Preface:
Xu Jinglei can be said to be a household name in the film and television industry.
From a young and beautiful flower to a mature and stable strong woman, she has experienced ups and downs and changes in half her life.
However, one thing has never changed, that is, her love life has been hot and chaotic, from the age of 19 to 49, she has never broken off her boyfriend.
The reason for this is related to her strict upbringing, the poor relationship between her parents, and her desire for freedom.
So, on the unpredictable emotional road, what twists and turns has Jinglei experienced? Let's dive into her private life and her free and open attitude towards love.
01
In 1978, 8-year-old Xu Jinglei lived in an ordinary working-class family in Beijing.
The father is not highly educated, and in order to make up for his regrets, he puts all his energy into raising his daughter's education.
He has set a meticulous schedule, including wake-up time, study time, bedtime, etc., and strictly stipulates what Jinglei should do every minute and second of the day.
If she slackened off or violated the schedule, her father would severely punish her with a cold face, beat her with a belt, and leave her with bruises and purple patches on her body at every turn.
In the face of her father's violence, the mother did not dare to say a word, and could only watch her daughter being abused.
Such a family environment made Jinglei lack laughter in her childhood, and her only happiness was to be able to leave her father's clutches for a short time after school.
After school, she would ride her bicycle away from home, pacing alone on the paths of the botanical garden, watching the children playing happily in the sunset, and her heart was full of envy.
She also witnessed that her parents often quarreled over trivial matters, and the relationship between the two was extremely bad, but they refused to divorce because of face problems.
Such a pair of parents pulling each other made their daughter lose any good vision for the future married life.
At the age of 18, Jing Lei was admitted to Beijing Film Academy to study acting, and when she left her suffocating home, she felt like a "wild horse out of the cage" and began to squander her youth.
She skipped class to go to the concert hall to listen to foreign rock bands, and at night she went to a bar with her friends to dance and play games until late at night.
This unbridled lifestyle is something she has never experienced in the past 18 years.
In the first year after leaving home, she lost weight one after another, and her parents' calls kept being pressed by her.
This long-lost freedom made her want to stop, for fear that it would be taken away, and she spent almost all her time squandering her youth.
At this time, 34-year-old Wang Shuo appeared.
Wang Shuo, a talented writer, was a rising star in the literary world of the 80s.
His novels depict the passion of youth, which is deeply loved by young people, and is known as "the standard-bearer of youth literature in the new era".
In his early 20s, he won a literary award for his debut novel "Transparent Carrot", which was a blockbuster.
Since then, Wang Shuo has continued to write and published a number of best-selling novels.
His works full of punk atmosphere are very much like Jing Lei in the rebellious period.
As a smash hit literary talent, Wang Shuo got married early and had children.
That day, Wang Shuo was invited to give a lecture to students at the Beijing Film Academy, and after the lecture, he happened to meet Jing Lei, who had just finished a rock class and had messy hair.
The grinning Jinglei made his eyes light up, and the two chatted about overseas rock music, one with lyrics, and the other hummed a few melodies, and hit it off.
Wang Shuo began to appear frequently at Nortel, always accurately seizing Jinglei's free time, accompanying her to skip class to go to concerts, and listening to her gush about school gossip.
Jing Lei was impressed by Wang Shuo's talent and her rebellious feelings.
She is also eager to use Wang Shuo's connections in the literary circle to soar as soon as possible and achieve fame and fortune.
So, the two came together naturally.
Wang Shuo loves Jinglei very much, gives her brand-name clothes, and drives her for a ride every weekend.
Soon he helped Jinglei play the second female lead in an urban romantic drama.
This is Jing Lei's screen debut.
In the crew, Wang Shuo carefully guided, Jing Lei became a blockbuster, and successfully transformed with her outstanding performance.
Soon, more and more opportunities found her, and she was happy to take the film, and finally realized the crossover from campus to the entertainment industry at the age of 20.
Jing Lei spent the money she earned lavishly on brand-name clothes and mobile phones, and took Wang Shuo to high-end restaurants on weekends to spend money.
Like a bird that has suddenly left its cage and has a golden nest, she excitedly squandered her newfound freedom.
Although Wang Shuo's original wife had long been aware of the ambiguous relationship between the two, in order to protect the family, she never pierced this layer of window paper.
She even persuaded herself that her husband was just dizzy for a while, and he would always change his mind.
But at such a moment, 20-year-old Jinglei suddenly came to Wang Shuo's house, pushed the door in without saying anything, and then demanded that Wang Shuo's wife divorce him immediately.
The original partner was stunned by Jing Lei's arrogance and was indignant.
She said with red eyes, "You little slut, you will never be able to take my place!" After saying that, she turned away without looking back, tears welling up in her eyes.
She couldn't bear the humiliation anymore.
Wang Shuo didn't seem to care about this at all, and still went his own way, often dating with Jing Lei to eat and watch movies, and the joy of tigers and wolves.
Finally, after many unyielding concessions, the original partner chose to leave and left this former home with his daughter.
Wang Shuo even happily said that even if he dies suddenly in the future, he will definitely leave all the inheritance to Jinglei.
His words stung the original partner deeply, and she understood that nothing could go back to the past.
However, the good times were short-lived.
Just when the two of them were fighting each other, Wang Shuo offended the people in power because of his shortcomings in a certain work.
His works were banned, his career fell into a trough, and he had no choice but to go into exile.
At this moment, the smile on Jing Lei's face disappeared.
She thought anxiously that she had only taken over the filming of a film, and she was far from being abandoned before she could get enough resources from Wang Shuo.
So, seeing that Wang Shuo was becoming more and more decadent, Jing Lei decisively chose to abandon the dying Wang Shuo and once again locked in a new target - director Zhao Baogang.
She began to stammer with Zhao Baogang, gave her own dim sum, and behaved coquettishly in front of him.
Finally, in Zhao Baogang's new drama, Jing Lei won the opportunity to be the heroine in one fell swoop with her excellent acting skills.
The continuous work smashed into Jinglei under Zhao, and she couldn't take care of Wang Shuo anymore with both fame and fortune.
The two began to quarrel over Wang Shuo's negative words.
Jing Lei resented Wang Shuo for not letting her go red and ran away, and Wang Shuo blamed Jing Lei for seeing too shallow people's hearts.
02
In 1998, 28-year-old Jing Lei performed a erotic drama with Li Yapeng in the classic idol drama "Carry on Love to the End".
She integrated the acting skills she learned at Nortel back then, and successfully created a cute and clever image of an urban white-collar worker, and soon became a household name star, winning millions of fans across the country.
As soon as the TV series was broadcast, various endorsement advertisements and film appointments followed, and her income exploded when her career reached its peak, and she truly became a noble first-line actress.
Jing Lei, who has a successful career, began to think about her next goal - to become a film director.
She is on the rise in her life, eager to move to a higher level.
So, Wang Shuo, who had not been in touch for many years, came in handy again.
Jing Lei finds Wang Shuo, who has disappeared abroad, and coaxes him with gentle words to make his screenwriting debut film.
Wang Shuo still remembered Jinglei, and immediately agreed excitedly, promising to write a sensational movie for her.
In order to curry favor with Jing Lei, Wang Shuo soon completed the script of her debut work "Me and Dad".
This is a coming-of-age story of a female director, incorporating Jinglei's relationship with her father, as well as the bits and pieces of her growth.
Jing Lei, who got the script, was excited and immediately began to prepare for the project.
03
In 2004, 34-year-old Jing Lei finally completed her debut work after all kinds of twists and turns.
This film with a personal style won the Best New Director Award at the 23rd Chinese Film Golden Rooster Awards.
Since then, Jing Lei has become a strong woman in the film industry, successfully realizing the transformation from an actor to a director.
The career has reached new heights, and all the hard work and sacrifice seems to be worth it.
Career is a woman's backing, but love is an indispensable thing in her life.
So, under the appearance of success, what is Jinglei's love life?
Unlike many actresses, Jing Lei has always been more open and bold about feelings.
As early as when she was a student at the Beijing Film Academy, she showed this personality.
At that time, she was familiar with Li Yapeng, who was also at the level of a male god, because of the role of rivalry.
Li Yapeng once said that he had a good impression of Jing Lei, but because he was afraid of his girlfriend Ke Lan, he didn't dare to confess his pursuit.
Later, Li Yapeng's friend Wang Xuebing took the initiative to attack, and the two soon had a dating scandal.
After Wang Shuo withdrew from Jinglei's life, she and Li Yapeng regained their old relationship.
But both of them have successful careers, get together less and leave more, and this relationship can only end in a haze.
"Li Yapeng and I are both people who are so focused on our careers, and in the end, we can only be good friends.
Jing Lei explained the reason why the two broke up.
The musical genius Sanbao is another legendary love of Jinglei.
Sam Bao is talented, has written classic songs for many singers, and has also been regarded by Jing Lei as a pedal to enter the music scene.
However, this relationship ended in nothing, and Sambo later married a young and beautiful female singer.
"I've always been very open to relationships, and the Three Treasures are also very chic, and in the end we both got what we wanted.
Jing Lei said with a smile.
04
In 2002, the scandal between Jing Lei, who was a smash hit, and musician Zhang Yadong was rampant.
THE TWO MADE RAPID PROGRESS, AND ZHANG YADONG DUMPED HIS GIRLFRIEND GAO YUANYUAN FOR THIS.
Just when the outside world thought that the two were about to enter the marriage hall, they suddenly announced their breakup, for unknown reasons.
Subsequently, Jing Lei and actor Huang Jue came together.
Regarding the relationship between the two, Huang Jue's friend Zhou Xun persuaded him, but in the end it had little effect.
A few years later, Jing Lei and Huang Jue also parted ways in the blink of an eye.
"I've always been very free about relationships, and I don't have to be with someone for a long time to be rich.
Jing Lei explains the ephemerality of these relationships.
In addition to celebrities, Jing Lei has also had scandals with many directors in the industry.
She had a brief relationship with Han Han and Feng Xiaogang.
In this regard, most people think that she is using her feelings to obtain resources.
And Jing Lei herself laughed it off and did not respond positively.
It wasn't until she met Huang Lixing, a wealthy businessman nearly 20 years older than her, that Jinglei's life calmed down a little.
The two have been dating for many years and are regarded as a golden boy and a girl match.
However, when asked about marriage, Jing Lei, who was already over the age of confusion, still refused with righteous words, saying that she would not get married and have children in this life.
"I myself was born into a twisted family and didn't want the tragedy to happen again.
She explained.
Today, Jinglei is 49 years old and still lives her own way.
She is still active in many works in the film and television industry, and occasionally directs some small-budget films herself.
No matter how big or small she was when she was young, even if she is no longer a popular flower, her lifestyle and emotional attitude are still free and open.
When asked if she thought about change, she said:
"I'm a wild horse, and no one can keep me in a cage for long.
My life is who I am now. ”
Perhaps deep down in her heart, the little girl who was suppressed by her father was still rebelling in search of self and freedom.
And all the choices in her life come from that desire for love and life.
Epilogue:
Time flies, time is like an arrow.
From a young girl to an elegant mature woman, Xu Jinglei's life journey has been full of ups and downs, and she has lived her own wonderful life in her own way.
Over the years, she has always maintained an open and optimistic attitude towards relationships.
Perhaps it was because she had an unhappy family that she longed for freedom even more.
She interprets the essence of "love" with practical actions and pursues the passion of life.
Life is short, and every love deserves to be remembered.
No matter where you end up, having it is the greatest happiness.
I believe that in the days to come, no matter what, Jinglei will continue to live bravely and enthusiastically as always.
Because she is the wild horse that no one can tam, because she is still the girl who is full of curiosity about love and life.