preface
In this era of diversity and integration, more and more sexual minorities are beginning to stand up and express themselves bravely.
They are no longer bound by tradition, but expect to live and be accepted as they really are.
Among them, the coming out story of "Star Second Generation" Harry is a shot in the arm for all confused.
Behind the halo, Harry's childhood loneliness
On a sunny morning in 2002, in a famous hospital in Beijing, Harry the son of singer Yu Chengqing and actor Yi Nengjing was born.
The birth of this mixed-race son was supposed to bring endless happiness and joy to the star couple.
However, the good times did not last long, and less than a year after the baby was born, the couple divorced on the grounds of "incompatible personalities", splitting Harry, who was still an infant, in two.
Young Harry is forced to move between his parents, who have reformed their own families, and their love for Harry will inevitably decrease.
Harry has a gentle personality and a kind heart, never crying to fight for his own love, he can only secretly draw a little of his parents' love in the busy time of his parents.
In elementary school, Harry excelled and got A's in all subjects.
It's a pity that both parents are busy and don't have time to praise Harry's achievements.
Once the monthly exam was released, Harry happily called his father Yu Chengqing to report the results, but got the reply that he was working in the field and had no time to come over.
After hanging up the phone, Harry cried silently in the playground in disappointment.
After noticing the situation, the same table asked Harry what happened, and Harry told the same table what happened.
The same table said that his parents often need to go out to work is also helpless, so that Harry should not be too sad.
Although Harry received the attention of his classmates, the loneliness in his heart could not be calmed for a long time.
After school, Harry silently came to the runway of the playground alone, watching the clouds in the sky.
How he wished that his parents could come home often, like other classmates' parents, to be by his side.
Harry even fantasized about coming home from school one day and seeing the lights on, his father standing in the doorway greeting him with open hands, and his mother busy preparing a delicious dinner in the kitchen.
But thinking about it, such a warm family scene is still far from me.
Harry couldn't help but shed tears again.
At this time, an aunt in a white coat walked through the playground, saw Harry sitting lonely on the runway, and stepped forward with concern to ask what happened.
Harry shook his head and said that there was nothing serious, but his parents were a little sad that they couldn't come to his monthly exam release ceremony.
The aunt smiled and said, "You know, Mom and Dad love you very much, but they are too busy at work, so they can't see your report card."
But I'm sure they'll be very proud of you.
I can help you take a picture and send it to Mom and Dad so that they can share your happiness too, what do you think?"
Harry's eyes lit up after hearing this, and he quickly nodded and said yes.
The aunt helped him take a picture of the report card and send it to his parents, and soon received a reply from them, expressing great pride and happiness for Harry's excellent results.
Harry, who was praised by his parents, finally became clear.
Women's clothing appearance at high school prom
In high school, Harry's fashion talent was already on display, he liked to read fashion magazines, and often provided his mother Yi Nengjing with suitable clothing advice.
In order to develop his hobby, Harry joined the school's costume design club and won municipal competitions for the club for two consecutive years.
In his sophomore year of high school, the school held a prom, and Harry told his mother a month in advance that he wanted to attend the prom in a dress.
Yi Nengjing was silent for a moment, then nodded and said, as long as Harry is happy.
On the night of the ball, Harry appeared gracefully in the center of the dance floor in a long purple dress, dancing briskly with his dance partner.
On occasions where other boys were wearing suits, Harry's women's clothes undoubtedly attracted many surprised eyes.
But Harry didn't mind in the slightest, he happily enjoyed his moment.
After the dance, Yi Nengjing drove to pick up Harry, and the two were silent.
After getting on the car, Yi Nengjing suddenly said: "Harry, your mother will support your choice no matter what, you just have to be your most authentic self."
Hearing this, Harry leaned on his mother's shoulder with relief.
Back home, Ino carefully poured Harry a glass of hot milk, and then softly asked him how he felt at the ball.
Harry said a little shy but happy: "It feels good to dance in a dress, I feel free like never before."
Yi Nengjing nodded, indicating that she understood Harry's thoughts, and repeatedly stressed that no matter what happened, she would support Harry as always.
Early the next morning, as soon as Harry entered the classroom, he heard a group of classmates discussing his women's clothing at last night's dance, some of them saying that they couldn't accept it, and some people thought Harry was brave.
Harry felt a little apprehensive in his heart, but he also mixed his own choices.
During the class, the Chinese teacher told the story of "cicadas", saying that even if cicadas are ridiculed by everyone, they should be themselves and shine.
Harry was deeply touched when he heard this, and he was determined to be brave like a cicada and be himself, regardless of the eyes of others.
After school, Harry took the initiative to find a few classmates who were puzzled by him, carefully explained his ideas, and the classmates gradually expressed their understanding and support for him.
Came out to his mother on his 18th birthday
Time flies, and Harry is about to celebrate his 18-year-old bar mitzvah.
This day meant so much to him that he decided to officially come out to his mother on this day.
That morning, Harry carefully put on a long red slip dress, a wig and his mother's jewelry, and painted a delicate heavy makeup in the mirror.
The day he had been building up for a long time finally came, and Harry took a deep breath, pushed open the door and walked to the living room.
Yi Nengjing sat quietly on the sofa in the living room and waited all morning.
She wasn't too surprised to see Harry dressed like this, but quietly walked over and hugged her son.
"Mom, I like to wear women's clothes, that's who I am." Harry said a little sheepishly.
"Good boy, mom has long guessed that no matter what you become, mom will always love you.
Yi Nengjing said gently.
Receiving his mother's understanding and acceptance, Harry burst into tears with excitement.
He suddenly felt that the big stone that had been pressing on his heart had finally fallen to the ground.
Yi Nengjing gently wiped the tears from the corners of Harry's eyes, let him sit down at the table, and then served a well-prepared birthday breakfast.
While eating, Harry excitedly chatted with his mother about his recent thoughts on fashion, and Ino Shizune listened with relish.
After breakfast, Yi Nengjing drove Harry to a high-end shopping mall.
She asked Harry to choose the clothes, shoes, bags and cosmetics he liked according to his preferences, without limiting Harry's choices.
Harry happily bought a lot of favorite things, and he felt his mother's wholehearted support and encouragement, and his heart was full of courage.
Towards the end of the evening, Harry changed into his beloved blue evening dress and celebrated this extraordinary 18th birthday with his mother in the candlelit dining room.
This day will become the happiest and most moving time in Harry's memory.
Fly overseas to develop yourself
After graduating from high school, Yi Nengjing sent Harry to the United States to study at university, hoping that he could find himself in a more inclusive environment.
Sure enough, Harry, who came to a foreign land, completely opened his heart and no longer hid his true thoughts.
At the beginning of his freshman year, Harry chose to major in fashion design and joined the LGBT community on campus.
He has long hair, often wears a skirt to school, and wears delicate makeup.
Harry completely let himself go, posting a lot of photos on social networking sites to express his pride in his sexuality.
At first, some domestic netizens would also leave messages questioning and attacking under Harry's photos.
But Harry was unimpressed, and continued to stride forward to live his best self.
Gradually, the voices in the comment area became more inclusive and enlightened.
On campus, Harry also encountered criticism and alienation from some classmates.
Once, while eating in the cafeteria, two boys passed by Harry and whispered to him like a "sissy".
Without lifting his head, Harry gracefully sliced the food on his plate.
Seeing that Harry did not react, the two said mockingly: "There are enough homosexuals on our campus, and we don't need you, a big lady, to pollute the environment."
With that, he discarded Harry and left.
At this time, a girl with short hair walked up to sit down opposite Harry, smiled and said, "Don't pay attention to those ignorant people, you are great, our campus needs more people with personality like you."
Harry's eyes welled up with tears.
It turns out that in a foreign land, there are also people who understand and support themselves.
Harry also gradually made a group of like-minded friends on campus, who often gathered to discuss fashion and design, encouraging Harry to pursue himself.
Four years passed in a flash, and Harry not only excelled professionally, but also became increasingly unique in his personal style.
He gradually became a well-known figure in the school, and various campus magazines invited him to do exclusive interviews.
When asked about the difficulties he encountered on campus, Harry smiled and said, "I don't mind the eyes of others, I only be my truest self."
Be brave and come out publicly
Four years have passed since he last came out, and Harry thinks the time is ripe to open up about his sexuality more high-profile to society.
On the eve of an important design competition, Harry posted a set of photos of himself on social networking sites.
In the photo, he has long hair and wears a long purple dress, looking confidently and calmly into the camera, with the caption: "I am gay, I am proud of myself!"
Such a high-profile coming out immediately caused a heated discussion on the Internet.
Many people say they can't accept that men wear women's clothing.
But there are also many people who express understanding and support, thinking that being brave and being yourself is amazing.
In the face of slightly conservative skepticism, Harry did not flinch, continued to post his photos, and responded: "Only if you recognize yourself, others will more easily recognize you."
Yi Nengjing and Yu Chengqing also spoke out in support of Harry, saying that they would always support their son's decision.
With the encouragement of his parents, Harry gained confidence. He decided that while coming out, he also focused more on clothing design to prove himself with strength.
During the interview, Harry was asked if there was a lot of pressure, and he thought for a while and said: "Indeed, coming out in a high-profile manner was a difficult decision for me.
But as a human being, I am destined to face criticism from all sides, and I cannot put away my light because I am afraid of criticism.
I believe that as long as we continue to give more positive energy to the public, they will gradually accept sexual minorities.
I also hope that my deeds can encourage more confused people to be brave and be themselves. ”
In the face of some strong invective, Harry did not respond directly, but shared photos of himself participating in the LGBT parade on social platforms, calling on the public to value life and treat others with tolerance.
Gradually, the negative voices receded, more and more people supported him, and Harry became more determined to continue to shine his own light in the fashion industry.
A new star of radiant design
After coming out, Harry invested months of design incubation and finally released his latest personal brand clothing line at New York Fashion Week.
He incorporates various life experiences into his designs, creating a unique stylistic imprint.
At the press conference, Harry appeared in a lilac dress, looking calm under the magnesium light.
His designs have won praise from many fashion editors and buyers in the audience, and all of them are talked about in interviews.
The successful launch event thoroughly highlighted Harry's design talent and influence in the fashion industry.
He can finally travel lightly and meet the public's gaze with confidence.
After the press conference, the major fashion media reported the press conference in detail.
They highly appreciated the innovation and individuality in Harry's work, and predicted that the young designer would make a splash in the fashion world.
A reporter interviewed Harry and asked him if there was any pressure to face as a public figure.
Harry thought for a moment and said: "I don't pay special attention to those criticisms, fashion creation requires free and bold thinking, and if you lose creativity because of fear, the work will lose its vitality."
I only hope to inspire more people through my works and make them dare to pursue difference. ”
Since then, Harry has appeared frequently on the covers of major fashion weeks and magazines, and gradually developed into one of the most personal designers of our time.
His understanding of clothing and identity has helped countless LGBTI people find their identity.
And those who had questioned him were gradually impressed by the light he emitted.
During an interview, a reporter asked Harry what his future goals were.
Harry laughs: "I hope to start my own fashion empire, but more importantly, spread the idea of 'be yourself'."
The world also needs more confidence, self-love and inclusion, and driving this process through fashion creation is my lifelong goal. ”
A "rose boy" who once found himself in the dark finally bloomed under the fashionable sky.
What people see is no longer his orientation, but the light from the heart.
Harry's brave life practice has also infected countless confused souls, who are determined to stand up and live their truest selves like Harry.
epilogue
Harry's brave life practice has infected countless confused souls, and they are all determined to stand up and live their truest selves like Harry.
In this era of diversity and inclusiveness, I hope that more people will show their courage and live the life they want most.