After watching Wang Shiling, who stepped into Oxford with half a foot, he knew Li Xiang's wealthy education and where Hao was

Every excellent child is inseparable from the hard work, careful companionship and careful nurturing of parents.

Truly visionary parents know how to constantly cultivate themselves in order to have a positive impact on their children.

Author | Maple

Recently, there has been a wave of "I will be Wang Shiling in my next life" craze on the Internet.

The cause of the incident is three recent hot searches.

First, Li Xiang officially announced his retirement on social platforms, and his main task in the future is to devote himself to the growth of his children.

Second, in a photo posted by netizens, Li Xiang's eyes looking at his daughter Wang Shiling made people feel that pampering and appreciation were about to overflow.

Third, Wang Yuelun revealed in an interview that Wang Shiling decided to enter the art department of Oxford University.

And that's not something to say casually.

Wang Shiling's Bonneton Girls' School has an acceptance rate of 40% and a 14% acceptance rate for Oxbridge.

And she herself beat 90% of the whole school to win 670,000 scholarships some time ago.

In the email sent by the school to Li Xiang, it clearly wrote:

This year's competition was fierce, but Wang Shiling's performance was excellent. Whether it is painting works or photography talent, they all show full artistic talent.

Wang Shiling can be said to have stepped into Oxford University with half a foot.

Many people on the Internet say that Wang Shiling's excellence was smashed by Li Xiang with money.

Wang Shiling was indeed raised by wealth.

Wearing big-name clothes since childhood, using brand-name bags, sitting on Rolls-Royce, hundreds of thousands of living expenses a month...

But to understand education simply as throwing money at it would be a big mistake.

Because relying on banknote ability alone, Wang Shiling cannot be raised, wealthy education, luxury is never money.

There is a saying on the Internet that sums it up very aptly: Li Xiang is so powerful that he has supported a kingdom for his daughter.

What kind of kingdom is this?

First of all, it is the company that is never absent.

Li Xiang said in an interview: "I love her very much and don't want to miss any time with her. ”

When Wang Shiling was young, she gave up many job opportunities to leave more time for her children and family.

Last year, Wang Shiling was admitted to a British girls' school, and Li Xiang has always been by her side, although she is not good at English and can only rely on translation software, but she tries hard to adapt.

Secondly, it is firmly maintained and recognized.

Some people said that Wang Shiling was fat, and she responded: "She is not fat, she is baby fat, nutrition is the most important." ”

Some people said that Wang Shiling's life was too luxurious, and she responded: "A family like ours can afford it, and she can spend it as much as she wants." ”

In learning, she has always been the main encouragement, seeing every small improvement of her daughter, and affirming her every effort.

In life, she turned on the boasting mode, praising her daughter in public for her filial piety, sensibility, kindness, and high emotional intelligence, and praising her daughter in front of her at home for how beautiful and good she was.

Then, there are positive and stable emotions.

Once, the teacher and Li Xiang reported that Wang Shiling's homework was not handed in.

Li Xiang called to criticize Wang Shiling, but Wang Shiling hung up the phone.

Call again, refuse.

In other words, ordinary parents have long been angry and scolded their children.

But Li Xiang first reflected on himself: without asking the reason, it was wrong to criticize directly, and the tone and attitude of criticism were not good.

Then it was to analyze the reasons why my daughter was angry: my parents did not take me to Changsha, did not want me, and criticized me.

So Li Xiang patiently explained to his daughter, took the initiative to apologize, expressed love, and then talked about homework.

Later, Wang Shiling also took the initiative to admit his mistake, and the two reconciled as before.

Finally, it is cultivated with painstaking efforts.

Behind excellent children is the hard work of parents, and Wang Shiling is no exception.

In a variety show, Li Xiang disclosed Wang Shiling's amateur class schedule.

From Monday to Sunday, in addition to the compulsory cultural classes during the day, there are also a variety of extracurricular programs.

It is worth mentioning that although there are many interest classes, they all respect Wang Shiling's ideas and hobbies.

Therefore, the young Wang Shiling has achieved good results:

English pronunciation is particularly authentic, and when talking about math problems in English, it is also the first and the truth, and the logic is clear;

Calligraphy and oil painting works, frequently won awards in various calligraphy and painting exhibitions; Won a silver medal in the junior category of the chess competition; She also plays the piano well...

In addition, Li Xiang is also very keen to take his daughter to "see the world".

Since childhood, the place where Wang Shiling has checked in the most is not shopping malls or amusement parks, but museums and galleries around the world, as well as famous schools around the world.

Putting aside the cloak of wealth and status, we can see that in every step of Wang Shiling's growth, Li Xiang has invested the most time, energy, and effort.

It is also this kind of "luxury" that has created Wang Shiling, who is now full of confidence, strong in heart, outstanding in ability and broad in vision.

Li Xiang's education reminds me of a sentence: don't let children lose at the starting line.

Many times, the child's starting line is not decided by the child himself.

It is the ability and vision of parents that determine where children start running.

It is the pattern and efforts of parents that determine where and how children run.

Therefore, a really good education is not only a difference in economic strength, but more importantly, the effort parents spend on their children.

The sharing of Shenzhen teacher @Warm Meto also illustrates this very well.

In the new semester, he followed the homeroom teacher to visit nearly half of the students and found a heart-piercing truth:

The biggest difference between students living in luxury houses at home and students renting handshake buildings in urban villages is not their family background, but their parents' education methods.

We often think that most of the children of rich families are sophisticated, and children of poor families are inspirational and hardworking.

But the opposite is true.

The students in his class who have good conditions usually study very hard, and they are also improving during winter and summer vacations, not only to make up for it, but also to learn talents, participate in competitions and so on.

These children may not necessarily be top-notch in learning, but their comprehensive quality is not low, most of them are well-flawed, educated, good at expressing themselves, confident and self-disciplined.

This is because their parents not only provide educational resources, but also cultivate children's interests, habits, and moral conduct from an early age, and start to plan for their children's future at an early age.

On the other hand, most of those students from poor families have poor study habits, poor foundation, and insufficient motivation to study.

And the reason lies with the parents.

After a day of work, their parents just want to indulge, either playing mobile phones or playing cards and mahjong, they are all laissez-faire for their children, and it is difficult to give positive guidance to their children.

So in the end, you can only cultivate a copy of yourself.

Of course, there are also individual families who "go out of the cold", because their parents have worked hard to do their best and provide comprehensive spiritual support for their children.

Just like He Runqi, a liberal arts champion in Hunan Province, he came from a rural family and his parents' education level was not high.

But his parents attached great importance to education, and on weekdays, his father not only loved to buy books, but also loved to read with him.

As for the grades, he will praise him if he does well, encourage him if he fails the test, and never put too much pressure on him.

The only requirement is to have a correct attitude to study and cultivate good habits.

It was these companionships and support from his parents that made him who he was later.

So as far as education is concerned, the gap between the rich and the cold is not in the economy, but in the parents themselves.

The real starting line is not on the door, but on the parents.

So, as ordinary parents, how should we work hard to build a better future for our children?

People's Daily once divided parents into 5 levels:

The first level: willing to spend money on children.

The second level: willing to spend time for your child.

The third level: parents begin to think about the goals of education.

The fourth level: parents improve and improve themselves in order to educate their children.

Level 5: Parents do their best to support and encourage their children to become the best version of themselves, and also support their children to become their true selves by example.

It is not difficult to see that spending money on children only meets the lowest level needs of children, and wise parents know how to meet their children's high-level needs and be good guides for their children to move forward.

1. Accompany more

Where parents' time is spent, the harvest is there.

Even if you are busy with work, please take a little time to accompany your child to a meal, chat about the sky, and take a walk, so that your child can feel the strong love of his parents.

The bits and pieces that these parents have accompanied will eventually converge into a sea of stars on the road of the child's life, giving him the confidence to overcome difficulties.

2. Plan early

The love of parents and sons is far-reaching.

It is wise to educate children not only to look at the current results, but also to use the advantages of the longboard to help children find goals, stimulate potential, and pave the way for children's future.

Early educational planning can children go in the right direction.

3. Be an example

Tolstoy said: "All education, or 999 out of a thousand, comes down to example, to the upright and perfect life of the parents themselves."

Good education is all about parents pushing themselves.

When we put our own learning and growth in the first place in education, children will naturally be affected and strive to pursue a positive life.

4. Give support

There was a famous educator at the University of Oxford who divided the world's parents into two types:

The first type of parents, who treat their children as minerals, prepares a casting mold, and then the child follows the mold and becomes what the parents want.

The second type of parents, who treat their children as plants, give these plants the appropriate sunlight, moisture and soil with love and knowledge, and then care for them to grow into their own form in the wind and rain.

If we want our children to live their lives and live wonderfully, we must be "supportive parents".

Always give children embrace, respect, trust and encouragement, and achieve children's future.

There is such a saying: "Any excellent child is not a miracle born out of thin air, but a cause and effect with traces." Its cause, in the family. Its roots, in the parents. ”

Every excellent child is not an accident, but the result of the hard work of his parents.

Even if we don't have Li Xiang's net worth, we can still do it:

Appreciation of children, emphasis on education, self-reflection and continuous learning.

Give children confidence and strength, and children can sparkle as well.

Give it a thumbs up and encourage your parents.