"Tang Bohu Dots Autumn Fragrance" is Stephen Chow's classic work, I have seen it many times, and every time I laugh, until I was middle-aged, I slowly tasted the taste.
In the movie, Tang Bohu has a group of wives at home, and his friends envy him, but he wants to cry without tears. Since I happened to see Qiu Xiang, the maid in Hua Taishi's mansion, Tang Bohu's love is deep-rooted, and he will not marry Qiu Xiang.
But after some twists and turns, he finally married Qiu Xiang home, Tang Bohu didn't have much happiness as he wished, why?
Is it because Qiu Xiang has become the same as Tang Bohu's wives and concubines?
It's not all.
People don't understand the sorrow of men until they are middle-aged, and love is gone after Qiu Xiang marries home!
You can say that Tang Bohu and his wife have no common language, or that it is aesthetic fatigue and a seven-year itch. His liking for Akika is more like a man's pursuit of freshness and the possessiveness of a male animal.
Tang Bohu thought he was in love with Qiu Xiang, but in fact he thought he had met love.
In fact, it was revealed in the second half of the movie that Qiu Xiang's feelings for Tang Bohu are fans for idols, she is also an ordinary woman, and in her opinion, Hua'an is 9527 (the number of people in Washington).
So two people have distorted feelings for each other, they think that the other person is a sweetheart, but in fact they are not.
When Qiu Xiang becomes a wife, love disappears.
What you can't get is the best?
In reality, many extramarital relationships are similar situations, whether it is a man or a woman, they originally thought that their partner was an obstacle to their pursuit of happiness, but after they really got their wish, they found that it was nothing more than that.
When the lover becomes a wife/husband, the "lover" loses its charming brilliance and is bleak.
The reason is so, but when the person concerned is there, he doesn't care about it. I once saw a financial officer who gave up his family and business for the so-called love, he was very rational and realistic, he had been married for many years, and his children were about to graduate from primary school, but after meeting a woman, he became desperate.
In order to divorce, he treated his wife like an enemy, he didn't want any children and a house, he wanted to pursue a new life wholeheartedly, and finally divorced and remarried after two or three years of tossing. When I saw him again, I found that there was no light in his eyes, and there was no sharpness anymore.
The new married life was not satisfactory and did not change him for the better. Maybe he's regretting it, but there are some things that are hard to get back and can't go back.
You can do what you want, but you can't ask for what you want!
In life, everyone can do whatever they want, eat, work, shop, enjoy, etc., but it is difficult to get what they want.
For example, we often talk about pursuing happiness, joy, and success, but ask ourselves, are we really longing for them?
In pursuit of them, we endure trials and pains, we crave the feeling of having them, and we think that if we get what we want, we will have a good outcome. In fact, in the end, we realized that some things were just by-products of the process, and we didn't really want them.
Tang Bohu thought that he wanted love, he felt that the sweetness and happiness of love were in Qiu Xiang, but after the two got married, he knew that he was wrong, and after the enthusiasm, only emptiness and boredom remained.
Therefore, man is a creature that needs a goal, and we can only feel the meaning of existence in the constant pursuit, the process is greater than the result, and our "things we want" are more like bait, driving us to continue to suffer.
A lover can't become a wife, and dreams don't have to come true!
What you can't get is the best, and the most perfect lover is the lover you will never see again, just like a song that comes to an abrupt end at the most wonderful time, leaving you with endless memories for life.
This is also the reason why many men can't forget their first love, and some stupid people still want to relive their old dreams, and the result is to destroy the old dreams and completely trample on the beauty of the past.
Maybe "being affectionate and polite" is the best attitude, when men and women are inevitably deliberately confused, they may feel that they have met "true love", but if they really cherish each other's feelings, it is best to stay away from each other.
But that's not the case with dreams, dreams are in the process of struggle, which gives us a fulfilling, creative experience, and a sense of meaning is created, it only exists in the process.
So it's still the same sentence, but ask about hard work, don't ask about harvest.