and science,' which embarrassed Zeng Guofan.
After these events, Zeng Guofan did not waver in his determination and ambition in the slightest. He continued to study hard and persevere, and in the seventh examination, he was selected for Xiucai at the age of twenty-three, and the following year, he was selected for Juren.
Zeng Guofan is like this, constantly stumbling with himself, not complaining when he encounters trouble, and being able to endure hardships when he encounters problems. Finally, at the age of twenty-eight, he was a Zhongjin Shi, a Hanlin, and studied hard for 23 years, and finally achieved positive results, and since then he has soared.
In fact, no one is born with a special ability to carry things, and these abilities are slowly cultivated in the tempering of life.
Being able to carry things is courage, and it is also a unique personality charm.
Zhou Bingkun of the TV series "The World" is an impressive character, he has no outstanding talent, no glamorous resume, average study, average work, ordinary, but admirable. Because he is very capable of carrying things, he also has responsibilities for his family and friends, even after repeated accidents, he will not change his will.
For his friends, he does things alone. Once, Zhou Bingkun originally wanted to help Editor-in-Chief Shao publish the poems of his brother-in-law, the famous poet Feng Huacheng, but he got into trouble and got into a big disaster. In order to protect the future of the editor-in-chief Shao, Zhou Bingkun took all the mistakes alone and was in prison. Editor-in-chief Shao has always kept this kindness in his heart.
For his family, he bears the hardships himself, and only asks for nothing in return. When her mother fell ill and fell into a coma, Zheng Juan and he were responsible for taking care of her mother throughout the whole process, but they did not tell her father and brother who were working outside the home, let alone her sister who lost contact. Later, when my mother woke up, everyone knew all this. Father Zhou's words expressed everyone's hearts: "Without Bingkun, I really don't know what will happen to this family." ”
Really good people are always unfazed, calm, and decisive in everything. No matter what kind of unexpected situation you encounter, no matter how complex the emotional relationship you face, you can calmly deal with it and make the most correct decision.
Therefore, the ability to carry things is the most important skill that needs to be cultivated in a person's life. A person who can solve problems no matter what he encounters is the real king in life. Life is an ordeal, and no one will enjoy a smooth sailing life forever. When God opens a window, He will close a window for you.
但人到老年，想扛事也不太容易，因为好多性格已经形成了，有些能力是天生的，有些是后天磨练出来的，但人到老年尽量多担待、多担当，多扛事。
Sometimes when you are in a desperate situation, there are only two endings, either life or death. If you don't try, if you don't try, there is only one ending. Try hard, maybe there will be a different ending.
The highest state of life is abundant quietness.
When you are old, be a quiet passerby, don't worry too much, don't interfere too much, learn to let go, and be yourself quietly.
Like we are now at our daughter's house in Canada, our old couple just do our own things every day, never worry about the children's affairs, my daughter told me, I listened, and I never took the initiative to inquire.
In just a few decades of life, I have overcome the ditches and hurdles, endured a lot of hardships, and suffered a lot of tiredness, before I gradually entered the life of old age.
The rest of your life is very expensive, you must be kind to yourself, don't suppress your mood, let alone let yourself be wronged, learn to rest yourself, keep your mind calm, don't compete, don't get angry, and live well.
"Wellness is something that makes you feel like it's the best time of the year," Adams said. Mr. Zhou Guoping said:
"When you reach a certain age, you must always learn to live in peace with everything around you. ”