There are 2 types of elderly people who are very good at raising babies, and there are few parenting conflicts, and the children are very reassured

The elderly with children has always been a very controversial topic, because there are "intergenerational relatives", many elderly people are obedient to their children, do not follow the rules, and often dote on their children.

This is also what bothers many young parents, but not all old people are like this.

I have been wandering downstairs among all kinds of old people all the year round, and I found that there are 2 types of old people, and it is really good to take children, which reduces a lot of burden for children.

1. Old people who are willing to change and accept new ideas

In the conflict of intergenerational parenting, some elderly people will always have this opinion: I took care of my children like this back then, why can't I do it now? Young people just have a lot to do.

In line with the empiricism of "I have taken children", the elderly are very reluctant to new ideas and new methods, so many young parents complain that the elderly are stubborn and difficult to communicate.

However, there are some elderly people who are very active in their thinking, able to accept the impact of new ideas on their inherent experience, and quickly keep up with the rhythm of "scientific parenting".

A friend of mine, is grandma to help take care of the child, our children are about the same age, so often go out together to walk the baby, at that time I just finished studying infant sleep consultant, know the importance of babies crawling more, and share this point of view with my friend.

My friend told my grandmother about this point of view, and then my grandmother began to crawl with her children every day, crawling outdoors with our children, taking sensory integration classes, and giving other elderly people "the importance of popular science crawling".

From crawling to the promotion of balance, to the development of spatial perception, the development of exploration ability, and the improvement of muscle strength, Grandma talks about the Tao and is very professional.

My friend proudly said: My mother is now an infant expert among the elderly with babies in our community, and she is more comprehensive than I know.

I also admire my friend's mom for being able to quickly absorb new parenting ideas and put them into action.

You must know that many elderly people are reluctant to let babies crawl more, let alone let babies crawl on the ground outside, for fear of hurting the baby's knees, distress will tire the baby, and worry about bacteria on the ground.

In addition to crawling with the baby, grandma also insists on reading picture books to children every day, friends sighed: My baby loves to read now, and most of the credit is on grandma, who persistently reads to the baby.

On the one hand, they are managing life in a more difficult era, cultivating children into talents, forming super stress resistance and patience, and are fully able to cope with today's parenting pressure.

On the other hand, they are willing to update the concept of bringing babies, use more scientific and reasonable methods to cultivate children, and reduce differences and conflicts with young parents.

The children brought out by such an old man cannot be absolutely said to be excellent, but the development of abilities in all aspects must not be too bad.

2. The elderly with high cooperation and strong execution

Most families are dual-income workers, young parents are busy with work, and can only accompany their children after work and holidays, and the elderly take on the vast majority of the work with children.

Although young parents do not have time to take care of their children, their requirements and expectations for their children will not be reduced.

If the elderly can be highly cooperative with the decisions of the young parents and try their best to implement them, it is really a very fortunate thing.

Let's take vision protection and sports, which are important to every family.

The development of these two tasks does not have advanced skills, but depends on "manpower persistence".

Because of his eyesight, my son only went to kindergarten for half a day since the second semester of the kindergarten class, and every day when I went to pick him up at noon, I would meet an old man who also came to pick up the child, and I walked with this aunt.

The aunt said that the child's original reserve was gone, and the child's mother decided to let the child go to kindergarten for only half a day, and the task of picking up the baby outdoors fell on her head.

This aunt has a very strong executive ability, and every day she takes her children to the park for the outdoors, and then walks back, carrying skipping ropes, badminton and other equipment every time, and taking the children to exercise together.

I went out from 12 o'clock at noon until 5 or 6 o'clock in the afternoon.

Later, when the child was in the first grade, we didn't walk around together, and when I met the aunt and the child again, I saw her running in the community with the child, holding her mobile phone to pinch the child's time.

The aunt said that if the child does not go to the late class, she will take the child out in advance to run, play ball, and exercise.

Among the many elderly people with babies downstairs, this aunt's execution is definitely second to none.

Everyone knows the importance of vision protection.

But not everyone can let their children go to kindergarten for half a day, and then take the outdoors every day, play with the children patiently, soothe the children's emotions of going home, and insist on completing the 4-hour outdoor standard.

Everyone knows the importance of exercise.

But not every child likes sports, so it takes an adult to do it himself, take the child to move together, day after day, and the cycle repeats, which consumes a lot of energy and stamina.

What many young parents can't do, this old man did.

With such an elderly person taking care of children, the parents of the children can work hard with peace of mind, and they don't have to worry about their children while going to work.