Text/Poison Jun
In the past two days, there have been frequent reports of domestic violence in the entertainment industry.
Jiang Jinfu's domestic violence incidents continue to backfire.
On the weekend, Ma Rong came over unexpectedly to intervene.
On the morning of December 2, some media reported that Wang Baoqiang insulted Ma Rong at home.
Subsequently, a series of "domestic violence photos" of Ma Rong in the hospital were exposed.
Ma Rong was lying on the bed with obvious scars on her face. She stopped and said:
She and Wang Baoqiang had a conflict because of the child, and four or five people led by Wang Baoqiang were punched and kicked, and her mother was also beaten.
As a result, he was slapped for half a day without speaking.
In the afternoon, a video of Wang Baoqiang riding the elevator was exposed.
The video shows that on December 1, Ma Rong tried to disrupt surveillance inside the elevator. When she jumped up to disrupt the surveillance, the scissors she was carrying fell out.
If it's not a premeditated breach, why sabotage surveillance?
Why use scissors when holding your baby?
There were too many contradictions in Ma Rong's words.
According to an insider of Sohu Entertainment,
The pictures of Ma Rong's injury on the Internet were all put up by Ma Rong herself. She ran to Wang Baoqiang's house to make trouble, not only taking pictures, turning things, tearing things with scissors, insulting Wang Baoqiang's cousins, but also using scissors to scare Wang Baoqiang and his mother unconscious, and even threatening the police with broken glass. The clashes on the ground were intense.
As soon as the surveillance video came out, Ma Rong's long-planned game fell into chaos.
A few hours later, Ma Rong was blindfolded by a man in a white coat, fled in embarrassment to a Maserati parked outside the courtyard, and hurried away.
Domestic violence can never be used in drama.
China's anti-domestic violence started late, and the journey is extremely difficult.
That is why we must take it more seriously.
Exploiting public sympathy is shameful, and it also chills friends who promote China's progress against domestic violence.
Today I also want to talk about TV dramas related to domestic violence.
In the hearts of many post-90s, it is the shadow of childhood -
"Don't Talk to Strangers"
Don't reply to strangers
As we all know, this is the first TV series in China to bring domestic violence to the scene.
Many scenes recreate scenes of domestic violence very realistically.
Looking at the photos after many years is still shocking.
This TV series has subverted many people's perception of domestic violence.
The male protagonist An Jiahe is a doctor.
He was also named one of the top ten doctors in the hospital, widely respected in society, and his connections even touched government agencies.
Unlike the low-quality tough guys we remember who like to beat their wives.
Jiahe has high education, high income and high social status.
This is the so-called "elite".
And the heroine Mei Xiangting looks very beautiful.
She is a high school chemistry teacher by profession. The teaching profession is highly respected in the Asia-Pacific region.
When you live, you will provide for them with care, and when you die, you will honor them and sacrifice yourself. This is a way to respect the teacher.
The combination of doctors + teachers, in the eyes of many people, is the standard for middle-class families. Such a family would be greatly appreciated.
No one would have thought that in such a moody family, domestic violence would occur.
Was it made for a TV series?
No.
The TV series production team has done a lot of social research on domestic violence, and many characters and domestic violence incidents in the play have evidence.
Mr. Poison has also seen this news before.
A survey by the Women's Federation of a certain city in Guangdong showed this
Among the 548 domestic violence households surveyed, 111, accounting for 20.3 per cent, had a college degree or above, and 72 had government workers, accounting for 13.1 per cent.
In recent years, domestic violence has not been linked to the education, income or social status of family members.
It happens at all levels.
"Don't Talk to Strangers" has a lot of plots, all of which may reflect reality.
For example, the male protagonist An Jia and the shaping of that person.
What is a man with violent tendencies?
First, it is easy to be suspected.
A few days ago, Li Yinhe was interviewed by reporters on the issue of domestic violence and clearly pointed out that most men who commit domestic violence are criminal suspects.
She used Shakespeare's work as an example for journalists,
Othello kills his wife, Tess Dimona, only to discover that he killed her by mistake. He was led to think that his wife was having an affair and did so out of jealousy.
Jiahe of "Don't Talk to Strangers" is a person who is easily suspicious.
In the third episode, a woman is kidnapped.
Instead of comforting his rescued wife, An Jiahe suspected that his wife was having an affair with the kidnapper, so he slapped his wife.
After the beating, he knelt reverently before his wife: I was wrong, please forgive me.
Further strengthening.
In episode seven, the wife visits the student at home, but is accused by her husband of misconduct.
The wife was punched and kicked, and her ribs were broken.
Later you will find that any small thing will cause dissatisfaction in men.
His wife was suspended at the hospital, she didn't understand.
Defeated!
The phone line at home is busy, and the wife must be flirting with other men.
Strike again!
After the battle, he will definitely regret it.
As a result, there will be a lot of weird scenes in the game.
An Jiahe hugged his wife, who had just been raped, and said with a regretful face:
Does the baby hurt
Why don't you listen to me and not have to talk to that stranger?
To change or not to change? Isn't it disgusting?
However, many lawbreakers will have this mentality.
According to the U.S. Domestic Violence Hotline, on average, victims of domestic violence have to go through 7 difficult attempts before they can truly leave their abuser.
Because every period of domestic violence has an endless cycle. Friction, violence, apologies to abusers, reconciliation.
A victim of domestic violence is being interviewed. Almost everyone who hits someone apologizes, and even kneels down and slaps himself every time he hits someone.
Why zero tolerance for domestic violence?
This is because domestic violence occurs for the first time, and there must be a second and third time.
This is statistical and of universal significance.
Although there have been many voices against domestic violence in recent years, people's understanding of domestic violence is not deep.
Both sexual and cold violence are types of violence.
In recent years, many Chinese celebrities who report domestic violence have been sentenced to three self-punishments, such as Zhang Mo, who was detained for 13 days.
As for Ma Jingtao, both marriages ended in failure, and his ex-wife was beaten and sent to the hospital. However, he was never punished for his detention.
During this period, Liu Qiangdong, Gao Yunxiang, Jiang Jinfu and others were arrested for beating women overseas.
Many people lamented: It turns out that violence against women overseas is punishable by imprisonment.
Because for many years, violence between couples was considered a family dispute.
The phenomenon of beating wives and women has existed since ancient times.
Violate the law? Unheard.
In "Don't Talk to Strangers", the wife filed for divorce, and the prosecutor at the time also rejected the wife's divorce request with a conciliatory attitude.
He (An Jiahe) is willing to repent and formally apologize to you. He has a psychological shadow and needs your understanding even more.
The ribs are broken, excuse me, how are you considerate?
Many women are often rejected when they file for divorce.
Women who have suffered domestic violence have nowhere to go.
When Mr. Poison introduced "China's Anti-Domestic Violence Record" before, he introduced a female prisoner - Zhou Yula.
She is also a victim of domestic violence.
At one point, her husband beat her, broke her head and cut off two of her fingers.
She begged her neighbors around her - please call me 110 or I will be killed.
There were many onlookers, but no one stepped forward to stop it, and no one called the police.
She was then taken to the hospital covered in blood and received simple treatment.
Unexpectedly, her husband followed her.
The taxi driver took her all the way to the police station.
Zhou Yuru wanted to report the case, but when she arrived at the police station, the police's words made her feel cold - wait for your husband to hurt someone, and then report the case.
In the end, Zhou Yuru couldn't bear it and violently killed her husband.
In some women's prisons, there are many women like Zhou Yuru who have been sentenced for killing their husbands in domestic violence.
It wasn't until 2016 that China's anti-domestic violence law was introduced.
However, the implementation of the law is not yet complete.
Two days ago, Mr. Poison saw Xinhuanet's report -
Judges issue personal safety protection orders to protect victims of domestic violence. The young public official squinted at him when he served the notice of assistance in enforcement: How serious was the problem of domestic violence? Who has time to meddle in this?
There is a long misconception that domestic violence is a family matter.
Ouyang Yanwen is known as "China's No. 1 Anti-Domestic Violence Police".
He said in an interview that the police called from the police station to inquire ...
Teacher, that woman may have cheated, isn't this case a little flawed?
"If a woman has a style problem, should she be beaten?"
This made Ouyang Yanwen feel heavy.
Although he had travelled throughout the country to educate the police on combating domestic violence, there were still some difficulties in issuing protection orders.
A protective order is a wall against domestic violence. It is based on the assumption that there is a risk of domestic violence, not on the fact that domestic violence actually occurs. In practice, some courts require applicants to prove the existence of domestic violence, which virtually raises the "invisible threshold" for protection orders.
The root cause of these problems is that people's perceptions have not changed.
There are still many people in this society who turn a blind eye to domestic violence and even think that the victim has a problem.
In the past two days, Mr. Poison saw a very ironic thing.
"Don't Talk to Strangers" is a bloody drama about domestic violence.
But the mailbox of this drama is full of all kinds of statements defending domestic violence -
It wasn't because of An Jiahe that he ended up like this. It cannot be ruled out that women also have psychological problems.
Jiahe is a very poor person.
In my words, it was originally a feminist masterpiece by a feminist director who demonized men.
Men don't speak for An Jiahe?
If Xiao Nan were my wife, I would definitely beat her to death.
Women are idiots, obviously they are not enough to get men to talk, but they dare to flirt with men.
Women are dishonest and can be honest for a month after a beating.
How can you stun a person without dying?
Domestic violence is terrible, and what's worse is that people don't care about it.
In normal society, domestic violence affects everyone.
In many countries, hate speech is even criminalized.
It may only be the day that these strange IDs will be banned and most people realize that domestic violence is illegal before society begins to improve.
This article is reproduced in the public account "Poison"