There are these few signs that your boy is well raised
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Having a boy at home often makes mothers feel anxious.
Because they can go to the house to uncover the tiles when they are naughty, it is like Sun Wukong making trouble in the heavenly palace.
It's nerve-wracking, and you don't know what's in their heads.
Sometimes it can also make people cry and laugh, see their ignorance and naivety.
They are so worrying, but there are also so many heartwarming moments that move parents.
Because of this, many mothers say they don't know how to raise them.
Some mothers said that every time they saw other mothers' messages and complained about their sons, they found that they were all the same.
The heart hanging in the throat can fall.
In fact, every boy has a lot of good qualities, sparkling and needs to be discovered.
Of course, there will be a lot of shortcomings that need to be corrected by parents.
If you're worried about this, don't worry.
If there are these signs, it means that your boy is well raised.
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Be assertive, dare to argue, and be able to discuss.
There are boys in the family, and there are often mothers who say that children like to disagree and have to argue about everything.
Actually, this is not necessarily a bad thing.
Well-behaved and obedient children are indeed more pleasing to adults.
But if the child listens to the arrangement of his parents in everything and does not have his own opinions, it is very scary.
If you have a boy in your family, you must encourage your child to think more and express his or her opinions boldly.
And don't always ask your child to be obedient, obedient, obedient.
As long as you observe, you will find that those children who are assertive, their parents will be willing to listen, have an open-minded attitude, and allow them to express different points of view.
And will not engage in a word, everything is up to the parents.
Of course, if you want children to be assertive, you must encourage them to think more and be more knowledgeable.
Therefore, it is recommended to start reading with your child when he is one or two years old.
In addition to playing with toys, cars and sports, persistently reading with your child will make your boy more assertive and expressive.
Because reading increases their horizons.
I can learn some wisdom about how to behave in the world.
See the truth behind the development of some things and the appearance.
It's like sowing seeds of love in a child's heart.
To be honest, I saw the little fish who liked to argue with me, and my heart was happy and angry.
I expect him to have his own ideas and express them boldly.
But sometimes the stubbornness of those cows that can't be pulled back is also a headache.
So, you'll find that the hardest thing to do with boys is to be negotiable.
Because they sometimes insist on their own opinions, they just don't want to.
For example, sometimes I play idiom solitaire with Xiaoxiaoyu, but he can't catch it, but he is not convinced.
I said if I wanted to ask for help, I could ask my mother.
But he was even more reluctant.
I'd say it doesn't matter, it's okay to ask for help.
But the little heart is very strong, but it refuses.
After a stalemate, there will be emotions and anger with you.
What to do?
The best thing to do is to talk to him again.
Or change it, change the word, and re-solitaire.
When encountering different opinions, I still hope that he can learn to listen, accept good suggestions, and be able to consult with others, instead of getting angry.
Raising boys is not only about cultivating their talents, but also about developing good character.
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Able to take responsibility, know how to work, and know how to care.
If you want to say what kind of man is more warm-hearted?
That must be a man who can take responsibility and have a sense of responsibility.
In fact, from the beginning of primitive tribes, men had to go out to hunt, get food, and protect the safety of tribe members.
In a family, both men and women have their own responsibilities.
But when danger comes, or when trouble happens, men should stand in front of their wives and children to protect their families.
That's a responsibility.
In life, caring for the family and taking care of the children with his wife is also a responsibility.
If you want your boy to be such a man in the future.
It is necessary to cultivate their sense of responsibility from an early age.
Learn to be a responsible person.
Some boys will take the initiative to take on household chores, such as cooking a delicious meal for the family.
Once a mother left me a message: "Daddy Yu, my son is in the sixth grade of primary school, he especially likes to cook, although his grades are very average, but the meals he cooks are delicious, and he often takes the initiative to cook, I feel very happy!"
In fact, every child has their own talents.
If parents can respect them and encourage their children to do it, it will increase their self-confidence and happiness for their parents.
Let's be honest, who doesn't love a son who loves to cook food for his parents?
There are also children who will care about the health of their parents, and when they see their mother has a cold, they will take medicine for their mother and take their mother's temperature.
It will also support the elderly with limited mobility.
Will take care of younger siblings at home.
When I get to school, I also help my teachers and classmates.
Such a boy is like a warm sun, which can warm the people around him.
Of course, many times, our boys are not so warm-hearted, and even have to worry about us.
Don't be in too much of a hurry and exercise them slowly.
Start with simple chores.
Then, cultivate their empathy and learn to express love.
Parents have this warm heart, and one day they will reap the warm heart of their children.
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Energetic, polite, and restrained
Many people shake their heads when it comes to the issue of politeness in boys, thinking that they are naughty by nature and can't help it.
Therefore, there are many parents who have a "indulgent" mentality towards boys.
Feel that it is respecting their nature.
Indeed, we have always said to respect the nature of the boys.
But it does not mean condoning their behavior.
How so?
For example, there is a primary school outside our community, and there are many children in the community.
After school, some of the boys play soccer in the neighborhood.
Boys are active, it's in nature, and we have to respect it.
There are not enough courts in schools, and it is understandable that they practice in an empty area of the community.
That's respect.
But some boys would kick at the glass door of the house.
Not only can it cause damage to public goods, but it can also kick passers-by.
If such behavior is ignored, adults still let them release their "nature".
It's not respect, it's connivance.
Disregarding public order and public safety is not only possible to harm others, but also to oneself.
Therefore, boys must learn a certain restraint and not indulge their behavior.
I think boys must "do something and not do something".
Have the vitality of a teenager's sunshine, but also be polite.
Sometimes, when I enter the hall, I don't have my card with me.
Ringing the doorbell requires waiting.
Sometimes the children inside see it and come over to help open the door.
Sometimes when I encounter a mother who pushes a car in and out with her child in her arms, there will also be children who help block the door and let them pass first.
These little details really reflect a child's literacy.
Not only does it help others, but it also warms others.
That's why I often tell Little Fish to do what I can.
Go and help those in need.
If your boy has these moves, it's really something to be proud of.
Of course, let's not be too anxious.
Raising a boy requires more patience from parents to wait.
It's like if we plant a small tree and take care of it, it will slowly grow new shoots, and then slowly grow branches and leaves.
Eventually, it will grow into a towering tree.