I saw a murder case on the news again, and the reason is still extremely simple, because of emotional disputes. But what kind of emotional disputes can rise to the level of wielding a knife? How many lives are made to endorse such emotional disputes?
When we analyze the factors behind the whole case in detail, we will find that the reasons are actually very simple. But the reason why it has risen to the level of murder is that it is an emotion at work, and an irresolvable anger dominates everything. And anger is a very easy part of our human emotions to get out of control.
However, anger occupies a very important place in our emotional list, and it has a profound impact on the final development direction of each person, a group of people, and a country. Then the in-depth study of emotions will inevitably become a mission that psychologists are committed to accomplishing.
Alan Baker, the father of cognitive behavioral therapy, is known as "one of the five most influential psychotherapists in history", so what is his understanding of anger? In his detailed analysis of anger, what insights do you provide us that are unique to the field of psychotherapy?
In this book, the first thing we read is a large number of real-life examples from the author. As a therapist, he inevitably deals with all kinds of emotional out-of-control in his daily work life, and this is the sensitivity of a psychologist. This anger may come from his client, or more likely, from someone close to him.
In fact, he believes that anger is often a manifestation of our human automatic thinking, and it is a natural response of human beings in their self-perception.
The author also lists a lot of scenarios that are of great practical significance, such as thinking that we are victims, such as low self-esteem, such as falling into anxiety, such as cognitive distortion, and all of these are actually related to ourselves, and are our own irrational perception of the external world.
And this irrational perception will even extend to the collective level. The clearest example of this is hatred of hostile nations. When we plant the seeds of hatred in our hearts, the other party is no longer a living individual, but a group image. This kind of hatred and this kind of recognition will inevitably reduce the burden on our hearts, and we will do such horrific things as war, massacre, and genocide. For this is a perception blinded by the collective unconscious, which sees the victim as a mere image rather than a living individual.
From this perspective, we should pay more attention to the impact of anger on human beings, from small individuals to large countries can do extremely out-of-the-ordinary things under the coercion of anger.
So in the author's cognition, in the exploration of such a psychologist, is there a possibility of change? "Cognitive-behavioral therapy" is a kind of psychotherapy that focuses on our own thinking and our cognition of the external world. The core idea of such a therapy is to allow us to identify the source of our anger, to expand our perspective on the problem, to see that the object of our anger actually has the same qualities as us, so that we can rationalize the world with a righteous and caring ethic and an altruistic mindset. Then the anger in our hearts will inevitably subside, and we will inevitably make more rational behavioral decisions.
Then let us have a comprehensive and clear understanding of anger through such a classic work of psychology, recognize the disastrous consequences of anger to us, and use psychological methods to make changes based on these consequences, so as to help us look at the world objectively and truthfully, and deal with the world with our own positive and kind attitude. #Angry##Angry##Psycho#