In the spring of 1971, a family in Hangzhou welcomed their first child, a well-behaved and lovely little girl, whose parents happily named her Yu Feihong.
Yu Feihong grew up in a family of traditional intellectuals, his father was a hydraulic engineer who graduated from Tsinghua University, and his mother worked in chemical engineering.
Parents with two outstanding children naturally pay attention to education, especially in the enlightenment education of their daughters.
Yu Feihong has shown a docile and obedient personality since he was a child. Her beautiful face and well-behaved manners are loved by her family and teachers, and she is often compared to a beautiful doll.
The aunts and sisters in the community also love this pleasing little girl very much, and often knit beautiful sweaters for her and perm her fashionable little curls. After school, several older sisters who got off work early always rushed to pick her up from kindergarten.
may be out of care for their daughter, Yu's father and Yu's mother are extremely strict with their daughter. They expect Yu Feihong to become a lady in the traditional sense in the future, so all aspects of disciplining their daughter are meticulous.
Yu Feihong was required not to speak loudly, and developed the Xi of whispering. Her parents strictly forbade her to have any early love. In their eyes, reading and Xi and being dignified are all that their daughters should adhere to.
After entering university, Yu Feihong hopes to be able to free himself from the discipline of his parents and live an independent campus life. But the peaceful life of studying Xi did not make her feel comfortable, but made her feel more and more depressed.
She began to rebel against her parents' restraints on her, longing for more freedom.
In order to realize his dream, Yu Feihong made two important decisions. The first decision was to drop out of school and apply for the Beijing Film Academy. Her parents always wanted her to go to an orthodox school, but she resolutely chose the film major she was interested in.
The second decision was to give up the job offer offered by the school after graduating from college and live in the United States for another three years. Leave school and give up a stable job just to allow yourself to live a truly independent life.
These two voluntarily leaving the arms of her parents made Yu Feihong deeply realize the joy when she really had the opportunity to be herself and enjoy freedom.
Although choosing an unknown path worries her parents, she feels inner satisfaction and is the motivation for her to leave. These two experiences became an important turning point in Yu Feihong's life, allowing her to gradually grow into an independent woman.
In 1998, after experiencing self-growth and studying, Yu Feihong emerged in the entertainment industry with the TV series "Holding Hands". In 2003, she successfully portrayed the role of "Amazing Fairy" in "Xiao Li Flying Knife", and her popularity and popularity reached a new peak.
In her career, she has already achieved a little success. But the increase in work did not make Yu Feihong feel happy, but gave her a feeling of being bound.
Once upon a time, freedom was above all else for her. Too much work would encroach on her personal time, which was contrary to her ideal of freedom. Therefore, even though his career is on the rise, Yu Feihong still decisively chooses to take the initiative to reduce his workload and live the life he really wants.
She also refuses to be overexposed and protects her privacy.
In Yu Feihong's view, love and marriage can also make people lose their freedom. So she has always remained single and maintained the life of a small couple with a regular partner.
There is no public exposure, no red tape wedding, she enjoys a simple and sweet world of two. She always sticks to herself and chooses the lifestyle that suits her best.
For many years, Yu Feihong has been facing questions from the outside world about "why don't glamorous actresses get married". At first, she would politely reply with vague words such as "let it be" and "look at fate".
But as she grew older, she became more and more comfortable about marriage and chose to express her thoughts publicly.
After the age of 50, Yu Feihong said more bluntly in the interview that he loves freedom too much, does not want to be bound by anything, and does not feel that marriage is a necessary choice in life.
She believes that love is inherently short-lived, and it can't and doesn't have to last too long. It's like an unexpected gift, and if you don't, it won't have much impact on your life.
In fact, as early as when he decided to drop out of school and leave home and give up his school and work, Yu Feihong's inner desire for freedom was already above everything. Today, she still maintains her pursuit of independence and has learned to face all kinds of speculation from the outside world.
She uses her own choices to interpret the possibilities that intellectual women can have.
When asked if he would feel regret and anxiety as a woman who has never been the wife and mother of others, Yu Feihong, who is 51 years old, just smiled calmly and said that he would not feel like this.
In fact, this is the best answer for an intellectual, confident and wise woman. Yu Feihong knows what kind of life she wants, and she will not accept a form called marriage in order to gain a "sense of security" in the eyes of others.
Filling the emptiness in her heart with verification is not her attitude to life.
Yu Feihong's life can be said to have left again and again for freedom and changed for himself. Whether she dropped out of school and retook the exam, or left her stable job to study abroad, behind every decision showed her persistence and courage in an independent life.
Her story is the cry of every independent woman to her inner self, the recapture of the autonomy of life, and an intellectual and admirable declaration of independence.
Among this generation of actresses, Yu Feihong can be said to be unique. Unmoved by other people's opinions, she sticks to her own life and faces all kinds of doubts with a calm and calm attitude.
Yu Feihong uses her outstanding intellect and wisdom to interpret the unique charm of single women. She told the world that there is no need to deliberately follow the mainstream in life, and everyone should have the right to choose the lifestyle that suits them best, and does not have to be limited by established frameworks.
She uses her stories and choices to inspire us to live our own wonderful lives. She has spent her life pursuing self-liberation and fulfillment, and this courage is worth learning from Xi.
Yu Feihong taught us that as long as we don't hurt others, we should respect everyone's life decisions. We are all trying to find our own freedom and happiness.
On this path, intellectuality, wisdom and calmness are the qualities we should have.