My father was in a critical condition with advanced kidney cancer. As a medical doctor, I knew that my father's condition had reached the point of no return. I decided to pull my father straight home from the hospital so that he could spend the rest of his life in peace with his family.
After returning home, relatives and friends came to offer condolences. But when they saw me doing it, they talked about it. Some people think that I shouldn't have "discharged" my father from the hospital and that it was my irresponsibility. Some people even privately say that I raised a white-eyed wolf.
I didn't care about the criticism, because I knew I was doing the right thing. My father received more love and pampering at home, and his condition seemed to be in remission. Although he is no longer as lively as he used to be, he can still talk to us and even laugh. This kind of time is very precious for our whole family.
I understand the concerns of my relatives, they are just thinking about us. However, there is always some dissatisfaction and helplessness in my heart. I don't want to explain too much to them, because they will never understand the inner struggle and conscience of a doctor.
At this time, a sudden change once again pulled away the relationship between our family. My cousin came to me out of the blue with a medical report that showed that she had acute leukemia and needed a bone marrow transplant to survive. She wanted me to help her find the right hematopoietic stem cells.
"Cousin, you're a doctor, you can help me!" she said to me, sobbing silently.
Looking at the despair in her eyes, my heart was also full of contradictions and struggles. On the one hand, my cousin is my father's beloved daughter, and she is innocent of her illness, and I can't ignore it. On the other hand, it is the responsibility of doctors, and I understand the requirements and risks of bone marrow transplantation in the medical profession, and it is not easy to find a suitable donor.
"Cousin, I'll do my best. "I promised her.
For a while, the home became boring and heavy. My father's health deteriorated, and my cousin searched for relatives and friends in order to treat the much-needed donors, but there was no trust. I am also desperately looking for a suitable hematopoietic stem cell donor day and night.
This is the transformation in our family. Life and death, family affection, and responsibility are intertwined, and we are faced with great choices and challenges. I sincerely hope that we can all find the best solution.
This is the transformation in our family. Life and death, family affection, and responsibility are intertwined, and we are faced with great choices and challenges. I sincerely hope that we can all find the best solution.
At the same time, another contradiction also quietly emerged. My sister came home with a boy who claimed to be her boyfriend and wanted to be blessed by her family. This shocked the whole family because we didn't know the boy. Although my father is seriously ill, he is also angry and anxious, and my sister wants us to accept and bless them.
"Mom, look at it, this is the person I like, and I really hope you can understand and support us. My sister's words caused my mother to fall into silence and hesitation, while I felt more contradictions and troubles. We are not against my sister finding true love, but the boy's past and true identity are worrying us.
In this family, new strife and contradictions creep in. I had to weigh my own identity and responsibilities, and at the same time, I had to balance the emotions and conflicts of my family for the sake of my sister and father. This is perhaps the greatest test of my life.
I know that it all takes time and patience. Maybe that's where the conflicts and strife lie in the family, and I hope that we can finally get through it together.
The sudden conflict makes the family atmosphere extremely tense. While helping my father with his daily life and care, I was also running around looking for a suitable donor for my cousin's condition. During this period, I had to deal with various conflicts of interest between family members.
My cousin's condition was undoubtedly urgent, but I noticed that more and more of my relatives were beginning to be suspicious of me. They thought that I was taking care of my father while ignoring my cousin. Many of my relatives began to be cold to me, and some even started to slander me behind my back. I wanted to explain, but I knew that no matter how I explained, they would never believe me.
I started to feel depressed and isolated. It was supposed to be a time when the family supported each other, but because of the conflict, it went into division. I am deeply aware that conflicts and conflicts between family members are often the most acute and irreconcilable.
In this tense family, I continued to work on the search for donors. Every day, every phone call, every comfort, wears down my will. At the same time, my father's health was getting worse and worse. I felt extremely tired and helpless, and my heart was filled with guilt and self-blame for my family.
However, at this time, another family conflict came again. This time, it's the conflict between the father and the mother. My mother became extremely anxious and depressed because of my father's illness, and she began to suspect that I was not taking good enough care of my father, often lost her temper with me, and often scolded me for not being filial enough.
I was well aware of my mother's worries and anxieties, but the blame and pressure were also overwhelming for me. I kept trying, but I found that I couldn't get the approval and understanding of my family.
The conflicts and entanglements between the families seemed to be getting deeper and deeper, and I began to wonder if I couldn't resolve them. I knew firmly that I needed to find a way to solve all this. But how do you do that? I thought about it, but I found myself in a dilemma that I couldn't solve.
I continued to rummage through matching donors while feeling powerless and overjoyed by my father's condition. My father's body was getting weaker and weaker, and everyone was praying silently, but there was nothing they could do. At this time, my younger brother suddenly came back from out of town. He lived abroad for many years and never returned home. And he didn't come back to visit my father, but to shock our family.
"Dad, I'm back, this is the object of my marriage, and I want to take her back to China to register her marriage. The younger brother said with a firm expression.
The news was a bolt from the blue, and the whole family did not expect his brother to get married in such a hurry, let alone his wedding plan so suddenly. The mother was emotional, worried about her father's condition and the menacing new daughter-in-law. My cousin's illness still affects the hearts of my family. And I, still trying to find a donor, can't do anything about my brother's affairs.
I watched the tension and contradiction in my home, and my heart was extremely anxious. At this time, distracting attention from new family affairs is bound to have an impact on the father's health. And her cousin's illness also can't wait, and time waits for her anymore.
I calmed down and communicated with my brother, hoping that he would understand the current predicament of the whole family. However, he was resolute and insisted on going his own way. At this time, relatives and friends in the family also expressed their opinions, some felt that his younger brother was too cold-blooded, and some supported his decision.
The entanglements at home seem to have become more complex and full of contradictions. I know that these things are inevitable changes in the family, and in the face of all this, I can only do my best to find a solution. Family, affection, responsibility, all this needs to be borne by me.