"Children can get depression too??!"
This shocking sentence came out of the mouth of a father because his child in junior high school had just been diagnosed with mild depression.
He felt extremely puzzled, since the birth of the child, he and his wife have tried their best to give the child a good living conditions. It can't be said that he is rich and expensive, but the children's requirements are met as much as possible, and they are striving for the top in their studies.
He didn't understand why the child was like a different person after entering junior high school, he didn't like to talk, he was often locked in the room alone, asked him anything, and he seemed very impatient, and he would beat himself when he lost his temper.
This reminds me of a question I saw on the Internet before: Why do children get bizarre depression?
Seeing this topic, my focus is not on depression, but on the word "bizarre".
Why depression can be called a bizarre event just shows a problem: parents are incomprehensible and ignore their children's depression. In their cognitive concept, children will not be depressed, and if they are, it is a bizarre event, which is contrary to common sense.
Children are in a period of increased and complex academic and social interactions, interpersonal relationships, and belong to the group of people who are susceptible to depression, and if they encounter emotional neglect, physical abuse, parental control, excessive reprimand, etc., they will easily develop depression.
Depression is really not that far away.
Without further ado, let's go back to this patient:
The patient told me that he didn't study well himself, that is, he was sorry for the good conditions given by his parents, so he had to work harder and be better than others.
Then I understand what is going on.
I gave him a check: his pulse was weak and weak, and his tongue coating was white and greasy.
After dialectic, write one side: make Banxia, tulip, tangerine peel, bupleurum, ginger, incense, calamus, licorice, poria, atractylodes.
The result?
Before I finished taking 14 doses of medicine, I gave feedback to the child, and eased up a little, although he still didn't speak much, but the whole person looked very comfortable.
Parents want their children to go back to school to study, saying that they can't catch up with the class, I say, the child is just a little better, you do it, the invisible pressure is coming again, if you want the child to be good, don't be so anxious, let alone force the child to do anything, otherwise no one has the ability to take care of him.
Later, I gave up this idea, and I continued to recuperate for him for a while, and the situation is very good, so far there is no emotional discomfort, and the child is willing to go back to school, and now it is very stable.
The situation of this child is obvious, his own pressure is too great, and the superior conditions given by his parents seem to have become an invisible pressure, and the mental tension is long-term, and the negative impact cannot be dissipated, and finally leads to liver stagnation.
The liver is stagnant and the spleen and soil are restrained, so the spleen transport function is impaired. If the spleen is deficient, it cannot be well infused with bujin liquid, and phlegm and dampness are endogenous. Phlegm and dampness have a characteristic when they cause diseases, that is, they blind the mind. The patient was apparently damp with phlegm, which led to depression.
Such a situation is naturally to relieve liver depression, strengthen the spleen and dispel dampness. The two things of liver depression and phlegm and dampness are solved together, and once the liver is cleared, the mind will not be blinded by phlegm and dampness, and the mind will be clear, and the mood will naturally be stable.
Whether intentional or not, the outcome of a child's depression is not something that any parent is happy to see.
Therefore, in daily life, we must be able to detect children's emotional problems in time, capture the signal of their mental "illness", and intervene as soon as possible.