An unexpected surprise in my life happened when I retired at the age of 52. That morning, I was busy preparing breakfast as usual when I suddenly heard a scream.
Looking at the toilet seat and cushion that were wet with his urine, I became angry and asked him loudly why he didn't lift the toilet seat.
I was so angry that I had an urge to file for divorce right away. This husband, who used to be obedient to me, has become like this.
After thinking about it all night, I decided to consult with my sons to see what they thought about the matter.
I knew it seemed a bit cruel, but I couldn't accept that he had changed his face and didn't care about me.
The next day, I found him, sat down with him and had a talk, and I told him that I was leaving him because I couldn't stand his attitude anymore.
I shook my head and told him I meant it.
His expression changed from surprise to anger, and he asked me if it was for him to pee the cushion, and I knew he was angry too, but I had made up my mind that there must be a price for him to cross the line.
"Don't leave me in a hurry!" he said suddenly, and I could tell that he was afraid that I would really leave him.
He continued: "I know I've been treating you a little too much lately, but you also know that I've been under a lot of pressure at work lately and I'm not emotionally stable, and I hope you can understand."
I spoke openly with him about my feelings and told him that I felt neglected in my marriage, that there was less communication with each other, and that my care was gradually decreasing.
However, in the middle of our conversation, the phone rang suddenly. He glanced at his phone, his face instantly became flustered, and he quickly got up and went out of the room to answer the phone.
He kept talking about something in the room, with some uneasiness and panic in his tone. I hesitated, but finally couldn't help but walk over to figure out what was going on.
But I had already noticed something was wrong, and I insisted on knowing who he was answering, and his reaction made me more and more confused.
Seeing my angry expression, he began to explain, claiming that it was just a colleague at work and that the relationship was purely a collaboration between jobs.
From the incident with the toilet seat in my marriage to the text messages that have now become the catalyst, I began to wonder if there was still a basis for trust in our relationship.
All this made me ponder, marriage was originally a communication and understanding between two hearts, but now it has become a game of suspicion and suspicion.
This unexpected surprise in life made me see the many problems between us, and I needed time to think calmly and deal with this relationship.
That day, our family gathered in the living room, and when our children, daughters-in-law and sons-in-law arrived, we sat around the sofa, and the atmosphere was tense for a while.
"Mom, Dad really regrets it this time, he didn't close his eyes last night, he has been blaming himself, he said that this time he is not good, if Mom still loves him, give him another chance.
My father also took my hand and begged for my forgiveness. His eyes flashed with seriousness and helplessness, which made me suddenly feel a sad feeling.
"Well, don't say any more. Take your time and let your parents handle it themselves. My daughter-in-law's words eased the atmosphere and loosened the stone in my heart a little.
Under the persuasion of my children, I put aside the idea of filing for divorce for the time being, but I also put forward my own conditions to my father, hoping that he would pay attention to our feelings and perhaps love and care for me more than before.
However, our contradictions have not been resolved by this. A few days later, during an argument, my father said something hurtful to me again.
When I packed up and left, my children were silently supporting me. The feeling of letting go of my baggage makes me feel a lot more relaxed.
I don't look back, full of new expectations and yearning for the future.
I saw that his eyes were a little red, he knelt in front of me, and insisted on begging me to give him a chance, and he promised to correct it, and he would not be so indifferent to me again, and he said that he could not lose me.
We have gone through so many years of ups and downs, can we give up so easily? I did not agree to him immediately, but chose to leave, and at the moment I left, the helplessness and reluctance in his eyes made my heart twist.
In the days after leaving, I was silently thinking about our marriage and how to go about the future.
Perhaps the decision to leave was the right one, but the inner conflict and the emptiness of being alone made me feel uneasy.
Just as I was slowly adjusting to living alone, a sudden car accident shattered my peace.
And in my confused consciousness, I actually saw his figure. He stood beside the bedside, anxious and worried, and kept talking to the doctor.
The car accident and his visit and care were undoubtedly an unexpected surprise and an opportunity for me to re-examine my marriage.
The contradictions and entanglements in marriage also made me understand more deeply the complexity and preciousness of family affection.