44-year-old Tang Wei: has separated, does not divorce, and takes the baby alone

Finally saw Tang Wei again.

Recently, she gave a rare interview, rarely talking about marriage and family.

Not only did he tear up the divorce rumors in person, but when asked about the order of family members, Tang Wei's order was like this:

Parents > husbands > daughters.

When the host Zheng Yuling heard this, her jaw dropped in surprise: Is her husband more important than her daughter?

This sorting has sparked a lot of discussions, and many netizens expressed their understanding.

This conversation made Gigi feel Tang Wei's transparency.

Because the essence of family sorting is a reflection of her control over life.

We may be able to see Tang Wei's character and outlook on life from this sorting.

She came from an ordinary well-off family. 's happy and carefree childhood has shaped Tang Wei's casual and indifferent personality today.

For example, the parents in the first line, she mentioned many times that she was very grateful to her parents for everything she had given her.

Tang Wei's father is a famous painter, and the mother of the Yue Opera actor also loves to paint.

Under the immersion of art, Tang Wei, who has a lively personality, has a little more background and broadens her vision of life.

When she received the invitation from "Lust and Caution", her parents were worried about the large-scale performance in the film, but in the end they chose to support her.

Tang Wei once thanked her parents for educating her at the FIRST Film Festival.

I am grateful that my family has opened my eyes, both with my parents and with my children, and has given me a different perspective on life.

Her parents' enlightened approach to education has cultivated her strong core.

And it is precisely because she is stable enough in her core and independent enough in spirit that she supports every decision she makes.

For example, marrying a Korean husband far away.

became friends for many years because of the filming of "Late Autumn".

Compared with the suitability of the two personalities, Tang Wei values more that he understands her enough.

It is not difficult to see that one of the reasons why Tang Wei chose to enter marriage is that the other party sees her self.

After getting married, she and her husband lived in rural Korea for a while and lived as a farmer.

Far from the glamorous and glamorous sense of plastic in the domestic entertainment industry, her vigorous vitality is more charming.

For giving birth to children, she is also reckless to the end.

Tang Wei never felt that her daughter was still young, so she was taboo to talk about life and death.

She explained the reason to her daughter frankly and seriously:

Because one day in the future, you will leave, and when you leave, someone like your father will appear with you, so you will not be with me at that time.

The most important opportunity to have a child was that she wanted to find something that would break her from the inside out.

The birth of a child is based on her exhaustion of her possibilities.

Some people say that she is selfish, but it is precisely because of this "selfishness" that she has been able to form a better view of parenting.

There is a small detail.

She once asked her daughter if she would prefer her to refer to herself as "me" or "mom."

As a result, the daughter's answer was the former.

The daughter not only thinks she is her mother, but also thinks she is herself.

It was Tang Wei's "selfishness" that created such a healthy parent-child relationship.

The daughter, who is at the bottom of the family rankings, has actually received the most attention.

On Tang Wei's social platform, which is not very updated, a lot of cute baby daily life has been recorded.

Tang Wei cherishes the process of accompanying her daughter to grow up.

Especially the marriage model that has been sung down by the media in recent years, she and her husband live separately.

She settled in Beijing with her daughter, and her husband works in South Korea, so she will stay in Beijing to accompany the mother and daughter when she has time.

As early as 2021, Tang Wei revealed such an idea: to install his most comfortable home in China.

The two years when the marriage change was the most fierce was the two years that Tang Wei planned to settle down in Beijing.

First, it is really to have more time with my daughter.

During the filming of "The Determination to Break Up", she was away from her daughter for nearly half a year, so that in the end, the mother and daughter did not understand the language and needed a translator.

So two years after filming, Tang Wei went into hiding and returned to his family.

Only during awards season will there be a chance to see her appear in public.

The short silence, in addition to accompanying her family, is also an opportunity for her to precipitate herself.

This explains why Tang Wei, who is now 44 years old, can still maintain such a full state.

Like she said, family is one of the sources of her sense of security.

In a state of trying to maintain himself, he was able to balance his family and career with ease.

While taking care of the family, do not forget to absorb the nutrients of life, and when the opportunity comes, you can fully bloom yourself.

In this regard, Papi sauce is very similar to her, and she can be called the Tang Wei of the Internet celebrity.

Papi sauce also disclosed her own ranking earlier, and even completed the "self" that Tang Wei did not mention.

In the end.

The starting point of their family order is the same path, that is, self.

Unlike Tang Wei, Papi sauce's original family is not too happy.

Her parents often quarreled, so much so that she always habitually became the one who adjusted the atmosphere, and this also laid the foundation for her to become a joker in the future.

Fortunately, as an only child, she had several good friends who were worthy of deep friendship very early.

Like her current husband Lao Hu, college classmate Huo Nifang and current partner Yang Ming of the company, etc.

These intimate relationships, to a certain extent, make up for the lack of emotion caused to her by her parents' divorce.

She strives to be unaffected by her family of origin and strives to create a new self.

I still remember that after the news of Papi-chan giving birth to a child came out, it caused an uproar on the Internet.

Because of the child's "husband's surname", he was scolded as a "married donkey" and "crooked ass...... Later, it gradually evolved into this dispute, which was a drama directed and acted by herself.

Despite the controversy, Papi-chan has never regretted her choice to have children.

There is no way to prove yourself, so just do your best.

When asked whether she was giving or receiving in the family, she blurted out: I am the person in charge.

Because of this strong sense of self, she also takes care of her family and career very well, and admits that she has not lost anything for her family.

After so many years, she has indeed not given up creation, and still focuses on producing more interesting short videos.

We have seen countless Internet celebrities frequently overturn, or some have long faded out of public view, but this first generation of Internet celebrities is still standing, and is praised as the "Queen of Chunyuan" in the Internet celebrity industry.

In the finale of "Flowers", the friendship line between Linghong and Reiko played by Papi-chan also touched many people.

has survived so many rights and wrongs, and the development is getting better and better, which is enough to prove that Papi sauce is also a person with an extremely stable core.

As talk show host Ding Ding Zhang said: Papi is very clear about herself, knows what she can do and likes to do, and can have her own areas, which can allow her to continue to maintain herself.

Looking at it this way, the growth trajectory of Papi-chan and Tang Wei after becoming a mother coincides-

Before they got married and had children, they had already transformed into people with strong souls in the midst of criticism.

is similar to Zhu Zhu, who became popular in "Sister Lang" last year, a woman who carves elegance into her bones.

She can walk in a sexy style, and she is very sweet when she laughs. has a straightforward personality on variety shows, and instantly has countless fans.

But after archaeology, it will be found that it is only a matter of time before she becomes popular.

Zhu Zhu was born well-off, has been selected as a global beautiful face for ten consecutive years, and has been an MTV host and singer. The New York Times commented that she is one of the more successful Chinese actresses in Hollywood.

But she was scolded for a long time because of a love history.

The ex-boyfriend used to be Rapp Elcan, Italy's top richest man, and his properties include Ferrari, Maserati, etc.

The two once walked the red carpet together in Cannes, and she was not famous at the time, she was very bold and went into battle in a vacuum, and was scolded as a "scheming girl" and a vain "gold worshipper".

Later, her ex-boyfriend was photographed kissing someone else on the street, and she broke up decisively, but it was said that "the dream of a wealthy family was shattered".

Now 39 years old, she finally married her husband who was a top student outside the circle and had a daughter.

To some extent, she is more similar to Tang Wei.

For example, they are all girls whose parents love and grow up in love.

Both of them are actors, have art-related interests and hobbies, and they are both related to "painting".

Zhu Zhu loves to see art exhibitions and is a partner of Art Space.

What's more, the trajectories of the two after marriage are also highly overlapping.

They all believe that the complex relationships that arise from having children have changed their lives from the inside out.

Zhu Zhu also had a period of separation from her daughter due to work.

When she saw her daughter again, she wrote a letter to her, full of love between the lines.

Like Tang Wei, Zhu Zhu continued to precipitate himself at the age of Bensi.

Just finished "Sister Lang", instead of making money by the heat, she went to HEC Paris to study creativity and media management.

Their lives, in Zhu Zhu's words, are to be a good actor, a good wife, and a good mother, and the most important thing is to be yourself, love yourself, and give yourself a life.

They are all well-deserved heroines in their lives.

But our appreciation of these female stars does not mean that they are the only model for women, but more to gain a kind of energy.

There is no doubt that compared to ordinary people, their starting point is indeed much higher.

But as women who are also married, they also need to face inevitable problems.

Like Zhu Zhu, she also has to hurry up to make up for sleep, because her daughter has to be breastfed when she wakes up, and like Tang Wei, she also has the same problem of frequent urination after giving birth......

There are always endless problems, but the mentality of how to face them is optional.

If you can't do the same relaxation as Tang Wei and Zhu Zhu, it doesn't matter, doesn't papi sauce also open up another side for us?

It's good to try to learn to accept yourself.