Text | Wu Qingshao
The variety show "Riding the Wind 2023" Chen Jiahua Ella team Wugong painting style is not the same, other people's families are talking about competitions or friendship, but Chen Jiahua's team is sprinkling dog food on our side, among which Cai Shaofen, Chen Jiahua, and Gong Linna, who are responsible for spreading dog food with a stable marriage, and Qu Ying, who has a boyfriend but is not married, and Zhang Jiani, whose marital status is a mystery. Coincidentally, these sisters sang the same song "I Want You to Be Good" together.
The day before the fifth performance of Sister Lang 4 (that is, "Riding the Wind 2023"), when Xie Xin went to Chen Jiahua's dormitory for a late-night snack, Chen Jiahua, who was busy with hot dishes for everyone on the side, said that Cai Shaofen was a pistachio, her husband married her happy, Cai Shaofen felt that Chen Jiahua was very virtuous, and Chen's husband was also very happy.
Chen Jiahua is very direct and does not pretend to be modest: "He is quite good at picking his wife." But he's also a great guy, he's got me to be better, and I'm pretty willful sometimes. "Even if you are praised, do not forget to praise your husband, this is probably one of the codes for Chen Jiahua's marriage happiness, after all, men have a good face, which does not want his wife to praise himself more, especially outside to praise herself.
Behind Chen Jiahua's words also reflects that her husband is a relatively stable person, so he will cure his sometimes wayward wife, in which Cai Shaofen believes that one person and another person have to be completely different to get along. Chen Jiahua said: "The two of us are very complementary. "Complementarity and mutual need are also one of the reasons for Chen Jiahua's happy marriage.
And when signing in the training room of "I Want You to Be Good" (signed on the paper airplane put on when Wugong sang to express her sister's blessing), Chen Jiahua also sprinkled dog food with Cai Shaofen, and also pulled Gong Linna. Chen Jiahua asked if everyone had received love letters, and Cai Shaofen asked her if she had. Chen Jiahua said that her husband once wrote love letters to her when he was young, and later he wrote it more simply. But as long as there is a festival, he will definitely send flowers, birthday too, he will also write cards on flowers, this year Mother's Day will write three words "hard". Finally, he also lamented that modern people write less letters.
Cai Shaofen said that she can write letters, and often write, to the people she loves, like to her husband, even scolding him she can write. Unexpectedly, Chen Jiahua can also write letters, and also likes to write letters when arguing with her husband, but she calls it "text message", but this short message is not short, it is a long story, and her husband is most afraid of seeing her a large text message, and he will be very nervous when he knows that there is nothing good at a glance.
Cai Shaofen thinks it's good to write letters when couples get along, because sometimes it's difficult to express it, and it's better if you write it. Chen Jiahua also agrees, because it is too late to change the words that come out, and you will spend more time thinking about what you write when you write, and you will delete it if you think it is not appropriate to say it. When it comes to Cai Shaofen's heart, it is cool after saying this, but he regrets it when he looks at the other party, because it is just a quick tongue, but it hurts people's hearts, and this person is still his dearest and favorite person.
Cai and Chen also asked Gong Linna, who has been working as a psychotherapist, how they handled the quarrel between Gong Linna and his wife. Gong Linna said that her husband is German and can speak Chinese, but he can't read Chinese, so he can't write to communicate, can only talk and communicate, and communicate Chinese. When asked if her husband had ever written love letters to her, Gong Linna said that when she was in love, her husband wrote a poem, a very short poem, just a few sentences.
Found it? Men's "routines" are the same, when in love and at the beginning of marriage, you can write love letters, long, long love letters, but slowly the love letters will become shorter and shorter, or even disappear directly. But personally I don't think this seems to be a big deal, after all, married life is long, and even more often it is monotonous and boring, and it is unlikely that either party has been doing all kinds of romance in every possible way, unless one party has endless money, no work, and there are not many other things to deal with.
Marriage is not love, it is a dull life with each other, there will be a lot of bitterness, a lot of troubles to deal with, more directly you need to survive all kinds of economic activities, where there is so much time, energy for a lifetime like the short period of love to create romance. Many marriages eventually die because one of the parties is unwilling to accept the reality of marriage and is too pursuing long-lasting romance. In fact, the most romantic thing is to accompany each other to everything in life, and grow old together, instead of deliberately engaging in this romance like when you are in love.
Quarrels are normal in the life of husband and wife, and they occur from time to time, if there is no better way to deal with it, just blindly ask for addiction, and the marriage will also go to death. Cai Shaofen's method is still worth learning. When Cai Shaofen and his wife quarrel, they quiet each other and do not leave the place, because they will be more angry when they leave, and they will discuss the previous things after quiet. Chen Jiahua also agrees with this approach, thinking that it is best not to talk in anger. Because people are prone to losing their minds when they are angry, they can say anything, and what they say is what they say, and it is difficult to reap the water.
How can he comfort you when you are particularly tired? In the face of Gong Linna, a problem that will often be faced in husband and wife life, Chen Jiahua said - he can only tell me to come on, I will cry a little in front of him to express this. Then he can only touch me, he can't do anything for me, in fact, sometimes companionship is very important, I just want him to accompany me. Before he would analyze with me, I would be very angry and tell him, I am not your employee, you don't preach to me, I understand these truths. I just want to beg for a pat, I just want someone to touch me and appease me.
Cai Shaofen felt that it was okay not to speak during a quarrel, and she could not accept the man's preaching-style comfort. Chen Jiahua feels that when she encounters some difficulties, she doesn't need her husband to help solve the problem, "because you can't solve it", just accompany her.
I don't know how Qu Ying and Zhang Jiani feel about the dog food spilled by Chen Jiahua, Cai Shaofen and Gong Linna? Although Qu Ying has a boyfriend, she is still unmarried, and it is estimated that she is not good at saying anything about the way to get along with marriage, so she quietly listens to others. Although Zhang Jiani is married and has two sons, her marital status in recent years is like a mystery, and news about how her husband and other women are exposed from time to time, whether it is Chao Chao or Zhang Jiani herself has not responded positively to the various lace news about Chao Chao and their marital status. Anyway, when teammates talked about marriage topics, especially when they spread dog food, Zhang Jiani just listened and didn't say anything.
Of course, there are still people like Qu Ying who are not married and only in love in society now, and they don't care so much about a marriage document, but they care more about whether they are happy with each other, but I hope that Qu Ying's sister is happy. And Zhang Jiani, who is already married, hopes that those bad rumors about her marriage are false, and the "Wife's Romantic Trip" she once participated in will never become a meme for others to laugh at her, and when she talks about her marriage, she can be as happy as Chen Jiahua, Cai Shaofen, and Gong Linna.
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