Narrator: Ms. Yan
01
I stood in front of the window, looking at the sky in the distance, and I felt an indescribable feeling of depression in my heart. The phone call I just received weighed on my heart like a heavy stone and left me breathless.
On the other end of the phone, it was my ex-husband's mother, who asked me to remarry her son in a commanding tone. I took a deep breath and said to her slowly, "I'm sorry, you're not qualified to order me right now. ”
When I think back to our married life, I can't help but feel a pang of heartache. During that time, I gave too much for my family, but in exchange for endless indifference and pickiness.
My mother-in-law's meanness and pickiness made me feel depressed in this family. She always regarded herself as an elder and pointed fingers at me, from housework to children's education, she had to intervene.
I tried to communicate, I tried to understand, but every time it ended in failure. The stubbornness and prejudice of the mother-in-law make us more and more distant from each other.
And the ex-husband, in the process, chose to be silent. He never stood on my side and said a word for me. His silence made me feel isolated in this home.
Finally, after a heated argument with my mother-in-law, I chose to leave.
I knew that this marriage was irretrievable, and I could only move forward alone with scars all over my body. The moment I left, I didn't look back, because I knew that there was no longer anything I was nostalgic for.
02
After the divorce, I started a new life. Despite the difficulties, I persevered. I work hard, take care of the kids, try to make myself better. I know that only in this way can I step out of the shadow of the past and embrace the new future.
However, just as I was trying to get out of the predicament, my mother-in-law's phone pierced my heart like a thorn. She demanded that my son and I remarry immediately, and in a commanding tone, as if I was still the daughter-in-law who could be at her mercy.
I laughed, a little bitterly. I told her that I was no longer the daughter-in-law who could be at her mercy. I have my dignity and I have my choices. I won't change my decision because of her orders.
The mother-in-law was silent on the other end of the phone for a moment, and then her tone became a little agitated. She began to use all sorts of reasons to convince me to remarry, that my house had become a mess after I left, that her son couldn't do without me. I listened to her words, but there was no trace of turmoil in my heart.
I told her that her son was no longer my responsibility because we were divorced. He needs to learn to be independent and learn to take responsibility for himself. And I, too, have started a new life, and I never want to go back to that home full of depression and indifference.
My mother-in-law didn't seem to be able to accept my decision, and she started ranting on the other end of the phone, attacking me with all kinds of vicious words. I listened to her words that bordered on insult, but there was not a trace of turmoil in my heart.
I know that she can't accept my resolute departure, nor can she accept that her daughter-in-law, who she once looked down on so much, is now doing better than her son.
03
I told her that I would not be at her mercy any longer. I have my life and my choices, and I will live it my way. I hope she will respect my decision and stop interfering in my life, because she has no right to ask me to do anything now.
With that, I hung up. I knew that this call was going to make our relationship even more strained, but I don't care about that anymore. I only hope that my mother-in-law will understand that I am not an appendage to her, that I have my own dignity and freedom.
Standing in front of the window, I took a deep breath and felt the fresh air wash across my face. I know that I have stepped out of the shadows of the past. I will continue to work hard, take good care of my children, and make myself better and stronger.
And for my mother-in-law's orders and requests, I will laugh it off. Because I'm no longer the daughter-in-law who can be at her mercy at will. I have my life and my choices, and I will live it my way.
"I'm sorry, you're not qualified to order me right now." This sentence is not only my response to my mother-in-law, but also my farewell to my past life.
I will cherish my current life and strive to pursue my dreams and happiness. And those hurts and shadows of the past, I will leave them in the past and let them be the motivation for me to move forward.
Write at the end:
It can be said that the trigger for Ms. Yan's divorce from her ex-husband was her mother-in-law.
According to a divorce survey, nearly half of the divorced families in China are divorced because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled properly.
And the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often has to rely on the power of men, because these two women have one thing in common, that is, they both love him. Therefore, this man must have the role of connecting the upper and lower sides, so that neither side is offended, and neither side is jealous, so as to make this family more harmonious.
If you were Ms. Yan, what would you choose in such a family life? Will she choose to divorce as decisively as she does?