I have a special friend whose name is Wang Daming. We are college classmates, and we have been going from acquaintance to acquaintance for more than 20 years.
However, recent events have made me think that our understanding of family and affection may be very different.
On that day, I went to Daming's house as a guest. Sitting on the sofa in the living room, I saw that something was wrong with Da Ming's face.
The table is filled with a variety of delicacies, and the dishes are exquisite and mouth-watering. Daming's wife accompanied the smiling face, and his son also accompanied the couple to dinner.
"Da Ming, what's wrong, so unhappy today?" I asked with concern.
Da Ming sighed and said helplessly: "Actually, my recent situation is not very good, my son bought a house, helped him pay off a lot of mortgages, and his pension was withdrawn in advance, and he plans to retire as a security guard."
I was shocked to hear Da Ming's words. Da Ming has always been a benchmark among us, how could he decide to resign because of such a thing? I comforted him and said, "Da Ming, don't be impulsive, it's too irrational to do this.
Da Ming shook his head, he sighed and said, "I know you are for my good, but this incident really makes me angry."
I've really had enough.
Looking at Da Ming's appearance, I suddenly understood the troubles in his heart. As a man, he plays an important role in the family and carries heavy responsibilities.
This helplessness and frustration left him disheartened and unable to bear it any longer.
"I understand your feelings, but your resignation won't solve the problem. Perhaps, you need to communicate with your family members so that they understand your plight and feelings.
Da Ming was silent for a moment, and finally nodded, indicating that he would consider my suggestion. My words didn't immediately change his decision, but at least he seemed a little calmer now.
When I walked out of Daming's house, I felt very uncomfortable. Family disputes and conflicts are always so sad, I hope Daming can resolve his inner troubles as soon as possible, and regain confidence and courage to face life.
A few days later, I went to Daming again. This time, I noticed that his expression seemed to be a little better than last time, but still revealed uneasiness and annoyance.
"How's it going, have you communicated with your family?" I asked with concern.
Da Ming smiled bitterly and nodded: "I tried to communicate with them, but they didn't seem to realize my inner unhappiness at all.
Alas, maybe I expected too much.
I was also a little disappointed to hear that conflicts in the family are not solved overnight. Da Ming may just be hoping for some understanding and care, but this wish is so difficult.
Just when Da Ming and I were heartbroken, we suddenly heard a commotion outside. When we went to the window, it turned out that Daming's family had an argument with the neighbor's children.
Da Ming walked out of the house and shouted at his son: "Don't be unreasonable, don't worry about this kind of trivial matter, and the bicycle is not a big problem."
At this time, Da Ming's wife showed a dissatisfied expression, she turned to Da Ming and said, "Why are you always on someone else's side, can't you say a word for your son?"
Da Ming listened, with a helpless expression on his face, he looked at his wife and said, "I just hope he can learn to be tolerant, this kind of trivial matter is nothing."
The lady ignored his explanation, but muttered a few words of dissatisfaction and went into the house. Seeing this scene, I also felt a burst of emotion in my heart.
We continued to stand in front of the window and watch, Da Ming and his son were constantly arguing, and neither seemed to be able to understand each other's position.
Then it occurred to me that what was the root cause of family conflicts? was it because no one wanted to listen and understand, or because there was a lack of communication and tolerance?
I took a deep breath and decided to persuade Da Ming once again: only true understanding and tolerance can make the family more harmonious.
I will work with Daming in the hope that he and his family can find the answers to family problems.
I have always felt that family is the place where communication and understanding are the most. Some issues, even seemingly insignificant, can inadvertently turn into conflicts that will never be forgotten.
A few days later, I made an appointment with Daming for tea. I looked at him with a worried look on his face, and asked, "Daming, have you had a good talk with your family?"
Da Ming shook his head, he smiled bitterly and said, "I really don't know where to start. During this time, I was plagued by conflicts with my family.
"What kind of request?" I asked immediately.
He said he wanted to borrow more money on the grounds that he wanted to study abroad. I've paid off a lot of my mortgage and withdrawn my pension early, and now he's asking me for money!
Da Ming said bitterly.
I can understand Daming's distress. While he works hard for the family's financial stability, he does not hesitate to give everything he has to support his children's future life, and he feels that his family may not understand him when he is carrying a heavy burden in the family.
Da Ming nodded silently, his eyes revealing a hint of helplessness and anger. It made me realize that even the most beloved family members can have seemingly irreconcilable contradictions.