Chen Songling was treated as air by her mother-in-law, and her heart was depressed
On this day, Chen Songling and her husband Zhang Duo were enjoying music at home and enjoying the world of husband and wife.
The peaceful life was interrupted by a phone call, Zhang Duo's mother called, directly ignored Chen Songling in the room, and only talked to her son.
Hearing the phone ringing, Chen Songling took the initiative to greet her father-in-law and mother-in-law and asked how her mother-in-law was doing.
It's a pity that the warm greetings are like a stone sinking into the sea, and the mother-in-law doesn't care about the existence of her son-in-law's wife, and talks about going to her son's house for a while.
Seeing his mother's rudeness, Zhang Duo was obviously in a bad mood. He simply skipped the greetings, ended the call stiffly, then hung up the phone and turned to comfort his wife. Chen Songling reluctantly squeezed out a smile and said that it didn't matter, but there was inevitably a trace of sadness in her heart.
The mother-in-law came to the house and made things difficult for Chen Songling
The mother-in-law arrived as scheduled and stayed at her son's house. Her attitude is still bad, and she doesn't take her daughter-in-law seriously at all. In her opinion, her son is the best person in the world, and her daughter-in-law is not even qualified to take care of her.
For a long time, the mother-in-law only allowed her son Zhang Duo to rest, and was willing to let her son enjoy it. As for her daughter-in-law Chen Songling, she has no sympathy at all, as long as she sees Chen Songling sitting and resting, she will look for a job for her to do, and she will not give her a chance to breathe at all.
In the face of her mother-in-law's difficulties, Chen Songling did not complain, but just endured it silently, always cautious, for fear of angering her mother-in-law. And the mother-in-law didn't feel that there was anything wrong with what she did, and she still went her own way and made things difficult for her daughter-in-law everywhere.
This made the atmosphere at home very depressing. Zhang Duo reluctantly mediated between his mother and wife, trying to maintain a semblance of harmony.
The mother-in-law touts her son on the show
In the recorded reality show, every time there is an interview, Zhang Duo's mother will talk about her son and praise her. She would pinch her throat and depict how flawless her son was in an exaggerated tone and intonation.
In her description, her son, whether it is appearance, figure, wisdom or character, is simply a rare perfect existence in the world. All the advantages in one place, impeccable.
After listening to it for a long time, even her father couldn't help but tell her to stop, thinking that she had gone too far.
In the face of her husband's scolding, Zhang's mother also knew that she had gone too far, so she could only smile awkwardly and refute it. The impression left on the audience is still how much this woman dotes on her son, and her daughter-in-law is worthless in her heart.
Mother-in-law's prejudice against Chen Songling
The mother-in-law's prejudice against her daughter-in-law Chen Songling originated from several points:
First, the mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law can give birth to her son, but Chen Songling suffered from ovarian cancer when she was young, and it is difficult to conceive life after surgery. Relevant data show that about 80% of patients with uterine cancer will develop infertility after surgical removal of the affected adnexa.
The mother-in-law did not know about this medical knowledge and still blamed her daughter-in-law for being infertile.
Second, her mother-in-law looked down on Chen Songling's dedication and personality, and felt that she was not traditional and submissive enough, and would not serve her son and in-laws submissively. But this just shows that Chen Songling is an assertive modern woman, which is too far from her mother-in-law's feudal expectations.
As a mother, the mother-in-law needs to learn to be tolerant and understanding, and accept her son's chosen partner. She should not impose her own views and rigid notions on others, as this would only lead to family disharmony.
Zhang Duo mediated between his mother and wife
In the frequent mother-son conflicts between the old couple and the old wife, Zhang Duo played the role of mediator. He knew very well in his heart that the reason why his wife was repeatedly harassed by his mother was because of misunderstanding and irrational prejudice on the part of his mother-in-law.
Whenever Chen Songling was depressed after being troubled by her mother-in-law, Zhang Duo would explain it carefully and listen patiently to his wife. He will put himself in his wife's shoes and understand her difficulties.
At the same time, he will also find opportunities to communicate with his mother, analyze the root cause of the problem, point out the mother's mistakes, and persuade her to reconcile with her daughter-in-law. Zhang Duo's attitude and means of rational analysis of problems often make his mother unable to refute.
After many contradictions, Zhang Duo realized that sometimes reasoning with his mother was ineffective. In order to protect his wife's dignity and feelings, he did not hesitate to choose to stand by his wife's side and safeguard Chen Songling's legitimate rights and interests.
This gave Chen Songling a lot of support and encouragement.
Zhang Duo's ability to resolve family disputes with wisdom also gave his wife a deeper trust and dependence on him. This adds a solid foundation to their marital relationship.
12 years of emotion
Despite the frequent pressure and harassment from her mother-in-law, Chen Songling and Zhang Duo still have a strong emotional foundation as husband and wife, and they have proved it in 12 years.
Zhang Duo loved his wife deeply, and he believed that Chen Songling was his trusted wife, and vowed to accompany her through every difficulty in her life until the end of her life.
Chen Songling also trusts and relies on her husband very much, and under his protection, her mother-in-law's difficulties cannot shake her firmness in this marriage.
Just like the heroes and heroines in the classic love movie "Titanic", Zhang Duo and Chen Songling showed their deep love and protection for each other in this "accident".
They are not characters who exist only on the screen, but model couples who can be exemplary in real life.
On the road of life, it is inevitable to encounter incomprehension from family members or society. But as long as the relationship between the two parties is firm, they can resolve the pressure from the outside world and move forward together. Every couple should learn to understand, tolerate and trust each other, and accept the differences between the other and themselves.
Only in this way can broken family relationships be repaired and a harmonious and happy home can be rebuilt.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reconciled, and the family reconciled
After repeated communication and reflection, Zhang Duo's mother finally opened her heart and realized that it was very unreasonable for her daughter-in-law to make things difficult all along. She took the initiative to have an open and honest chat with Chen Songling, expressing her desire to break the ice with her daughter-in-law.
At first, Chen Songling was still a little wary of her mother-in-law's change, but seeing her mother-in-law's sincere attitude, she was also relieved of the past. Like her son, she wants the family to come together again.
With the efforts of both parties, the Zhang family finally reached a consensus on reconciliation, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turned from turbulent to sunny. The mother-in-law no longer makes things difficult for her daughter-in-law, but learns to appreciate Chen Songling's qualities.
Chen Songling also gradually opened up and established trust with her mother-in-law.
The old couple and wife were very touched by the transformation of their mother-in-law. Seeing the rainbow after experiencing the wind and rain, they cherish the family harmony in front of them even more. Zhang Duo did not forget to often encourage his mother to get along with his wife amicably.
Their stories convey the concept of a tolerant and inclusive family. In contemporary society, the collision of old and new ideas will continue. But as long as family members walk in the same direction with understanding and understanding, the ice will be broken.
We should all learn from this case and cherish the harmonious family relationship in front of us. Melt misunderstandings with love, precipitate with time, and home will eventually become our most sheltered harbor.