Zhang Fengyi is serious and introverted, and his style of action has always been low-key, and he does not like publicity. This may be due to his experience accumulated over the years in the film and television industry. When educating children or dealing with various things in life, he adheres to his own principles, and these principles have almost become the bottom line in his life.
For example, when his son is asked to be manly, he will often take his son out to climb mountains or exercise appropriately. The son was born fat and unwilling to engage in intense activities, so Zhang Fengyi will be strict in order to prevent him from being weak-willed when he grows up, and will not let him retreat and compromise.
Even in the face of his son's incomprehension and complaints, he has never relaxed his requirements for physical exercise.
For another example, when his son wanted to drop out of school to specialize in Xi acting when he was in middle school, he immediately expressed strong opposition as a father. In his view, laying a good cultural foundation is far more important than specializing in a skill.
So he resolutely asked his son to go to school normally first, and then consider studying acting after graduating from high school. The two had serious disagreements over this and broke off contact for a time.
Later, when Zhang Boyu got married, he held a big wedding and invited 27 tables of guests. Zhang Fengyi criticized this extravagance and waste, and believed that his son, who was not productive on weekdays, should not be so high-profile.
He was also worried that attending such a lavish wedding would bring bad luck to the young couple. Due to various considerations, he refused to attend his son's wedding reception.
All of this shows that Zhang Fengyi is a person who is rigorous in his words and deeds. He has his own firm life creed and refuses to break his bottom line for anyone, even if the other party is his own flesh and blood.
As he himself said: "I have my own principles and bottom line, I don't do anything beyond the bottom line, and I can't do it with my own son." This sentence expresses his consistent principle of doing things.
Zhang Boyu has aspired to be an actor since he was a child, but his debut road was full of twists and turns, which can be said to be ups and downs.
At first, his father Zhang Fengyi strongly objected to him majoring in acting after graduating from secondary school, insisting that he finish high school first. The two had serious disagreements over this, and the father-son relationship was very stiff.
Later, with the support of the performance secondary school opened by his mother Lu Liping, Zhang Boyu was able to successfully learn to Xi acting. But it also broke up between him and his father, and they didn't have contact for a long time.
After his debut, Zhang Boyu barely received any resource support from his father. filming and finding opportunities all depend on the mother and stepfather. During this period, he also played the leading role in many film and television works, such as "The Legend of Chu and Han", "The Story of the New Editorial Department", etc., and has cooperated with many old actors.
It can be said that from a newcomer who has nothing to a small fame, he is tormented by family changes and emotional troubles.
It wasn't until later, when the two achieved success in their respective careers, that the relationship eased. But for the estrangement and misunderstanding in those years, there must be a pimple in my heart.
The relationship between father and son should be strong, but it has been beaten by various factors in the outside world. This road of acting with too many twists and turns, Zhang Boyu must be unforgettable.
In 2015, 27-year-old Zhang Boyu finally ushered in a major event in his life - marriage. It stands to reason that his biological father, Zhang Fengyi, should happily attend to witness this important moment for his son.
But surprisingly, Zhang Fengyi not only did not show up, but even made it clear that he refused to participate the night before.
The reason is very simple, Zhang Boyu is setting up a large wedding banquet with more than 20 tables, which is too profligate and wasteful in the eyes of the thrifty Zhang Fengyi. And he himself does not believe in evil, and is worried that participating in such a pompous wedding will bring bad luck to young people.
Based on various considerations, he knew his son's intentions, but he still resolutely chose not to attend.
This made the atmosphere of the whole wedding suddenly a little awkward and weird. As an adoptive father, Sun Haiying worked tirelessly and temporarily took over the tasks of the groom's family. But for the media and guests, the absence of the biological father has undoubtedly become the biggest topic of the wedding.
Public opinion was full of discussion for a while, and many people questioned the reasonableness of Zhang Fengyi's approach.
And this day was a rare time for the father and son to reunite, but it became a cold spot. The newlyweds tied the knot, but their biological father was not around to celebrate, presumably Zhang Boyu's heart must be complicated.
This sudden change undoubtedly cast a shadow on his wedding.
Zhang Boyu has always been close to his biological father, which is reflected in many choices in his life. For example, in the middle of participating in the recording of his mother's travel reality show, he hurriedly left the team to play with his biological father Zhang Fengyi.
This made Lu Liping feel cold. Usually faced with the meticulous and thoughtful care of his adoptive father, he often chooses to leave silently.
This default setting of biological father priority puts Zhang Boyu in a dilemma. The first is emotional distress, how should he balance between giving birth to his adoptive father; Then there is the issue of career development, he has long relied on his adoptive father's resources, what should he do when his biological father is old; When the two philosophies or requirements are at odds, which side should you compromise with?
This chain of problems is not easy to solve.
In fact, parents just want to guide their children better in their own way. As children, we should uphold a heart of tolerance and understanding. But the current predicament faced by Zhang Boyu cannot be ignored.
How he should find his own place in life while inheriting the past and opening up the future requires him to think carefully and make a careful choice.
The bond between father and son is supposed to be strong and deep, but sometimes it can be overshadowed by misunderstandings. For example, Zhang Fengyi's strict requirements and poor expression of his son made Zhang Boyu often feel that his father's love was insufficient.
In fact, that is just Zhang Fengyi's unique way of teaching his son. Hidden behind the severity is the expectation and guidance for the healthy growth of my son.
It wasn't until an all-night long talk that Zhang Fengyi finally said "I love you". is a simple three words, but it melts the misreading that his son has been misreading for many years. It turned out that my father had always cared about himself, but he was not good at expressing it.
This touched Zhang Boyu and made him re-examine the relationship between the two.
Parents are trying to nurture their children in their own way. As children, we owe it to be understanding and tolerant. As long as there is a positive and healthy educational motive behind it, this layer of family affection is an inexhaustible source.
It will precipitate more warmth over time, and it will accompany us at every stage of life.