Former U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt once made a point:
"There is a quality that makes a person stand out from the mediocre who do nothing. This quality is not talent, nor intelligence, but self-discipline. ”
The so-called "self-discipline" is actually derived from the cultivation of one good Xi after another, and is the result of persistence day after day, year after year.
I often hear parents complain that their children were smart and clever when they were young, but when they grow up, their grades in school and Xi are getting worse and worse, and their lives are also a mess, and they seem to be unable to catch up with their peers every step of the way.
She has never understood what is missing in her children's education, which has led to a big gap between her own children and other people's children.
The root of it is that Xi has left a small step, and over time, it accumulates a lot, and life has opened a large distance.
A child's biggest fear is not lack of talent, but laziness and stupidity, self-destruction of the future.
Cultivating good Xi is a major trick to promote children's progress, and learning self-discipline is an indispensable step on the road to growth.
These 5 good Xi recommended by the People's Daily, parents must urge their children to cultivate, and it is worth reading again and again for everyone.
Read the book:
Reading broadens your horizons and enriches your heart
Harvard scholar Zhan Qingyun once said a widely circulated sentence:
"What makes Tang Seng a Tang Seng is not the scriptures, but the way to learn the scriptures. ”
On the way to learn from the scriptures, your constantly broadening horizons, improving cognition, rich cultivation, and strong heart are all key elements to achieve life.
And reading is actually such a down-to-earth, gradual harvest process over time.
When Zhan Qingyun was young, he was not the top student in the class, and he often fell to the bottom of the class in exams, and he also experienced many transfers.
Later, under the guidance of her parents, she fell in love with reading, from martial arts novels to the four famous novels, she realized the charm of knowledge in the world of books.
In her spare time, Zhan Qingyun's parents would take her to the bookstore to read books, and her father would tell her books in his spare time to have fun with different stories.
Over time, reading has become an inseparable part of Zhan Qingyun's life and Xi.
After she went to high school, she helped her all the way, and her grades went uphill, and she entered the Chinese University of Hong Kong with the top ten results in the province in the college entrance examination, and then entered Harvard for doctoral studies.
In the debate competition, she quoted classics, from "All Quiet on the Western Front" to "Brave New World", from quantum mechanics to the theory of relativity, every word made everyone present admire.
The process of reading is the process of climbing to the top of the mountain step by step, and the time spent and the sweat shed along the way will make people harvest new scenery and go to a better life.
When you are reading, you will be able to transfer different knowledge points into your mind bit by bit, and your cognition will no longer be limited to the one-third of an acre in front of you, and your Xi will see a new direction.
Children who love to read and those who don't love to read are destined to live a different life.
Source: Visual China
From now on, lead children to start from these 3 aspects and develop a good Xi of reading:
(1) Cultivate interest in reading and find the joy of reading:
Parents can buy some books that interest their children first, don't force their children to read obscure classics from the beginning, and don't have to be limited to a certain category, science, history, and novels can be tried.
Start with a simple story, slowly understand the meaning of the story, the life of the characters, and gain a different kind of happiness in the process of reading.
(2) Parents become role models and give high-quality companionship:
The way you stay at home is what your child will look like in 10 years.
In your spare time, you often read with a book in your hand, so that your home will be filled with the fragrance of books, and your children will love reading.
(3) Share your experience frequently and make records in a timely manner:
In all kinds of books, the different stories read and the different knowledge learned are all valuable assets in children's lives.
Teach children to record their feelings about reading in a timely manner and accumulate knowledge, and parents can also exchange reading experiences and experiences with their children to deepen their memory.
Tell your child that the books you have read and the roads you have traveled will help you become a better person and have a better future.
Regular work and rest:
Go to bed early and wake up early to get a good night's sleep
"The Sleep Revolution" says:
"A really powerful person will take the initiative to control the pace of his life and improve his sleep quotient, so that he can always deal with work and life in a positive state. ”
Similarly. A self-disciplined child will reasonably allocate the time of each part of his life, strictly maintain a regular routine Xi habits, and in the long run, he will have more energy to learn Xi and exercise.
I saw the schedule of a top student before, getting up at half past five in the morning to wash, and after running exercises, I entered the day's school Xi arrangement.
Fall asleep at 10 p.m., replenish your energy, and start your day with a positive state.
Only by grasping every important part of life can a person control life and live the life he wants.
I have seen many children, because they are addicted to playing games, they often hold their mobile phones all night to enjoy themselves, and the next day when it is time to go to school, they are bedridden, their lives are disrupted, and their grades Xi school have also declined.
In one of TED talks, he said:
"During the day, the brain is running at high speed, and brain cells produce a lot of waste and garbage, which goes into the cerebrospinal fluid.
It is only during sleep that the cerebrospinal fluid in the brain can flow, taking away garbage and waste, keeping the brain clear and thinking sharp. ”
A good night's sleep not only keeps children alive, but also benefits brain development.
On the way of children's growth, parents must play a role in supervising and helping children maintain a regular schedule:
(1) Try to stay away from electronic products before going to bed:
Electronic devices such as mobile phones can interfere with the secretion of sleep hormones, causing problems such as difficulty falling asleep, and will also affect sleep quality to a certain extent. Parents can supervise their children by keeping electronics a little farther away an hour before bedtime;
(2) Create a good sleeping environment:
Don't touch things that stimulate the brain before bedtime, avoid the effects of noise and bright light, and avoid coffee and other stimulating drinks.
(3) Develop the Xi of waking up early and stick to it:
The plan of the year lies in the spring, and the plan of the day lies in the morning. Children who get up early can run farther.
Always remember that regular work and rest and good sleep are indispensable conditions for learning Xi and healthy growth.
Keep exercising:
Exercise strengthens the body
A study sponsored by the National Institutes of Health showed that:
Consistent exercise can significantly increase the number of nerve fibers, dendrites, and synapses in the brain, promote brain development, and improve memory.
In other words, consistent exercise can not only make the body healthier, but also improve the efficiency of Xi.
Zhou Bowen, a school bully in the hit drama "The Big Exam", has always been "someone else's child" in the neighborhood.
In school, he was a top student, and he could easily get the answers to questions that others couldn't solve in half a day.
At home, without the supervision of parents and teachers, he can also be strict with himself, and he will also get up early during the holidays to focus on Xi.
In addition to learning Xi, Zhou Bowen has a long-term habit of Xi, which is running.
When he was under a lot of pressure to prepare for the exam, he would put down his papers, go out for a run and exercise, and evacuate his anxiety against the wind.
Sometimes, he would call his father to go out for a night run together, shuttling through the alley, physically and mentally relaxing, and the father and son would talk about each other's true thoughts.
In the process of long-term exercise, he has developed a good mentality, a strong physical fitness, and a more calm response to the college entrance examination.
As the old saying goes: behind all excellence, there is self-discipline.
When a child has a strong body, he will have more strength to move forward step by step and move in a better direction.
And consistent exercise is the best investment in your child's physical fitness and brain.
On the road of education, parents are really responsible for their children, which is to teach their children to keep their health and meet a better self in sports.
Source: Visual China
(1) Develop correct exercise Xi:
Before exercising, it is not advisable to eat and drink too much, and prepare for warm-up according to the laws of physical development.
(2) Find a sport you love and stick to it:
Don't limit yourself to one type of exercise, and don't force your child to touch things he doesn't like. Swimming, climbing, running, etc., if you continue to do so for a long time, you will see significant changes in your physical fitness and health.
(3) Don't stay at home all the time:
In my spare time, I participate in outdoor sports and feel the beauty of the world.
All the good fortune in life is hidden in your daily Xi. How you live the present, how you live your life.
Discover your hobbies:
Use your free time to do what you enjoy on a regular basis
Some time ago, the story of a post-00s girl "chasing stars" inspired countless people.
She is 17-year-old Wei Yinglin,
Last year, Wei Yinglin was sent to Peking University with excellent results.
When she was in elementary school, she read about Sanskrit in Mr. Ji Xianlin's article, and she was deeply inspired by it and became interested in it.
Through her Xi studies, she gradually learned that Sanskrit is rich in content and was impressed by the powerful charm of this ancient language.
After learning that Mr. Ji Xianlin was the first professor of this major at Peking University, she set a goal: to be admitted to Peking University.
Since then, she has been moving towards her goal, Xi English and German in addition to classes, just to get closer and closer to her dream.
Now, she has achieved her dream, fulfilled her wish, and started a new stage in her life.
Writer Liang Wendao once wrote:
"Reading some useless books, doing useless things, and spending some useless time are all in order to reserve a chance to transcend oneself beyond all that is known.
Some of the great changes in my life come from moments like these. ”
Interest is the best teacher, and hobbies are the biggest motivation.
Do what you love, and one day, you will be the person you want to be.
In daily life, in the time outside of school Xi, start from these two points to raise a child who is rich in heart.
(1) Watch more high-quality documentaries and see different sides of the world:
There are all kinds of human history and amazing scenery in the documentary.
Through documentaries, you can get in touch with previously unknown areas and build a broader world view, which is also a great way to discover your hobby.
(2) Try different activities to find your interests:
Drawing, photography, dancing, etc., after intense Xi, through hobbies, you can reduce stress, relax and find the joy of life.
Children, there is only one time in life, boldly try to be different, love life, and grow up without regrets.
Make a plan:
Set yourself goals that are difficult but achievable
Nan Huaijin, a master of Chinese culture, has a saying:
"Those who have a great future must have big plans;
A person who is short-sighted and only looks at reality, it is good for him to grasp today, there is no tomorrow, or he grasps tomorrow, and he does not know that there is an day after tomorrow.
There is a kind of person who does not want today, tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, he wants it forever. ”
Long-termists, rooted from the depths, precipitate themselves, never limited to immediate goals, usually make long-term plans.
The story of "wheelchair boy" Dong Yichao once moved the whole network:
Nine years ago, he suddenly felt weakness in his hands and feet, fell to the ground, and was subsequently diagnosed with "anterior spinal artery occlusion syndrome".
Since then, he has been unable to move from the neck down, so he has to take a leave of absence from school and be hospitalized for treatment.
Lying on the hospital bed, he did not stop down, but set a goal: to return to class.
After three years of treatment, he was finally able to go back to school, but his body still felt constant pain, he had difficulty picking up books, and it was particularly difficult to write, relying only on two fingers.
In order not to affect the progress of his Xi, he made a plan: to keep writing, from 300 words an hour to 600 words an hour.
In this way, he practiced Xi unremittingly, and his handwriting became more and more proficient, and his learning Xi gradually kept up with the progress.
On the day of the college entrance examination, he looked at the score of 632 points and felt satisfied, and finally lived up to himself.
People who have a plan can live smoothly and smoothly at every level of life.
Children with goals will not give up easily, no matter what difficulties they encounter.
Goal is the direction of a person's life, and determination will determine how far he will go.
Source: Visual China
As a parent, please help your child learn these 3 skills, manage Xi and life well, and accumulate good experience:
(1) Improve concentration:
When learning Xi, stay away from mobile phones, computers, etc., keep the environment quiet, and focus enough in your heart to learn Xi more effectively.
(2) Improve execution:
Let the child understand that it is always the phrase "wait" that defeats him. Only by quitting the bad Xi of procrastination and laziness can we continue to see new dawns on the way forward.
(3) Do a good job of review and timely correction:
If you disrupt your original plan because you are lazy, you must remember to remedy it in time, otherwise you will only be in arrears more and more.
Jobs said:
"In the first 30 years of life, you develop Xi; in the second 30 years of life, Xi determines you. ”
Parents take on the responsibility of supervision, children know how to push themselves, good Xi will eventually achieve a better future.
Encourage all parents and children.
Author: Citrus for Orange;Source: WeChat public account middle school students listening to books (ID: tingshu2018).