I am 53 years old this year, and it stands to reason that I have reached the age of knowing the destiny of heaven. I have experienced big and small things in my life, and it may be an exaggeration to say that I have seen through life.
But there were some experiences that did make me more and more convinced.
My parents didn't have family planning at that time, so I had more children at that time. I have six brothers and sisters, the first few are older brothers, and I am the youngest sister.
My mother was 47 years old when she gave birth to me, and my father was 46 years old.
So I was more than 20 years apart from my eldest brother and only two years from my niece.
After my eldest brother got married, when my sister-in-law first married into our family, she often took me out to play, and at that time many people thought I was her child, so I got double love from my mother and sister-in-law.
Our family style is relatively good, and when my niece is a little older, my mother often says in front of her:
"Your sister-in-law and your father are of the same level, you can't fight with her, you can't scold her, she is your elder.
If you scold your sister-in-law, it is equivalent to scolding your father, and you may also scold your grandparents, and then the gods in the sky will thunder. ”
At that time, my niece was also young, and she was completely frightened by her mother's words, which she took to heart. So, until now, my niece, who is only two years younger than me, has never scolded me, let alone beaten me.
On the contrary, I was ignorant when I was a child and often bullied my niece.
Four years later, the eldest brother and sister-in-law gave birth to another son, and because he was born in the Year of the Tiger, he was named Xiaohu.
Xiaohu is the eldest grandson of my parents, so when he was born into our family, the whole family was very happy, and my parents were so happy.
Of course, the happiest are the eldest brother and sister-in-law, they can be regarded as both children and daughters.
Xiaohu is the first boy in my family, so everyone loves him, and my parents dote on him.
After going to school, my niece and I both studied hard because my father liked children with good academic performance the most. My niece and I are also more competitive, and we can get a certificate and some prizes every semester.
But on the other hand, Xiaohu's academic performance is not so good.
Every day, he only cares about playing, and he doesn't pay attention to his studies at all, as if studying has nothing to do with him, so he ranks almost last in the class.
At that time, my father was more partial to me and my niece, and in his eyes, the two of us were proper college students.
However, my father didn't wait for me to take the college entrance examination, and in my third year of high school, my father died of illness, and I was also named Sun Shan.
Then one day, my niece and I were basking in the sun at the gate when we saw two people walking on the other side of the main road.
When they got closer, we realized that it was an eight or nine-year-old boy on crutches leading a blind and strange-looking old man.
At this time, my mother happened to walk out of the door, and when she saw the old and young, she politely said, "Mr. Kong, why are you free to come here today?" ”
I don't know this Mr. Kong, but I am very familiar with his name, he is a famous fortune teller in our ten miles and eight towns.
The mother, a warm-hearted person, went into the yard as she spoke, and took out two small stools.
Mr. Kong is very old, he looks to be seventy or eighty years old, probably because he is really tired from walking, and when he saw his mother take out a small stool, he naturally sat at the door of my house.
Seeing this, my mother quickly asked me to go back to the house and pour two glasses of water for them to drink. Seeing that his mother was so enthusiastic, Mr. Kong offered to give my mother a free calculation.
But my mother was an atheist, and I wasn't too interested in these things. At that time, my mother excused herself, saying that she didn't remember her birthday, so she didn't count.
I know the reason why my mother said this, because one of the things she often said was: If you calculate well, you don't necessarily have that fate; If you don't calculate it well, you will end up making yourself feel uncomfortable. So she never liked to count that.
The niece was very interested in this matter, and she asked her mother when her birth date was. But her mother only remembered when her niece was born, and she couldn't remember exactly when she was born.
Without the eight characters of the birthday, Mr. Kong can't be counted, the niece thinks that I am her sister-in-law, her grandmother's own daughter, and her grandmother must remember my birthday.
So, she pestered my mother to ask me about my birthday, but I didn't expect that my situation was worse than that of my niece.
At least my mother knew what day her niece was born, but for me, she completely forgot about it, saying that there were too many children, and she would not forget the specific day.
At that time, my niece and I couldn't cry and laugh angrily, but we refused to let go of this opportunity to count it for free, so we asked my mother if she knew the birthday of her eldest grandson Xiaohu?
I didn't expect my mother to say it directly, and my niece and I had an opinion at that time, saying that my mother was patriarchal.
Mr. Kong calculated it for him according to his nephew Xiaohu's birthday, and then he said something like this:
"This child has eight in his life, and he is a happy eight, so he has been blessed since he was a child, and he will be blessed to eat yellow grain before he is 20 years old in this life!"
After listening to Mr. Kong's statement, my niece and I both laughed, because the two of us know Xiaohu too well, how can we eat yellow grain rice with his grades?
When Mr. Kong saw the two of us laughing like this, he didn't show any dissatisfaction, but just said: "This child is a tiger, and he is also a tiger in the mountains, and he is very good to his family and himself." ”
When my mother heard this, she hurriedly added water to Mr. Kong.
In fact, I know that my mother just took Mr. Kong's words as a compliment, and he also felt that Mr. Kong was talking nonsense, after all, according to Xiaohu's current situation, how could he enjoy happiness in his life?
Unexpectedly, Mr. Kong's words came true within a few years.
My nephew Xiaohu was worried that he wouldn't even be able to get into high school because of his poor academic performance, so he let Xiaohu repeat a grade in his third year of junior high school.
But it was precisely because of that episode that Xiaohu actually had great luck.
In the year when Xiaohu repeated the grade, there happened to be a policy in our county at that time, as long as it was a teacher's child, 20 points could be added to the high school entrance examination!
You must know that at that time, being able to add 20 points is enough to get rid of the thousands of troops behind.
When the results came out, our family was stunned, Xiaohu's score was no more, no less, and it was exactly the score line after the extra points that year.
In this way, Xiaohu was officially admitted to Beigang Normal School.
After three years of studying, Xiaohu was directly assigned to teach in a junior high school, when he was just 19 years old, and since then he has really eaten yellow grain.
It's so strange to think about it now, and my nephew has a happy family and a successful career, and it seems that he is indeed a blessed life at the moment.
My niece and I, who my father thought were college students at the time, ended up farming at home and working everywhere.
Both of us have our own troubles and regrets about the instability of our old age. And the nephew, in a few years, will have to get a pension.