Preface
Dear reader, have you ever been shocked by the journey of a man's marriage? He has been married four times, the first three of which were the pride of the sky, but the reasons for the divorce are very different from the outside world's speculation.
So, how will his fourth marriage end? How many unsolved mysteries are there in his life? How many secrets are known only to the parties concerned? Today, let us walk into his marriage hall together, unveil those unsolved mysteries, and read the past of this man carefully.
Perhaps, we can also gain some precious insights from his life.
Tianzhi man: appeared on the screen at the age of eight, and was admitted to the drama at the age of twelve
In 1964, a handsome boy was born in Handan, Hebei Province, and he is Xu Yajun.
My parents moved to Beijing.
The courteous Xu Yajun has emerged since he was a child, with a good appearance and a smart mind.
In 1972, at the age of 8, he was selected by the CCTV youth performance team and got the opportunity to star in the youth film "Youth Like Fire".
This is the first time Xu Yajun has faced the camera and the audience, and he has become famous and a household name in one fell swoop.
During the filming, Xu Yajun showed amazing acting skills, perfectly interpreting the image of a teenager in the play, and won unanimous praise from the director and the audience.
This opportunity undoubtedly achieved Xu Yajun's first step to become an excellent actor.
4 years later, Xu Yajun, who was only 12 years old, was admitted to the children's class of the Central Academy of Drama and became friends with the later actor Cai Guoqing.
During his studies in Chinese opera, Xu Yajun's acting talent has been initially revealed.
His sunny and handsome face and superb acting skills made him deeply loved by his teachers and classmates.
The students are often impressed by Xu Yajun's vivid and detailed performances, and the teachers are also optimistic about his excellent development prospects in the future.
After graduating in 1980, Xu Yajun was assigned to work at the China Children's Art Theater.
During this time, he devoted himself to the art of acting, and grew from an unknown ordinary actor to a pillar of the theater.
It can be said that this was the golden period of his acting career.
The first experience of love: growing old with the wife of the pillar
While working in the theater, Xu Yajun met his first wife, Huang Jianping.
Huang Jianping is a young actor in the theater and the heroine of many dramas.
Her strong interest in performing arts and her persistent pursuit of art attracted Xu Yajun's attention.
The two began to work together frequently on stage, which also gave Xu Yajun more opportunities to appreciate Huang Jianping's rich connotation and moving beauty.
Xu Yajun's melancholy and charming temperament also made Huang Jianping deeply fascinated.
The two quickly fell in love in the resonance of art and love and entered the palace of marriage.
The sweet days at the beginning of the wedding did not last long, and fate played a cruel joke on them - Huang Jianping had an incurable terminal illness, and this news was undoubtedly a bolt from the blue for the love between the two.
Xu Yajun would rather bear the pain of his wife on behalf of his wife, but the disease ruthlessly took Huang Jianping's life.
Under the care of Xu Yajun, Huang Jianping finally couldn't support his death.
The huge grief made Xu Yajun lose weight, he also lost his former passion at work, and his colleagues were very worried about his physical and mental condition.
In his most difficult time, another actor from the theater, Zhang Xi, appeared.
Zhang Xi had a clear understanding and comfort for Xu Yajun, she took care of Xu Yajun meticulously, and through the communication between work and life, she finally helped Xu Yajun rekindle his hope for life.
As a result, a spark of love rose between the two.
Soon, they naturally entered the marriage hall.
With the support of Zhang Xi, Xu Yajun also regained his strength, and his acting career was reborn.
became popular overnight: The TV series made Xu Yajun's morale high
In 1986, Xu Yajun co-starred with Song Dandan in the TV series adaptation "Looking for the World Back".
The director of this drama noticed that Xu Yajun's acting talent has been around for a long time and has always hoped to cooperate with him.
Xu Yajun successfully created the role of "Earl" in the play, a young man with a complex personality and a turbulent fate.
His optimistic spirit of loving life, despite being terminally ill, deeply touched the director and the audience.
This also made him shine for the first time in the field of TV dramas, and successfully won the Best Actor Award of the "Golden Eagle Award" for popular television.
This is undoubtedly the pinnacle of Xu Yajun's acting career.
In the following years, Xu Yajun developed based on the TV industry and began to get involved in the field of film.
Almost all the film and television works he participated in were popular that year, and the plays starring him became the most talked-about topic in those years.
For a time, the name Xu Yajun was almost universally known, and he was also immersed in the success and happiness of his acting career.
Married life has suffered a Waterloo: career and relationship are difficult to achieve
However, the peak of his acting career also had an impact on Xu Yajun's married life.
As his fame grows and his film appointments continue, Xu Yajun must devote himself to filming.
He barely left the set, and sometimes even had to travel for a long time to shoot.
This made the time to accompany his wife Zhang Xi less and less, and the relationship between the two also became a distance.
The sweet bubble of married life is bursting.
Zhang Xi repeatedly asked Xu Yajun to want a stable home, but Xu Yajun's job could not guarantee this.
The differences between the two are getting bigger and bigger, and the spark of love is gradually disappearing.
In 1995, the filming of "Wind and Lotus Resentment" allowed Xu Yajun to meet his third wife, He Qing.
He Qing is known as the "first classical beauty", and her elegant and dignified temperament and peerless elegance in her gestures deeply attracted Xu Yajun.
The two have a tacit understanding and have a lot of sparks in the play, and Xu Yajun is also impressed by He Qing's temperament.
Although He Qing already had a boyfriend, the two still came together without hesitation.
Xu Yajun's heartfelt admiration and yearning for He Qing became the driving force for the two to finally come together.
In order to be with He Qing, Xu Yajun chose to divorce Zhang Xi, and Zhang Xi was deeply affected by this.
But she finally decided to let go and wish Xu Yajun a new life.
Three marriages fell through: Xu Yajun decided to be single
Xu Yajun and He Qing's marriage has always been criticized by the outside world, but they still stick together.
The careers of the two also reached a new peak during this period, and many hit dramas starring Xu Yajun made the audience full of praise for the couple.
In 2001, they welcomed their first child, Xu He.
The child added a lot of joy to the couple, and He Qing dedicated all her love to this family.
However, the good times did not last long, and the trivial matters of life and the differences between the two in their careers still caused cracks in this marriage.
Finally, in 2003, they finally chose to break up, and their son Xu He was raised by Xu Yajun.
The failure of three marriages made the 39-year-old Xu Yajun feel a little tired.
Looking back on his years of relationship history, he couldn't help but have doubts in his heart - whether he could still establish a long-term marriage.
This frustration and decadence lasted for a while, until Xu Yajun regained his strength and decided to devote all his energy to his acting career.
He wanted to make a breakthrough in acting, but who knows, fate did not let him go, and in the filming of a TV series, he met his ultimate other half - Zhang Shu.
Ten years of long-distance relationship: growing old with his wife who is 12 years younger than him
Zhang Shu is 12 years younger than Xu Yajun and is a young actor who has just entered the industry.
The two gradually developed feelings at work, Xu Yajun was gentle and steady, and he also taught Zhang Shu at work.
Zhang Shu was also impressed by Xu Yajun's professionalism and acting skills.
In this way, the relationship between the two sprouted in the workplace and finally blossomed.
In 2008, they tied the knot in the presence of their families.
After marriage, Zhang Shu gave up his acting career in order to support Xu Yajun's development and became Xu Yajun's most loyal logistics unit.
She not only took care of the family and became the warmth of Xu Yajun's life, but also took good care of Xu Yajun's son Xu He.
At first, the adolescent Xu He was very resistant to this sudden appearance of the "stepmother".
His rebellion and Zhang Shu's ignorance of the world caused a lot of contradictions between the two.
But under the persuasion of Xu Yajun, He Xu finally opened his mind.
Under Zhang Shu's love and understanding, the relationship between the two gradually became harmonious, and Xu He also began to affectionately call Zhang Shu his mother.
A few years later, Zhang Shu added a lovely son to Xu Yajun, and the two formed a family of four, and the family was harmonious and happy.
epilogue
After more than ten years of marriage, Xu Yajun and Zhang Shu have always maintained a sweet love.
Compared with Xu Yajun's three previous ups and downs in marriage, this fate with Zhang Shu makes people reverie.
After more than ten years of knowing each other, Xu Yajun has also grown from a failed man who has been frustrated many times to a mature man with a happy family and a successful career.
He and Zhang Shu worked hand in hand all the way and spent the best time of their lives.
And Zhang Shu is his lifelong reliance.