Speaking of the scholars of the Song Dynasty at that time, everyone felt proud to take a concubine and raise a few female artists who loved singing, dancing and entertainment.
The really rich family, let alone the many concubines in the family, the house is decorated as luxuriously as a palace.
And the ordinary family, although it is not so exaggerated, often buy some maids to help them clean the housework, and they can also sleep with a warm quilt at night.
Even Comrade Xiaosu Lao Bao, who usually looks like a particularly well-behaved and diligent comrade, actually has such a situation, and the number of maids around him is not a lot at all.
The woman who went out to serve and gave the woman who served with her friends were all tacit things among the scholars of that era.
However, among so many people, people like Wang Anding and Sima Guang seem to be sick, with special exceptions.
Their private life, which is called a self-discipline, neither find a woman other than a wife to marry, nor find a girl to entertain, let alone raise a maid at home.
They just have to get rid of the rules, respect their wives, and have great respect for women, even to the point of madness.
According to the book called "Hou Mackerel Lu",
Wang Anding, a big man, once came to Suzhou. At that time, Suzhou Taishou Liu Yuan's father put on a big pomp and invited him to dinner, but there were many dancing and singing girls at the dinner table. This may seem like a common thing now, but Wang Anding is not subject to this temptation.
He insisted on not watching the dancing girl and not eating at the table, and everyone present knew his stubbornness. Liu Yuan's father, the mayor, wanted to persuade at first, but he really couldn't understand why Wang Anding was so unkind, and in the end he could only remove all the dancing girls.
Find a staircase for yourself, and he also took advantage of the situation and said
"You are just like Han Yu said in "Sending the Poor", 'burn the car and the boat, and extend the seat', it's really amazing!"
So why is Wang Anding so stubborn?
It's not because he wants to be famous or anything, he's just a real person with lofty ideals, and he really doesn't want to be happy. Even if he is at home, he is still principled, willing to spend every day with his wife, and has never had the idea of abandoning his bad wife in exchange for fame and fortune.
There is also a story that Wang Anding's wife, Wu, may be afraid that others will laugh at their family for not having a concubine, so she secretly bought a concubine for her husband.
When Wang Anding returned home, he saw a strange woman in the house, so he asked what was going on. The girl told him that she was bought by Mrs. Wu as a concubine, and that she was the wife of a military attaché, but there was an accident on the grain and waterway, and the debt could not be repaid, and the only way was to sell her to pay off the debt.
After hearing this, Wang Anding shouted sympathy, and directly found the military attache and asked him to take his daughter-in-law away and let them live a new life. and gave them money, and the right to give them relief.
In addition to protecting the purity of his marriage, Wang Anding has other things to admire.
For example, once, his wife, Mrs. Wu, had a serious habit of cleanliness and paid attention to cleanliness everywhere. But when I met Wang Anding, a straightforward and bold gentleman, this cleanliness habit was useless. When she retired and left Jiangning Mansion, she took the comfortable rattan bed at home with her.
According to the regulations, civil servants cannot take with them when they leave the company.
Therefore, the staff of the local government went to Mrs. Wang's house to ask for the rattan bed. The family was afraid that Mrs. Wu would be angry, so they didn't dare to mention this matter.
When Wang honestly heard this, he did not criticize his wife's behavior of asking for a rattan bed as greed for the public, but deliberately dragged on the rattan bed for a while, and even left dirty footprints on it as a reminder.
It wasn't until he saw that his wife had noticed the scene that he put on his shoes and motioned for the staff to take the rattan bed away so as not to disturb his wife. In this way, he neither used household appliances to take advantage of the public, nor did he hurt his wife's self-esteem in front of his subordinates, and solved a tricky matter.
It can be said that he is an excellent husband who cares about his wife and is kind and tolerant. To be honest, I personally think it's quite funny.