Recently, I watched the variety show "Housework Honor Student" in my spare time, and I don't blow it or black, and the variety show is really a meal.
I don't like housework, but I found a treasure boy in this variety show.
I didn't expect to have such a capable and responsible dad in reality!
The point is that this daughter who was spoiled by her is not his own, but the child brought to this new family by Li Lin's last marriage.
It's so rare.
As an actor, Jingchao spends a lot of time traveling outside, but he will put his daughter's textbooks in his suitcase, and he knows everything about what his daughter wants to learn, and he is more familiar than his daughter.
Whichever page the daughter says, he can locate it immediately.
Oh my God, those fathers who don't even know where their children's classrooms are under the pretext of being busy with work really won't be ashamed?
What amazes me even more is that in order to accompany his daughter to learn piano, Jing Chao, who has zero piano level 0, followed his daughter to learn the piano.
When we are at home, we practice Xi together in classes, and we don't forget to give guidance in the air when we are on a business trip.
The two of them separated the video, and after listening to their daughter playing the piano, they could accurately guide the fingering.
Like all parents who guide their children's Xi, Li Lin will also increase her blood pressure when guiding her children to write homework.
Jingchao is very intimate at this time, he will help his wife adjust her mentality, and he will also pay attention to his daughter's emotional changes, and will reward and punish both.
In addition, he can fry and sew ten kinds of housework, repairman, cook, nurse, tailor...... He can do everything meticulously and properly, and he is simply a male model who can go up and down to the kitchen.
Finely chopped garlic with one hand proves that the knife is skillful, and the braised pork stewed with braised pork is full of color and aroma. The key is that you can also cook two pots of dishes on the same stove at the same time, which is a skill that has been cultivated over many years of cooking.
You can feel his chef-level cooking skills through the screen.
Cooking, laundry, stir-frying, sewing, hanging curtains, as long as he is almost single-handedly contracted at home, Li Lin only needs to applaud and praise "Husband, you are so good".
When Li Lin forgot to look at the heat and burned the lid of the pot red, he was also emotionally stable, and comforted Li Lin for not reminding him that he couldn't remind him of this, and the ability to tolerate can be given 4+.
Sure enough, capable handsome guys have married a stupid wife......
After watching this variety show, I have a new understanding of "a man who can do housework", which completely refreshed my benchmark.
The key is that Jingchao is still a love brain, as long as Li Lin is coquettish and cute, he can't wait to immediately incarnate as a superman to help his wife solve all problems.
Because Li Lin had tenosynovitis in his wrist, he called Jing Chao, who was outside, and said that his hand hurt, and Jing Chao said that he would wait for him to go back and do it.
Even if he is on a business trip, he can't wait to rush home immediately to comfort his wife and give her a kiss and hug. Li Lin was coquettish, the corners of his mouth rose every minute, and his eyebrows opened and he smiled. And gradually lost in his wife's coquettish voice and couldn't extricate himself.
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The last time I heard of the name Jingchao was when he and Li Lin got married.
Li Lin became popular with Du Bingyan in "The Wrong Sedan Chair to Marry the Right Lang", and when her career was on the rise, she married Jing Chao, who was unknown at the time, and their marriage was not favored.
And because Jingchao has not filmed for 4 years, he has also been called a "soft rice man" for several years.
When he was at his most destitute, he also sold his furniture, claiming that there were no rats in the house, only people and load-bearing walls.
Li Lin even sells bags, watches, and gold bars to support this family.
In the interview, Jing Chao also calmly faced his "identity" for the past 4 years, saying that Li Lin made money, and he spent money very well, and the meal was very fragrant!
No one expected Jing Chao's soft rice to be so hard.
When being a father, he is patient and careful, and he also knows how to educate him, and he is willing to share the housework and help with the baby, and he will also appease his wife's emotions.
The housework is all-inclusive, and he is the one who is talking about it.
Not only that, Jingchao's parents also helped take care of Li Lin's mother.
Imagining through the screen, he can do this step is related to the words and deeds of his own parents.
In fact, being able to take care of household chores clearly is better than 99% of married men.
After all, too many married men are hands-off at home, and they won't help the oil bottle when it is poured.
And don't complain after doing it, you can respect your wife's dedication, and you can also recognize your own value to the family, such a male virtue is worth promoting to the whole society.
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How difficult is it for a traditional Chinese family to get a man to do the housework?
The program group of "The Man Who Does Housework" once released a set of data that makes people think about it carefully:
China ranks first in the world in terms of women's employment, Chinese men spend the fourth lowest amount of time in the world doing housework, Chinese women spend an average of 81 minutes more on housework than men, and housework is the number one reason for divorce in China's divorce market.
For women, the various feminist movements throughout history have not really liberated women from housework.
With the development of the times, women have more social responsibilities and greater economic pressure, but the requirements for childcare and housework are getting higher and higher.
In order to balance this excess payment, many families can only let the elderly take care of the baby, but this increases the contradiction between intergenerational parenting.
In fact, behind all kinds of incomprehensions, there is only one core - why can't men improve their self-care ability?
Before getting married, he was taken care of by his mother, and after he got married, he was taken care of by his wife, no matter what his career was, he was like a young master and an emperor at home.
But which woman is rushing to be a nanny to get married?
After I got married, I was working as a columnist at home for a while, and my mother heard that I had hired a part-time worker to do housework, so she called me and asked: Why do you spend money to find someone to do housework when you are at home every day?
I said, I'm sorry, I'm buying groceries and cooking, and he's going to wash the dishes. I also have a job at home, and I can't spend all my time on trivial chores.
Out of love, I can do chores that I am happy to do. However, I can't bear to do it every day, and the other person is eating and living in the same room, and turning a blind eye to it.
Although some people doubt the authenticity of the image of Jingchao, the "perfect husband of the decathlon", to be honest, there will definitely be people who are making a wish to meet a Jingchao-style husband.
It's not that when you get married and marry a wife, people have the obligation to take care of your food, drink, Lazar, daily life, and be your nanny.
It's not that making money to support the family in marriage naturally gives you more voice and psychological advantages.
It is not that if you become a father, you will definitely get the respect and love of your children.
There are many men who are moved by their wives' dedication only in certain moments. I've also heard a lot of men talk about how difficult it is for their wives to have children.
But back in life, they didn't use practical actions to share their wives' housework, nor did they realize that raising children is no less difficult than doing a 10 million project.
In the final analysis, the patterns they developed as children have caused them to be prejudiced against housework.
In fact, according to a study by the Chinese University of Hong Kong, men who do housework can also reduce mortality.
Thinking about it from another angle, I think that men who do housework should have a much higher happiness index in family life than those who are in charge.
After all, when the wife is happy, the husband can live comfortably.
The author of the book "Male Compromise" called this kind of man who can do housework have "respectable masculinity".
In fact, in marriage, it is not a stereotype who is inside or outside the home, and it is not a shame for someone to eat whose soft rice in difficult times.
Whether men do housework or not has nothing to do with how much money they earn or whether they have family status.
When I was in love with my husband, I was particularly impressed by the fact that he could cook, loved repairing, and had excellent life skills!
Before my dad retired, he also had the temperament of a handshaker uncle. Not only that, but occasionally when I come back with a bag of vegetables, the people in the unit will praise this as a model of a good man.
To tell the truth, if a man is too lazy, in the final analysis, it is still a problem that his parents, family, and the people around him are used to.
But now that he is retired, my dad himself says that he has become a vulnerable member of the family, not only to be a full-time chef, but also to fear that his grandchildren will not be satisfied with the dishes.
At this time, I will tell him, and when I grow up, my grandson will remember your cooking. He was also very satisfied.
In this regard, I hope that Jelly Bean can perfectly inherit the good genes of our family. A few days ago, I told Jelly Bean that he could start to learn to cook, thinking that when I was 10 years old, I could already take care of the family's grocery shopping, cook rice, and make tomato scrambled eggs.
One thing to say, the jelly bean dishes have been washed very well, meticulous and clean, and he is a gourmet, definitely a good seedling of a chef.
Relationally speaking, there are certainly contradictions between personalities. But life, in the final analysis, is every little bit of life to pay. There is too much disparity between giving, and no matter how much love you love, it will be polished.
We don't have too much extravagant hope for an 18-athlete like Jingchao, but it's better to get a 5% discount, which will be half, and this is not a high requirement#实话实说! #