16 years old salary of 300,000 yuan, betrayed by Li Yapeng at the age of 28, unmarried and childless, 52-year-old Ke Lan has become the envy of all women

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Editor-in-charge|Xiang Wanwan

"I'm only in love, not married. ”

Nowadays, many young women often talk about this sentence, but after a period of time, many people still choose to compromise on marriage.

And there is a woman in the entertainment industry, but she really "only falls in love, not gets married". 

10 years ago, at the age of 42, she fell in love with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend proposed to her, but she did not agree, and many people thought that she was trying to test her boyfriend. 

After her boyfriend pampered her for 10 years, he proposed to her again, and although she also loved her boyfriend deeply, she still rejected him.

Now 52 years old, she still relies on her own independent work and lives the wanton life she wants.

This person is Ke Lan, who is called "the woman who lives the most freely" by Yang Lan.

Some people say that Ke Lan doesn't know how to cherish it if she doesn't marry her boyfriend, and some people say that Ke Lan is selfish, but people who really know Ke Lan admire Ke Lan's spontaneous courage.

Why is Ke Lan able to live so recklessly?

Actually, it's all because she has a strong enough heart. 

01

A childhood born illustriously, but through hardships

"I will do what I like in the future", this is the 12-year-old Ke Lan's expectations for his future.

 Ke Lan, formerly known as Zhong Haohao, was born in Beijing in 1972. 

Her grandfather, Zhong Qiguang, was one of China's 54 founding generals, and her grandmother was not only a military minister for three generations, but also a heroine during the war.

As the eldest granddaughter in the family, Ke Lan has lived with her grandparents since she was a child, and is favored by her grandparents.

Ke Lan has liked to perform in front of everyone since she was a child, and she often told her grandparents at that time that she wanted to be a host when she grew up.

Her grandparents were very supportive of her and told her to study more and realize her dreams on her own in the future. 

In order to find an audience, every time a guest comes to the house, she will let the guests watch her perform with a dead face, and these guests will be amused by Ke Lan's immature and hard-working performance.

Ke Lan was also very satisfied when he saw everyone laughing, so he also laughed with everyone.

However, this reckless and reckless happy life came to an abrupt end when Ke Lan was 6 years old. 

This year, Ke Lan's parents' marriage broke down, and Ke Lan lived with his mother who was a dancer.

Ke Lan has lived in Shanghai, Wuxi and other places, and when his mother is too busy, Ke Lan will return to Beijing to live with his uncle, aunt or uncle.

This kind of life under the fence has allowed Ke Lan, who was once cheerful and confident, to learn to observe words and feelings, and even deliberately please others.

However, the god of fate did not favor Ke Lan because of this.

When Ke Lan was 12 years old, life gave her another blow: she was diagnosed with both spondylitis and asthma, which runs in her family. 

During an attack of spondylitis, Colan was in pain and could not stand up straight, and during an asthma attack, Colan had difficulty breathing.

These two diseases are not only painful and incurable, and the doctor diagnosed that Ke Lan will not live to be 38 years old.

Under the torture of illness, Ke Lan almost died in the hospital bed several times.

Ke Lan survived several times after rescue, and at that time she would often lie on the hospital bed and think: If I can live, how will I spend my life?

Until one day, Ke Lan finally figured it out: life is short, and in the days to come, I will be relieved to do what I like, love the people I love, and not let people have regrets in life. 

02

Bravely challenge and achieve the status of "first sister" in the hosting industry

At the age of 14, Ke Lan's condition improved, she wanted to go outside to see the wider world, and with the help of her parents, Ke Lan came to Canada to study alone. 

In Canada, Ke Lan not only has to study, but also because her family is not as good as before, she has to earn money to support herself. 

Because of the influence of his grandparents since he was a child, coupled with the torture of illness, Ke Lan is more independent and mature than his peers.

After arriving in Canada, even though she was only sixteen or seventeen years old at the time, she was able to support herself by working as a waitress and cleaner. 

Every summer vacation, Ke Lan will come to Hong Kong, where her mother lives, to work. 

By chance, Ke Lan came into contact with the modeling industry.

Although her mother didn't support Ke Lan in this business, Ke Lan still wanted to stick to what she wanted to do.

At that time, Ke Lan had a small head, wore a miniskirt, and was full of personality, and her unique temperament was popular in the Hong Kong modeling industry.

Soon Ke Lan became famous, she was not yet 20 years old, and she could earn more than 300,000 Hong Kong dollars a month. 

Although the modeling industry makes a lot of money, Ke Lan still wants to do more challenging work, and the hosting dream that has been hidden in his heart for many years has once again broken ground.

In 1994, Ke Lan successfully entered the satellite TV music station after layers of selection, becoming the first generation of VJ popular in Asia.

After working for two years, Ke Lan, who was only 24 years old, transferred to Phoenix Satellite TV and became an entertainment host.

She changed the host's serious hosting style in the past, and she quickly won the recognition of the audience, making her shine on Phoenix Satellite TV, and was called the "Phoenix Three Sisters" along with Xu Gehui and Lu Yu. 

Later, Ke Lan also hosted the "Women in the World" program with Yang Lan, and the two cooperated tacitly in the show, and were affectionately called "blue partners" by the audience.

It is said that brave people enjoy the world first, and Ke Lan stood at the peak of his life at a young age with his courageous spirit.

 However, compared with the smooth sailing of his career, Ke Lan's love life is quite bumpy.

03 

has a successful career, but the two true feelings are in vain

In 1996, Ke Lan met Li Yapeng, who had just debuted, at a party. 

At that time, Li Yapeng was not only young and handsome, with an elegant temperament, but also very good at talking to love, which deeply attracted Ke Lan. 

Li Yapeng was also very attentive to Ke Lan at the beginning, and he tried his best to take care of Ke Lan, making Ke Lan want to marry him and be with him for a long time.

In order to help Li Yapeng, Ke Lan not only posted it financially, but also tried his best to introduce the resources of his entertainment industry to Li Yapeng.

With the help of Ke Lan, Li Yapeng soon became the leading actor of "Beijing-Hong Kong Love Line", and after the broadcast of this play, Li Yapeng began to become famous in the entertainment industry.

Although at this time, Ke Lan occasionally heard scandals about Li Yapeng and other actresses.

But Ke Lan didn't believe that Li Yapeng, who was so sincere in front of her, would be such a person, and she still helped Li Yapeng get more resources regardless of it. 

In the second year, Li Yapeng became a smash hit idol star with the drama "Carry on Love to the End", and at this time there were more scandals about him.

Ke Lan still didn't want to believe the rumors outside, and it wasn't until Li Yapeng's declaration of love for Qu Ying became known to everyone that Ke Lan had to accept the fact that Li Yapeng split his legs.

For Ke Lan's desperate dedication, her best friend scolded her distressedly, "You are too stupid".

But Ke Lan replied unrepentantly: Life is so short, it is not easy to meet a lover, since you are in love, where can you be so clear. ”

In 2000, Conan ended the relationship and left Hong Kong for Shanghai to develop.

 In Shanghai, there is Ke Lan's old acquaintance, musician Li Quan, and the two often talk about music and life together.

Li Quan's musical talent made Ke Lan appreciate it very much, and Ke Lan's cleverness also made Li Quan feel good, and gradually the two developed feelings and established a relationship. 

Li Quan is a very talented person, and he is also very attentive to Ke Lan, and Ke Lan loves him very much, however, after 7 years, this relationship finally ended in a breakup.

It turned out that later, Li Quan wanted to marry Ke Lan more and more urgently, he put the wedding on the agenda, as long as Ke Lan was free, he would take Ke Lan to pick out a wedding dress and see the new house, his approach gave Ke Lan a lot of psychological pressure. 

Therefore, Ke Lan often uses his busy work to escape Li Quan. 

However, the more she escaped, the tighter Li Quan chased after her. 

Later, the traditional Li Quan actually proposed to let Ke Lan give up his career and be a woman with a husband and children. 

How could Ke Lan, who has been independent and self-reliant since childhood, be willing to let her life depend on a man? She still has so many unfinished dreams to realize, and she will not give up being herself because of her feelings.

Every failure is an opportunity for a person to rediscover himself. 

After the end of this relationship, Ke Lan's thoughts on relationship and marriage have changed a lot, she believes that marriage is not the most important thing for a woman, and the most important thing for a woman is to live out herself and let herself bloom wantonly. 

04

The actor's career is rising, and his feelings only blossom but do not bear fruit

 Everyone who dares to chase love is a brave person. 

When Ke Lan was the host, she filmed many film and television dramas, and in 2002, when she was filming "Subway to Spring", she met actor Geng Le, and the two quickly became good friends because of their similar interests. 

However, Geng Le already had a girlfriend at that time, and Ke Lan was also in love with Li Quan.

Later, the two filmed together many times, and every time they met, they had endless topics to talk about. 

When Ke Lan broke up with Li Quan, she was depressed, and she told Geng Le about her depressed feelings. 

This time, Geng Le told Ke Lan that he and his girlfriend had also broken up, and confessed to Ke Lan: "Why don't we be together." ” 

At the beginning of every relationship, it is happy, but it is not easy for this happiness and happiness to continue for a long time.

Just like Ke Lan and Geng Le's relationship, it was strong at the beginning, but because of the lack of gathering and separation, the relationship slowly faded, and the two finally broke up.

Ke Lan is a reckless person, as she herself said, "The relationship is over, I will not be immersed in it anymore", although he has experienced several failed relationships, Ke Lan still has the courage to chase love.

Not long after, Ke Lan attracted the world's attention because of his fourth relationship. 

In 2008, Ke Lan starred in the TV series "The Right Way in the World is the Vicissitudes of Life" with Sun Honglei and Huang Zhizhong.

When filming this drama, there were many dangerous scenes, because Ke Lan had spondylitis, the director wanted to let a stand-in replace Ke Lan on the stage, but Ke Lan refused, she said: "This little thing, I can do it myself." ”

Ke Lan's reckless and pungent personality charm attracted the actor Huang Zhizhong who was filming together, and Huang Zhizhong's struggle experience from a basketball player to an actor also made Ke Lan admire him very much, but at this time, Huang Zhizhong was a family man, and the two only maintained a "good buddy" relationship. 

In 2009, because Ke Lan couldn't get used to the hypocrisy of some guests on the show, she quit her 15-year hosting job and devoted herself to her acting career, so she had more intersections with Huang Zhizhong. 

In 2011, the relationship between Huang Zhizhong and his wife broke down, and after the divorce, he soon pursued Ke Lan, Ke Lan was moved by Huang Zhizhong's sincerity, and later the two walked together. 

However, many people did not bless Ke Lan's relationship, and they even accused Ke Lan, saying that Ke Lan was a "little three" who destroyed Huang Zhizhong's family.

In this regard, Ke Lan and Huang Zhizhong both denied it, and Ke Lan also said: "I don't care what you think, I don't care if you like me or not, my life is short, I just want to live a good life, I haven't broken the law, I'm afraid of a fart." “ 

However, there will always be regrets in life. 

Ke Lan, who has a perfect lover, has been tepid in her acting career.

Until 2016, Ke Lan won the best actress for her outstanding performance in the play "In the Name of the People", and her acting career entered its peak. 

Some people guess that Ke Lan, who has a successful career, should get married soon, right?

After all, she has been with Huang Zhizhong for many years, and Ke Lan is already a 45-year-old middle-aged woman, doesn't she want to have a warm home and a man she can rely on for a long time?

However, the fact is that the powerful Ke Lan still rejected Huang Zhizhong's marriage proposal, she said that she had long since stopped looking forward to marriage, and she just wanted to live a wanton life by herself. 

Write at the end

Now, Ke Lan is 52 years old, and she is still active in the film industry, and she and Huang Zhizhong are still like "good buddies" in life, living a life without the constraints of marriage. 

In recent years, Ke Lan has also devoted himself to the public welfare of caring for rural teachers and veterans, and has helped more people in need while living his own wanton life.

Ke Lan's life is a life of quenching and rebirth, after being born to death several times, she worked hard to climb towards her goal, and finally bloomed her own brilliance in the hosting industry and the entertainment industry.

Ke Lan's life is also the life of a brave person, she does not bind herself with the world's vision, walks her own path independently and bravely, loves what she loves, and lives happily.

Her independence and courage are worth learning from each of us.

I hope that Ke Lan will continue to be brave and be himself in the future and live a wanton life of his own.