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My name is Li Feng, I am 38 years old and I am a middle school Chinese teacher. I have an older brother named Lehi, who is 7 years older than me, and he is a salesman.
10 years ago, when I first got married, I was living on a tight budget and the house had not yet been renovated. My wife and I still live in a rental house, and we can't afford to renovate it. At this time, I called my brother Lehi to borrow money.
"Decoration? This matter is important! 30,000 yuan is indeed a lot for you now. This is no problem, brother, you can borrow it if you can use it, my brother doesn't have much savings here, everything he can make up will be given to you!" Lehi readily agreed.
"Thank you so much, brother! Lina and I are grateful for your help! I will pay it back as soon as possible!" I was thrilled to have my brother's help.
"Okay, good brother, why do you say so many polite words, we brothers, help each other in difficulties, isn't it. Don't worry about money, the most important thing is to do a good job of decoration, don't let Lina be wronged. ”
I hung up the phone, and a warm feeling rose in my heart. My brother is good at everything, but he is too generous, and he can lend all his savings to my younger brother, who is really generous and helpful.
Ten years have passed, and although my wife and I are not living comfortably, there is basically no major financial pressure, and our children are in school. I've been busy, and Lehi has never mentioned money, so I forgot about it in such a daze.
Yesterday at noon, I suddenly received a call from Lehi.
"Hey, Li Feng, your nephew is getting married next month, how about it, are you going to give a nice gift?" Lehi's tone sounded happy.
"What? Hong'er is getting married? So soon! Okay, good, you must give a nice gift, you can't lose the face of our Li family!" I'm glad too.
"That's it, but, Hong'er's money is not enough, and there are hundreds of thousands of shorts, so I want to call and ask you, can you support me and send Hong'er a good red envelope within your ability?" When I heard that I was paying back 30,000 yuan, the alarm bell immediately sounded in my mind. After so many years, I have forgotten this money, and now my nephew is getting married, and Lehi mentions this at this time, it seems that the money is not enough.
"Yes, brother, I forgot about the money you paid me back! Otherwise, you will first repay the 30,000 yuan I borrowed from you, and then you can take out as much as you can take out, in short, Hong'er's side is short of hundreds of thousands, let's find a way to make it up together!" Lehi said briskly.
I was silent. Indeed, I owe him 30,000 and I should pay it off first. But after so many years, I have long spent this money, and now it is really difficult to take it out at once.
Just then, my wife, Lina, came back. Seeing my troubled look, she asked me with concern what was wrong. I told her a brief story.
Lina comforted me: "Honey, I understand how you feel right now. However, we don't need to pay too much attention to the money thing, we can just figure it out slowly. You can support your nephew as much as you can according to your financial ability. Don't embarrass yourself. ”
"Brother Hai, I'm sorry, I haven't paid you back for so many years, it's me who is wrong. I want to pay you back right now, but I really can't get that much cash at once. I have done my best to give my nephew a red envelope of 10,000 yuan first. You should think that I will pay you back a part first. For the rest, can I give me a little time to pay it off slowly?" I said to Lehi with some humility.
Lehi was silent for a while, and then sighed heavily: "It's also strange that I was bent on helping your brother back then, and lent out all my savings, and now my life is also very poor." This money is also important to me. But then again, I blamed myself for mentioning this to you a long time ago, which makes both sides very uncomfortable now. ”
"Okay, okay, it's here, it's good to know your mistakes. I'm not short of that $10,000 now. It's just, brother, remember to borrow and repay in the future, and don't make the two of you so uncomfortable again, you know?" Lehi patted me heavily on the shoulder.
"Got it, Brother Hai! I really learned a lesson! I promise that if I borrow money in the future, I will repay it on a fixed period of time!"
"Okay, that's it! I believe you. Let's go, drink two cups to crush the shock!"
Lehi's hearty personality relieved my self-reproachful heart a little. I am very fortunate to have met such a generous brother.
Just after Lehi and I had a few drinks, Lehi's cell phone suddenly rang. He picked it up and chatted a few words, with a look of surprise and ecstasy on his face.
I looked at him curiously. "Brother Hai, why are you so happy?"
"Haha, what a surprise to me! Let me tell you, the moving company just called and said that when they were sorting out the storage room, they found an old box that I had stored back then, and when they were about to throw it away, they found that it was full of money!"
"What?! Loaded with money?" My eyes widened.
"Yes, it was a little savings I saved more than ten years ago, and then I don't remember where I put it, I always thought it was lost! Lehi smiled from ear to ear.
It was as if I had been struck by lightning, and I was speechless.
"Brother Hai, I can't believe it! This is simply pie in the sky lucky! Your savings have been found again, great!" I shouted excitedly.
Li Hai said confidently: "Haha, I'll just say it, there is no endless way! Now Zihong'er's marriage has come to an end, and you don't have to pay me back your 30,000 yuan, killing two birds with one stone!"
I thought for a moment, and then said solemnly to Lehi: "No, Brother Hai, I must pay you back that money! Although I have found my long-lost savings, it does not mean that I can not pay the debt I owe you." A word is a certainty, people will believe their words, and I will definitely find a way to pay it off. ”
Lehi patted me approvingly on the shoulder: "Okay! I really have a brother like you!"
A month later, I happily attended my nephew's wedding. Li Hong was also very happy and said to me with a smile: "Uncle! Thank you so much! You gave me such a large amount of red envelopes, which helped me a lot!"
I also smiled and said, "No thanks, no thanks, of course I have to do my best when you get married! ”
Li Hong happily gave me a big hug. I looked at his happy smiling face, and my heart welled up with a wave of contented joy.
After the wedding, I transferred money to Lehi to pay off some of the arrears. As the days passed, I struggled to pay off the debt, and Lehi never spoke of it again. However, I have learned the lesson and will never be left with a debt that I cannot repay because of luck.
Lehi and I got drunk and got home at 3 a.m. Lina was already asleep, and I crawled into bed lightly, but I still woke her.
"You came back so late, you drank too much, right?" Lina asked in a daze.
"Well, Lehi and I drank too much. "I pressed my temples in pain, and the hangover headache was hard for me.
"How's the matter going on? Have you returned his money?"
"You!" Lina sighed in disappointment, "People borrowed all their savings from you, and you didn't even mention an installment repayment plan to him?
"You're always so unplanned, passive. I've exhausted all the kindness of others, so think of countermeasures to redeem it!" Lina reproached.
Lehi was silent on the phone for a long time, and then said, "Brother, I shouldn't have bothered you with this money all the time, I was too blind at the beginning. You pay it back slowly, don't embarrass yourself. ”
I know that so many years of delinquency have shattered his trust in me. I felt guilty. "Brother Hai, let me make a guarantee to you: I will pay this money, this year's interest will be paid in full and on time; Starting next year, I will repay you regularly every month, and I will definitely pay it off within two years! This is my Li Feng's promise!"
Lehi let out a soft "um" on the other end of the line, but I could tell he didn't fully believe me. I felt more self-blaming and anxious. After so many years of indebtedness, how can I regain his trust?
I repeatedly promised Lehi over the phone that I would keep my promise. After hanging up the phone, I said to Lina with a firm gaze: "I must let Brother Hai see that I have learned a lesson through the action of repaying the money, and I am not the person who only shirked and evaded problems before!"
Lina nodded and patted me on the shoulder encouragingly, "Come on!"
Now I am even more sad. During the Chinese New Year, Lehi called.
"How's it going, brother?" Lehi asked straight to the point.
My heart rose to my throat: "Brother Hai, don't worry! I will still pay the full amount of interest to your card on time this year!"
"I'm not worried about that. I just want to ask, what you said earlier about the promise of repayment in installments within two years, can you still keep it in this environment? If it is really difficult, you can tell me. Lehi asked hesitantly.
Li Hai on the other end of the phone sighed softly: "Brother, I see that you are also very uncomfortable now." Otherwise, I won't mention the money to you first, you take care of yourself first, and the most important thing is to get through this difficulty. Let's discuss the money later?"
I was silent. I understood that Lehi cared about me, but it also meant that he was starting to lose faith in me. It made me feel guilty and anxious, but it strengthened my resolve even more.
"Brother Hai, thank you for your understanding. But I'm still going to keep my promises. You helped me solve a big problem back then, and I must not break my word, this is my minimum bottom line as a qualified person. I'm going to pay it back. This pandemic is a problem for everyone, and we support each other. Please trust me!"
I heard Lehi sigh softly again on the other end of the phone, "Okay, brother, I choose to trust you one more time." I hope you won't let me down this time. ”
"Definitely not!" I solemnly promise. This time, I must not let Lehi spoil his happiness again.
One day, two years later, I arrived at Lehi's house full of excitement.
"Brother Hai! I'm here to fulfill my promise! This is the last repayment I owe you, please take a look!" I handed the card to Lehi.
"Don't worry, Brother Hai!" I excitedly said, "I'm doing well! Although the past two years have not been easy, I have readjusted my career direction, and then my business has gradually improved." So, you see, I didn't break my promise, and I paid off all the money that should have been paid back to you on time!"
Lehi smiled with satisfaction: "Okay, good! I knew I was right to believe you." Brother, I'm so proud of you!"
He hugged me hard. I was thrilled too. The huge psychological burden of paying off the debt was finally lifted, and the long-standing knot between me and Lehi was removed. I knew that his trust had been won back.
That experience taught me a lot of truths.
I know that "it is not difficult to borrow and borrow again", we will inevitably have the need to borrow money in life, but we must cherish the help and trust of others as we do with life, and we must be grateful and responsible.
I also learned the importance of prevention before it happens. In the face of the impact of unexpected events such as the epidemic, we must be fully prepared in advance, rather than rushing to deal with it after the fact.
In addition, I saw the need to uphold integrity. When the promise encounters difficulties, only by keeping the promise and credibility more scrupulously can we win the respect of others and obtain inner satisfaction.
In the days of working remotely from home, I was uncertain about what the future holds. Lina and her children's living expenses continue to increase, but I don't know when I will get back on track. I can't help but regret that I didn't accumulate more emergency reserves in time, and now I can only passively wait, hoping that the situation will improve.
At this time, Lehi's call came again: "Brother, I heard that your business has been affected a lot?"
"Alright, brother, I understand your current situation. Alas, this epidemic has made everyone suffer enough!" Lehi's tone was full of sympathy, "It's the previous incident, your plan to repay the money must be postponed." If you have any difficulties, just say it, let's renegotiate the time!"
Hanging up the phone, I fell into a long period of thought.
In the past, I always chose to avoid problems, and I easily made promises without thinking too many consequences, and then found a reason to break my promise when I was in trouble. However, I understand that this time must be different.
The trials and tribulations of the past few years have made me see a lot of things clearly. I began to reflect on who I am and what is really important in life.
Integrity, keeping promises, and keeping promises, these seemingly distant virtues, I finally realized that they connect people with the deepest trust between people. This trust is the cornerstone of the world.
I could no longer make Lehi trust me to the fullest. It's not just about my relationship with him, it's about my bottom line and dignity as a person. No matter how difficult the environment is, no matter how variable the outside world is, the promises are all made by oneself, and they must be kept; Problems are of their own making, and they must be faced. This is the attitude of a mature person.
So, on that gloomy weekday afternoon, I solemnly wrote a paragraph in my diary:
I believe that with this heart, I will eventually get through all the storms in front of me and in the future.
Two years later, I paid off my arrears on time and regained Lehi's trust and respect. It was the most precious turning point in my life.
I am no longer the self who only made excuses to prevaricate in the past, but a mature man who took the initiative to face problems and kept his promises; I saw what was really lasting in life, and I found the strength of my will in the face of adversity.
This series of life lessons has helped me get out of the way and I have gained a hard-won philosophy of life. It has made me more tolerant, open-minded and positive, and I believe that I will pass on this positive energy to my family and children.
On the road ahead, there are still countless unknown storms and rains waiting, but from now on, no matter how the outside world changes, the lamp of faith in my heart will always be due north.
When the epidemic gradually stabilized and various places began to gradually resume work and production, I also ushered in the opportunity to regroup.
After repeated considerations, I decided to end my original business and transform into cross-border e-commerce. This area has become one of the few rising areas during the epidemic. I intend to quickly establish myself in a new industry through Xi and joint partners.
In order to better focus on this transformation, I proposed to live separately from Lina for a while. This was met with strong opposition from her: "Why do you want to run away again? Last time you said you wanted to pay back the money and didn't care about your family, and now you want to leave home to start a business? Where do you put my feelings and that of my children?"
I whispered, "Lina, I know I've thrown you aside all this time, and I made a mistake. But believe me, this time it's not just for the dream, it's for our common future. I'm going to succeed this time, and then our whole family will have a better life. ”
Lina was still very sad. I was very distressed, but my determination to transform was very strong. Eventually, on the condition that I had repeatedly promised to come back to see them, Lina reluctantly agreed.
The night before leaving, I hugged my son and said to him very seriously: "Dad is going away this time, and it may take many days to come back." During this time, you have to protect your mother and study Xi hard, you know?"
"Got it, Dad must work hard and make more money to buy us delicious food!" There was a hint of maturity in his innocent words.
I couldn't help but burst into tears. At this moment, I was determined to succeed.
However, reality soon hit me hard.
All kinds of setbacks made me depressed and stressful during my life in the border city. I don't know what to do.
Just when I was confused, Lina's phone called: "Why haven't you called home for so long?
I didn't tell her the truth, I just said that I had been busy lately. Lina cried on the phone: "You're lying! There must be something wrong! Our mother and son are so worried about you every day, and you don't tell us how difficult it is outside!"
I listened to her cry of pain, and my heart was like a knife. But I knew that I had to get through it on my own this time.
"Lina, believe me! There will inevitably be failures and obstacles, and this is testing me. But I'll get through it and I'll come back to see you when I succeed, and we'll be better off than before!"
I tried to make my tone appear confident and determined. In the end, Lina didn't ask any more questions, leaving only endless advice. However, I knew that I could not live up to the expectations of their mother and son.
I pulled myself together and revisited my business plans. After careful analysis, I realized that many of the failures stemmed from the original Zhang Guan Li Dai and short-sightedness.
This time, I slowed down and systematically learned Xi every aspect of cross-border e-commerce from scratch, and studied successful cases in depth. I also paid a high price to hire professional tutors with practical experience for long-term guidance.
Finally, after countless adjustments and failed adjustments, my business gradually got on track! This time, I clearly felt that all the efforts I had made in front of me had paid off handsomely.
I excitedly made a video call to my family, who were thousands of miles away. Seeing my wife and daughter's happy tears, I was so excited that I couldn't speak.
"Husband, congratulations on your success! We are all very proud of you! This time you definitely won it with real skills!" Lina couldn't be happier for me.
"Daddy is the best! My daughter's innocent blessing brought tears to my eyes.