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In the past three years, my husband and I have not been able to have children, and my in-laws have been urging me to talk to me several times, and I am really under a lot of pressure.
A few days ago, my husband and I had just returned from the hospital for a check-up, and my in-laws came up to us to ask about the results. I said that the doctor still needs to observe, and there is no legal argument for the time being. The in-laws were not happy when they heard this, and said to their husbands at the dinner table: "Look at you, you have been married for three years, and you don't even have a child, and you don't know what to do at home!"
I was very uncomfortable when I heard it, put down the dishes and chopsticks and said, "Mom, it is providential to have children, and we are working hard, so don't keep talking about us." ”
The in-laws said: "You Xiao Zhang, I don't want to think about yourself, you are such a big person, it is time to have children." If you don't want it, do you want us to go to God and worship Buddha every day to ask for a grandson?"
My in-laws interrupted me impatiently: "God's arrangement is not that you don't work hard! I think it is that you only know how to play all day long, and you don't take having children seriously." Let me tell you, if you don't get pregnant this year, I will burn high incense every day, don't blame me for not reminding you!"
I couldn't help but redden, it was so difficult to reason with my in-laws like this. She doesn't care about my feelings, she only cares about her own interests. I was aggrieved and anxious, so I got up and walked out, tears falling from my eyes.
My husband called out to me from behind, and I ran into the house without looking back, shook the door, and fell on the bed crying.
After a while, my husband pushed the door in, touched my shoulder, and asked cautiously: "Daughter-in-law, don't be angry, my mother is kind, but the words are a little heavier." Don't take the matter of giving birth to a baby. ”
I wiped away my tears and said to my husband excitedly: "Wang Jun, why are you like this, your mother is not kind-hearted, she is clearly embarrassing me! She doesn't treat me as her own daughter, she only treats me as a fertility machine, who can stand this! Let me tell you, if it weren't for your face, I would have made my words clear, so that your mother would stop pointing fingers!"
I was furious and shouted at him: "Wang Jun, you have no plant, you are becoming more and more disagreeable! If you have a virtue with your mother, you will only protect her! Whether or not to have children is a matter for the two of us, and it has a half-dime relationship with your mother? From today on, you can either choose her or me, and you should weigh it yourself!"
After that, I wiped a handful of tears, grabbed my bag and turned around and left. I can't take it anymore and just want to get out of this suffocating home right away! I ran all the way back to my parents' house, and when I entered the door, I saw my mother sitting on the couch watching TV. When she saw my tear-stained face, she asked anxiously, "Xiao Zhang, what's wrong with you?"
I cried and fell into my mother's arms, choked up: "Mom, I really can't stand it, Wang Jun and his mother treat me as a fertility tool, am I like a person!"
My mother stroked my back and comforted me softly: "Good, talk slowly, what's going on?"
I sobbed for a long time, and explained the ins and outs of the matter to my mother. When my mother heard this, her face was very ugly, and she snorted and said, "It's really unreasonable! Giving birth to a child is a matter for you two young couples, why do you have to rely on your mother? She just thinks you don't have a baby, so she always troubles you!"
Mom's words were like a blow to the head, and I burst into tears, saying, "Mom, what should I do, I really regret marrying into the Wang family, they simply treat me as an animal!"
My mother hugged me and said earnestly, "Son, my mother understands your difficulties. But don't make drastic decisions right now. This kind of calm down in advance, have a good talk with Wang Jun, let him choose a side, or think of a way to get the best of both worlds. It's best not to leave quickly, or you'll regret it later. ”
I nodded, and my mother's words made me figure it out a lot. I decided to stay at my mother's house for a few days to calm down and then continue to discuss countermeasures with Wang Jun.
In this way, I stayed at my mother's house for a week. In the past few days, Wang Jun has come to see me every day, and he has also admitted his mistakes to me. I know him as a person, and I still listen to my parents in my bones, and I don't force him to oppose his old mother immediately. I only ask that the salary card be given to me for safekeeping in the future, and major family matters, especially the birth of a baby, must be discussed with me first, and no private decisions are allowed.
Wang Jun hesitated, but agreed to my request. That's when I agreed to go home with him. However, I also declare that I will not consider moving to my hometown to live with my in-laws in the future. Wang Jun nodded reluctantly, knowing that my decision was wise.
When I returned home, my in-laws' attitude did not improve. She still hoped that I would get pregnant as soon as possible, but at best it was not so direct. I'm not surprised by this, as long as my husband supports me, I will turn a blind eye.
After that, after more than half a year, I finally showed signs of pregnancy! I excitedly ran to tell my husband, and I checked to make sure that it had been two months. He was so happy that he didn't close his eyes for a few days, for fear that I would feel unwell.
After a few months of uneventful life, the little life in my belly gradually grew up, and my husband and I began to prepare some daily necessities to welcome his arrival. Lately, I've been sitting in front of the window and imagining what he's going to look like in the future, and who his temper will look like. Just a month before I was about to give birth, my father-in-law suddenly suffered a stroke and was hospitalized! Wang Jun and I were very worried and rushed to the hospital to take care of them. I saw that my father-in-law on the hospital bed could no longer take care of himself, and I felt very uncomfortable. Although he has a lot of criticism about me, after all, he has been raising me for the past few years since I got married. Now he's sick in bed, and I should take care of him, it's human nature.
I comforted my depressed mother-in-law and told her to go home and rest, and I came to the hospital to take care of my father-in-law. I was pregnant and slept in the hospital at night. Wang Jun persuaded me to go home, fearing that my body would not be able to bear it, so I resolutely refused.
After another half a month, my father-in-law's condition improved slightly, and he was able to eat some liquid food. My mother-in-law and I took turns taking care of her, and I was relieved by the light joy on her face. Perhaps, because of my efforts, her prejudice against me has been lessened.
That's when I suddenly started experiencing symptoms of malaise, a terrible stomachache, and bleeding. Wang Jun hurriedly took me to the hospital, and after the examination, the doctor said that it was a sign of premature labor and that labor must be induced immediately! I was so worried that there would be some complications that would endanger the child, so I couldn't help but cry on the spot.
Wang Jun also choked up, he kissed me and the child gently, and I knew he was happier than me. Because this is not only his flesh and blood, but also his explanation to his parents.
I lay in the hospital for a week, and my in-laws came to see the baby. My mother-in-law was holding her grandson in her hands, with a shallow smile on her face, and I saw it in my eyes, and my heart was also steady. I think she can finally stop worrying about infertility, and she will slowly accept me.
After I was discharged from the hospital and returned home, I began to devote myself to the big task of taking care of my children. Wang Jun took a month off to accompany me, but I was still concerned about my father-in-law's illness. I heard Wang Jun say that his father's condition has improved a lot, and I want to visit my in-laws when the child is older.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, my baby son has turned one year old! In this year, he has grown from a newborn to a big baby who can crawl and laugh, bringing me countless joys and pride. When I hugged him and looked at his big watery eyes, my heart felt like it was melted by him.
My husband and I are also becoming more and more affectionate. With children as a bond, our relationship seems to be warming up again, and I also see the tenderness and thoughtfulness of my husband who attracted me to it in the first place. He would often take our mother and son out to play and buy some delicious food to go home. With him by my side, I feel that my life is full and fulfilling.
On the day of the baby's first birthday, the mother-in-law called and spoke in an unusually affectionate tone. She said that she wanted to celebrate the baby's birthday in person, and let us go to our hometown for a few days during the holidays. I'm a little surprised that mother-in-law rarely takes the initiative so much with us. But after thinking about it, maybe because of the baby, her heart knot has been opened, and I really think I am my daughter-in-law.
My husband was also very happy, and agreed to come down without saying a word. I looked at his excited face and thought he must miss his parents very much. I know how important it is for my generation to go home for the New Year. So, it was decided like this, and our family went to live at my mother-in-law's house during the Chinese New Year.
During this period, I was also actively preparing and bought a lot of gifts and new clothes. Although my mother-in-law often had whispers before, after all, she raised me for so many years, and I thank her in my heart. What's more, now that we have finally reconciled, I want to be more dedicated to repairing this marriage with her.
We packed our bags early and drove to our hometown. I held the baby in my arms and stood outside the door a little timidly. Fortunately, my mother-in-law came out to greet us soon and laughed and teased the baby. I breathed a sigh of relief and followed my mother-in-law into the house.
The mother-in-law looks in good spirits, and the wrinkles on her face are a little less. Maybe it's because of her great-grandson, the majesty on her body has also been reduced a lot. She welcomed us into the living room, and my husband and I were seated and busied with our stuff. I saw that my mother-in-law was so attentive, and I thought to myself that it was really the right choice to come back this time. Not long after he sat down, his father-in-law also walked out of the room. He's half better, his face is ruddy, and he's much healthier than the last time I saw him. I hurriedly stood up and said hello, and my father-in-law smiled and patted me on the shoulder, saying that it was hard work for me. How have I ever seen such a familiar look? I was in a trance for a while.
Just as I was immersed in the warm atmosphere, a sentence from my mother-in-law pulled me back to reality. She said to her father-in-law in front of us: "Old man, look at your son, in the past few years of marriage, he has raised his daughter-in-law for nothing and fat, and he won't even get a baby!
I looked at my mother-in-law in surprise, and there was no embarrassment or apology on her face. Only then did I realize that maybe she didn't plan to reconcile with me at all, and that the warmth just now was just an illusion. She is still the in-law who complained that I didn't give her a grandchild. My heart suddenly cracked and half cold.
My father-in-law was also noncommittal, and I looked at my husband, who looked a little embarrassed. I patted him on the arm and motioned for him not to take it personally. Although my mother-in-law's words made me very sad, after all, she is old, and I have nothing to do with her.
After eating Chinese New Year's Eve in such a cold place, I proposed that I want to go back to my room to rest. The mother-in-law immediately said: "There's no need for this, let's live in the old room, just let you take care of the baby!" I felt very uncomfortable, and it was not easy to have a seizure in front of my husband, so I had to smile and nod.
When I returned to that familiar little room, the memories buried deep in my heart suddenly came flooding back. I looked at the old place on the windowsill where the paint had fallen off, and my mother-in-law used to point to it and scold me for being useless; Looking at the potholed walls, the sound of my husband and I arguing in the past seems to still echo; I sat on the edge of the familiar old bed, and I couldn't help but redden. I was reminded of all the unhappiness of the past, and this room was like an ivory tower to me. I tried to suppress my discomfort and decided to focus on taking care of my baby. And I also understand that at this time of the Chinese New Year, there is no point in arguing with my in-laws.
In the evening, the mother-in-law's tone became heavier and heavier. I couldn't take it anymore and ran back to the room and locked myself in. My husband came to persuade me, but I was so angry that I kicked him out. He left helplessly, and I cried alone with my son in my arms. I really regret this decision to go back to my hometown for the Chinese New Year, I really don't know how I could be so stupid.
After another two days, my mother-in-law and I barely spoke. Every now and then she would throw a few cold words, and I pretended not to hear them. At this time, I only hope that the Chinese New Year's Eve will pass quickly, and I can leave this ghost place!
On the 29th day of the Lunar New Year, my husband suddenly came to me mysteriously and told me that his mother was sick and had something important to talk to me about alone. I vigilantly followed him to my mother-in-law's room, and saw her lying on the bed, her face really bad.
She asked her husband to go out and left me alone with her. I stood in front of the bed, a little overwhelmed. I only heard her sigh and whisper to me: "Xiao Zhang, I'm old, maybe I'll leave in a few years." Can I ask you one thing before I die?"